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this is one thing i hate about Nigerians and marriage.
They just can't get their head out of their ass.
Nne, live your life. if your husband-to-be is a wimp, he can dance to their tune.
Don't let nobody take a single minute of your life.

Still try and talk it out with him. You can't have a man all to yourself. His siblings have been there before you.

Are you sure you wants to marry this man? From your tone, it's obvious something is not right.

My suggestion; put a hold to the wedding plans and sort out all underlying issues before saying i do. Whatever you r not comfortable with now should be treated asap. A broken engàgement they say is....

What nonsense implode and burn to ashes! Have you discussed your concerns and gotten your husband to see your point of view GENTLY?
If you cannot communicate effectively at this age then I think you should never get married. You seem to have a lot of pent up anger in you. Your husband to be is not a mind reader so TALK to him!
Seek a rapport with your in laws and stop sounding like an uptight lady with a tooth pick up her ass.

Your fiance isn't doing his bits.. why kind of a man allows his siblings to dictate what happens in his relationship? And to think he's on their side makes it worse, more like ganging up against you, so saddening and immature. ..

Those siblings of his, don't have their families or they just like to intrude? Anyway I blame your fiance for giving them the enablement, mtcheeeeww. ..so immature...

My dear, if you enter that family with the current situation on ground unchanged, you may not like it because they may make your life miserable. . You are preparing for your wedding, you both should be so happy and head over heels in love.. If he's behaving like this now, what happens when the challenges of marriage set in?? You really need to have a deep talk with your fiance...

You also need to check yourself because I really don't understand those qualities you mentioned like being harsh, cold et al.. You have to loosen up, life is too short..

All the best..

I don't support men but am sorry to say my lady, I sense bossy in ur post

Don't lament to us, go right on to have a talk with ur man, u scared of smth?

Thanks all. Thank you...

Since he considers their suggestions, he's essentially telling you their wants are greater than your needs. If his siblings are intruding in your relationship now and he does nothing about it, it's only going to get worse when you get married. If he can't step up and stand up for you and worse, taking their side, then you need to look before you leap.