I have a girlfriend, but she's a club girl, but now i'm married, i love seeing her around, but my husband dont like her companing with me.
He ask me to quit from her . (Pls, I need your advice)

would u like to quit from her personally?n do you consider your hubby to be a good judge of character? if you answer yes to both then let her go. i would think your marraige is worth protecting

talk about doing the balancing act

ariblaze:

talk about doing the balancing act

balancing act indeed. i had a very dear friend my mrs said she was not very comfortable having around me. part of the responsibility we owe our partners is making them comfortable in their own environment so i let him go. painful yes but how much is your relationship worth to you?

Please protect your marriage by quitting from your club girl friend.

Abeg follow the advise of your husband and let the girl go before your marriage begins to have cracks.

before the gal start having interest in your hubby, QUIT OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

i think ur marriage should come first,if ur husband dont like ur friend cos she is a club girl please quit that friendship.

Birds of the same feather flock together and your husband has every right to be worried. On the other hand, you need to realize that your husband can't dictate all your friends to you. Maybe you need to reconsider your friendship with her by not being too close to her.

Your question is very stupid because it does not take a rocket scientist to know that it could jeopardize your marriage.
You're a married woman, you're not single anymore.
The point that you're still asking us when your husband frankly told you that he doesn't like it made it more stupid.

I side with him on this one. Quit the friendship o

Would you like it if your husband hangs out with a womanizer/player?

Please do not allow anyone to come in between you and your husband.If you love having your friend around,try changing her from being a club girl but if she can't stop clubbing,protect your marriage girl.

HeatFusion, why are you always so intense with your answers coupled with insults. I noticed that you and some other females that are dearly closed to you in this nairaland uses the same approach. Is that just your style of communication or there is something else, please educate me!

You have not told us what you are doing with your club girlfriend!!!

simple logic dear

show me your friend and i will tell you who you are

Hold on one sec,
You mean if nairalanders tell you to disobey your husband you will?
He didnt tell you not to be friend to Obama's wife or Gate's wife
A club girl and you have time to think about it? ? ?
You respect your husband dontchu?

@ the poster
Wait a minute, are confusion on what to do? :oDo u know whether the presence of your dearly club girl friend is causing confusion in your husband's trouser. I guess you are sleeping, it will surprise you when you wake up to find your husband in the club with your friend.
WAAAAKKKKE UUUUPPPP OOOOOOOOOOO before you dream of second wife for your husband.

Your husband never know you up to now.He does not trust you.
Does he know your girlfriend the time both of you met eachother?

Does it means,that you have to quit every girlfriend which is not married?

Can you also forbid him not to go out with his unmarried friends.

This is what i hate in men.Telling you to forget about your best friend,because now you are a married woman.

If you really want to cheat,you can also do it,when you go alone to the supermarket,without your girlfriend.

If you love your husband,nobody can decieve you.

Sit down with your husband and talk to him.If he does not understand your feelings,he does not want you to be happy.

your hubby might be giving you an insight to the fact that he finds your girlfriend attractive but since he loves you he doesn't want to be anywhere near her because he might give in to his temptations or he feels she might corrupt you and give you silly advice and stupid ideas

dat is if u neva corrupt yourself he he he

*sighs*

what's a club girl?

your hubby might be giving you an insight to the fact that he finds your girlfriend attractive but since he loves you he doesn't want to be anywhere near her because he might give in to his temptations or he feels she might corrupt you and give you silly advice and stupid ideas

wouldnt surprise me.

I am actually taken aback at the volume of people saying dismiss the friend outright.

I do not know what you mean by club girl. If by club girl, you mean that she is a girl of loose morals (who is more or less a slut and dresses like a tart), then by all means you may do away with her if you so wish. However, if she is pretty good, but just likes having a good time, I would advise you to weigh this particular friendship means to you and think very carefully before jettisoning her. Whilst I know that this is your husband, but the mistake far too many women make is to let their husbands alienate them from their friends for one reason or the other. Your husband is your husband and should take precedence over your friends, but he should also respect that you have friends. Your friends are the people who will stand by you when you are going through difficult times (especially in your relationship and/or marriage) and believe me you do not want to go through tough times without good friends. One of my sisters just got divorced last month, and by that time she had no friend because her husband had one way or the other caused her estrangement from her friends. The period of her separation and up to the divorce was very trying for her, made worse by the fact that apart from me and my little brother, there was no one she could talk to or socialise with (as I moved out of London, it was a double blow and I had to ask a couple of my friends to go with her to parties, the theatre etc just so she won't be all lonely). She is only just re-establishing contact with some of her lost friends, but so many years have passed and with some there is the akwardness that comes sometimes from lives built apart. . . which is such a pity. Personally, I guard my friendships jealously and it must be something extraordinary that would make me give up any of my close friends especially as I have known most of them for over 15-20 years (but same applies to my friends of four or five years).

So evaluate your friendship and if you feel she is a bad friend, you know what to do. However, if you think she is a fantastic friend that impacts you positively, do not let your husband bamboozle you into destroying your friendship as that is a slippery slope you don't want to start on.

Sapphic:

I am actually taken aback at the volume of people saying dismiss the friend outright.

I do not know what you mean by club girl. If by club girl, you mean that she is a girl of loose morals (who is more or less a slut and dresses like a tart), then by all means you may do away with her if you so wish. However, if she is pretty good, but just likes having a good time, I would advise you to weigh this particular friendship means to you and think very carefully before jettisoning her.

Now I have to ask. . .what exactly is your definition of 'good time'? Using clubs as your reference point,that is.

chi-chi 34:

Your husband never know you up to now.He does not trust you.
Does he know your girlfriend the time both of you met eachother?

Does it means,that you have to quit every girlfriend which is not married?

Can you also forbid him not to go out with his unmarried friends.

This is what i hate in men.Telling you to forget about your best friend,because now you are a married woman.

If you really want to cheat,you can also do it,when you go alone to the supermarket,without your girlfriend.

If you love your husband,nobody can decieve you.

Sit down with your husband and talk to him.If he does not understand your feelings,he does not want you to be happy.

@Poster

Please do not listen to advise like these one. If trouble dey sleep, why you go wake am up. Why inviting temptation back into your life? It seems like you use to go clubbing with this your friend. And if you allow your friend tempt you back into your old ways then the fault is on you. It is wise to avoid something that can lead you astray. Your husband is not asking for too much, listen to him if you want a happy home.

Cristalz:

Now I have to ask. . .what exactly is your definition of 'good time'? Using clubs as your reference point,that is.

For me, that would be for example, go out with mates and/or your partner on a fri/sat nite after a hectic working week, go to the theatre, go partying or clubbing, get pissed, flirt a bit, dance like there is no tomorrow, laugh a lot, generally have fun. . . (but not to shag every thing in sight). Wake up on saturday or sunday with probably a hangover but nothing else.

omo oloye:

Please do not allow anyone to come in between you and your husband.If you love having your friend around,try changing her from being a club girl but if she can't stop clubbing,protect your marriage girl.

*TRUE TALK*

ah quit oh before u lose ur marriage