Just recently I read on the internet a lovely story, Masha Allah, of a pious woman who made tawakkul on Allah subhanuhu wa ta'ala in hard times. The story has some important lessons for Muslim spouses. So here I am sharing the story with you.
By Abu Rumaisa
Like most guys at 25, I just wanted to get married even though I didn't have two pennies to rub together, times were really tough for me back then.
It's been around 6 years since I got married. My wife came from a very wealthy background masha Allah, I however did not.
My wife was very understanding with regards to this and wanted to marry me regardless. Alhumdu lillah I got married in East London at a cost of $500. My in-laws decided to boycott the wedding as it wasn't the million dollar show they dreamt about having for their little princess.
Nevertheless, we arrived back to my parents house where we stayed for the next 2 years. As I mentioned earlier, I had very little to my name, I couldn't afford a bed to sleep on, and I was stubborn to ask my parents for help.
My brother had a spare used mattress which we decided to sleep on. Their wasn't a night I wouldn't complain about the springs pressing into my back.
My wife fell pregnant shortly after marriage. The 9 months were specially hard for her as the mattress was very uncomfortable. SHe would never complain though, but I knew if it was hurting me, it was killing her. I remember close to her due date, we both couldn't sleep due to our back pain, I remember her saying, "Insha Allah after Rumaisa our situation will change. She will come with her rizq and so will her siblings...".
My sunflower Rumaisa was born and soon after my fortunes started to change literally overnight. My business started to do well. I bought a bed and then had enough money to finally move out.
A year later, Hafsah was born. Prior to her birth, I started another business, that too started to do really well.
And then 2 years later, Ibraheem was born and he too came with his rizq in the form of a 3rd business.
Why I shared this story?
Well, many atimes people forget that Allah is the one who gives rizq and his supply is unlimited, all you have to do is ask. I also wanted to point out the blessing of children; if I could I would have 4 children every 9 months! Children are an unbelieveable blessing, regardless of your situation they come with their own rizq, so don't worry about that; just keep them coming.
And finally, marrying a pious spouse makes the world of difference. My wife could have built 10 bed factories but she didn't want to live off her parents and was patient about her situation. So marry someone who loves Allah, in turn Allah will love her.
I will leave you with a verse of the Noble Quran; ponder over it:
"And whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out. And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah, then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a (decreed) extent." [65: 2-3]