Yesterday, I went to interview a preacher. He came
three hours late to his church, venue of our meeting
and I was a bit angry. But when he explained what kept
him, not only did I forgive him quickly and learned
some lessons, but I decided to share this with you so
that some of us could learn. Husbands and wives should learn how to settle their
quarrels without delay. I have seen situations where
couples allow simple disagreement to fester for days.
Husband is silently hurting, expecting the wife to speak
to him first; same for the wife, hurting and expecting
the husband to play the man. The waiting game leads from one thing to the other. If you are at this level of
matrimony, please read this. You might have a reason
to call your spouse and together take an oath that
“OUR QUARREL WOULD NOT LAST BEYOND THAT
MOMENT.” The story as told by the reverend: Husband and his wife
(his church members) had a domestic disagreement
one morning. The man said he was so bitter about it,
claiming his wife knew she was wrong but refused to
apologise. She felt it was a non-issue and the husband
should overlook easily. To say “I am sorry, darling” to her husband was difficult for her. So many people
are like that. So many wives take their husbands for
granted too much. We are humans. Blood flows in our
veins. Three days on, malice reigned in the house. The
husband said he must get that “I am sorry.” Wife
cooked, husband refused to eat. Every day he came
home with food from restaurant. He boycotted
matrimonial bed. Husband found new friends in the
children; same with wife. By the way, the children were too small to break the ice. I’ve been there before.
Thank God I am wiser now. On Sunday, last Sunday, they went to church in their
different cars but sat side by side during service,
pretending to be jolly good husband and wife. Fraud in
the house of God! May God forgive some husbands and
wives. But after service, husband went home with the
children while she waited for women’s meeting. That day, Satan decided to enter the crevice they allowed in
their home. The husband was home already. When he perfunctorily
checked his phone, his wife had called him thrice. He
disregarded calling her back. Malice. The wife drove in
some forty minutes later. He saw Usman opening the
gate for her as his phone went on ringing. He checked
it. It was his wife. She was in her car at the garage already. What is she calling me for? Foolish and
stubborn wife! He said and ignored her calls. The call
went on for a while. He ignored it as he sat with the TV. Thirty minutes later, she did not come in. Something told
him to go and check. Is she still in the car? Yes she must
be there. He called Usman, Is madam in the car? Few
minutes later, Usman rushed in, “Madam dey sleep
inside the car o!” That was when he woke up and rushed downstairs.
Asthma! Could she be having her usual attack? Could
she have forgotten her inhaler? He quickly took the inhaler and rushed downstairs.
When he got there, she was almost breathless. Usman
and husband quickly carried her to the back seat and
off he sped like a bat out of hell to the clinic nearby.
Madam was confirmed dead! If he had picked her call
early enough, probably she could have been saved. When you leave domestic disagreement to fester for
too long, it leads to greater evil. The preacher said
husband is weeping mad, blaming himself: “I killed
my wife!” Only God knows how many wives, husbands, children
have died such a needless death. Couples must
cultivate one another. No matter how angry I am with
my wife; I, in my office; she, in her shop; I call her at
least three times during the day. I call even when I
have no reason to call. All I would say is, “Where are you? Anything for your boyfriend?” I am not saying
this to impress anybody, but because it is true. Meditation: Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and
evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. -
Ephesians 4:31

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Op the story is so pathetic. But thank you for bringing this great lesson for us to learn.