Ma wife requested we go to the registry after our wedding, and begining to wonder what will have prompted that. country people make una advice me oo, lawyers what are the implications good and bad, coomment will be appreciated. thanks:

what's wrong with the registry? i thought married folks do that anyway

Not everyone.

go there mate, fear not

chipomuste:

Ma wife requested we go to the registry after our wedding, and begining to wonder what will have prompted that. country people make una advice me oo, lawyers what are the implications good and bad, coomment will be appreciated. thanks:

She's only trying to make your union legal under the civil laws of the country.

babsongudus:

go there mate, fear not

Tell him, me thinks hes starting to get cold feet!!

Pally you get hidden agenda ? If not , then go ahead, them nor dey kill person for there !

are u rich? if u are, u re in trouble. dont follow her to registery. cos if u do, she will divorce u to ve access to ur dough b wise my guy

We had to have a register office wedding before our church wedding, the church wanted to see the certificate before they could marry us. Same for other people I know. I don't believe you are legally married in Nigeria until you have done a register office wedding.

And for those that say she's after you dough, it goes both ways and more, you will not be able to enjoy the benefits of being married (if there are any in Nigeria) except it's done. The mistake a lot of our mothers did which enabled their husbands to take a younger woman to the registry and get the status of legal wife!

What are you scared of?

@poster, i think she just want to make ur marriage legal cos traditional marriage is just a ceremony nothing more and educated women will definately want to be legally married i dont see anything wrong in that.

@ poster,
so where do you want her to take you to? shrine?

chipomuste:

Ma wife requested we go to the registry after our wedding, and begining to wonder what will have prompted that. country people make una advice me oo, lawyers what are the implications good and bad, coomment will be appreciated. thanks:

Still nursing some doubts eh! You really don’t want to be committed afterall

As for the legal implications

Are much are u willing to pay. . . it isn’t gonna be free

If she doesn't take you to the registry they you are not actually married, period.

@ poster

I would suggest you find out what the registry laws are all about? Then if it has something to do with, i go chop all your life earnings if you divorce your wife (excluding children), then you want to really have a real heart to heart talk with your wife and settle some doubts. You want to search your own heart too - will you ever breakup your marriage for any reasons!

You might want to get a lawyer draft you some binding document that both of you would sign. Such document should be very fair to both parties by considering all possible conditions: if the wife messes up and wants to claim your life earnings - no no; if you messes up and tries to use magomago put her aside - no no; Lastly, in case something happens to the marriage and could not be savaged, plans should be in place to protect the children (in laws go chopulate all the earnings).

Hence, if the wife is the one with the life earning, same thing applies.

Moreover - all of these are not needed if your marriage is built on the right foundation. If not, storm go still come - may God help such then.

ur wife is a smart woman - who knows what may happen in future - you take a second wife , pass on to the great beyond , initiate a seperation. . .as far as nigerian law is concerned she did not marry you. one could even claim that your children have no rights.
unless you have some ulterior motives - find your way there

She only wants to put legal backing to her marriage. She may not mean any harm. Come to think of it wont' you rush to this same registry when you win US Visa lottery and want to emigrate with your family?. I you mean well for your marriage to her always you've got nothing to fear.

praxx:

@ poster,
so where do you want her to take you to? shrine?

LOL

your wife won chop your money, wen una divorce she go dey take 3/4 of all ur money hahahaha

Court registry is the only sanctioned form of marriage that the Country recognizes. The other ones are customary/Traditional weddings and you will be subject to customary law adjudication incase of any dispute between you 2 but a religious wedding is only ceremon an extent and places a lot of burden on you trying to prove certain things and obtain certain advantages.

So my advise is head to the registry, finalise it and if you have problems about the lifestyle and mode the marriage should take shape in, then you get a pre-nuptial agreement to clarify issues and not to scare or intimidate the other spouse.

Cheers!

I thought everybody went to the registry before the church wedding?
churches require that.
what's the poster afraid of?
Oyb answered you well

There is nothing wrong with registary, infact that is the only legaaly binding marraige, the others are mere ceremonies. Having a court weding gives you, your wife and kids the protection of the law in case of any eventualities.

there is nothing wrong in your wife taking you to the registry. She just want to be secured!
Besides she does not want you to kick her ass out of your house without nothing when she's rugged!

The guy want to know the IMPLICATION of Registry Wedding and i dont think any of you has answered him. GO STRAIGHT TO THE POINT PLS.

Ok, Implications of court wedding.
1. It is the only legally binding marraige, so it makes your marriage legal.
2. It automatically makes your wife/ husband and children in case of death automatic beneficiaries of your estate, this means if you die without a will, no relative can come and claim your property and throw your wife and chidren out
3. it makes your children friut of a legal union.
4. Church weddings, traditional weddingsn are all ceremonies and fanfare, this is the only legally recognized wedding

Most people I know do the court marriage first to be able to live together and have kids and when they get enough dollars then they have the big wedding.

Mr. poster you shouldn't be afraid unless you are not ready for marriage. Going to court also make your marriage legal which means to break it you have to have your lawyer do the paper work and if you make more money than hers. You would have to divide your assets by two. With your worthly goods remember that line in marriage? Yep. I don't even remember the rest. Women remember every line.

My thing is, if you are getting married you should know your partner very well. I mean you should know him/her more than your parents. If you don't you are joking. If you are afraid of her taking advantage of your wealth maybe you don't know her. If you know her as a gold digger and you still want to marry her, well you should know the outcome, she will dump you and run with your cash when the time comes, is just that simple.

http://www.vanguardngr.com/content/view/26992/84/

http://allafrica.com/stories/200901230322.html

"Although the 1914 and 1970 Acts do not govern marriages under Native Law
and Custom, they stipulate that persons who have contracted a marriage in accordance
with the provisions of either the 1914 or 1970 Act cannot contract a valid customary
marriage. To do so is an offence carrying a mandatory sentence of imprisonment.
Similarly, where a person is already married under Customary Law, a second marriage
under statute will be invalid and punishable by imprisonment."

Thus,technically traditional marriage is recognised.

**osisi:

I thought everybody went to the registry before the church wedding?
churches require that.
what's the poster afraid of?
Oyb answered you well

i take it all back

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tpia:

una don offend o[b]yb papa fineboy for here oh.[/b]  

There is nothing wrong in going to the registry unless u have a hidden agenda. Feal free pal.