24 Things A Mum Teaches Her Daughter
Before Marriage
#1. My daughter, don’t cause a separation
between your man and his siblings; it could
be dangerous for you when they finally
speak with one voice.
#2. My daughter, I know that some of you girls
don’t wish to marry a man whose mother is
still alive, don’t ever think like that, if you do,
well, I think your son’s wife-to-be should start
wishing you're dead now.
#3. My daughter, listen to me, when I married
your father, he was as tiny as his salary but I
chose to grow with him and today, those cars
out there are some of the results of what we
started so little, together, and we’re proud
looking at them.
#4. My daughter, there is this thing i see
happening in your time, some of you girls
now get pregnant before the wedding day,
well, it never happened in our time because
no matter what, we never opened our laps
before the wedding.
#5. My daughter, well, yes, I once locked up the
cloth of your father because I got to my limit
of patience and that was the only thing I
could do, but one thing I haven’t said was
that we settled the issue that same day and
that was the last time I tried that.
#6. My daughter, look up there. That’s the
wedding picture of your father and I, look at
him smiling, I know you've seen it many
times but what you did not know is that your
father was angry before taking this picture, I
hope you find a man whose anger doesn't last till the next
day.
#7. My daughter, when your Father was riding
a bicycle, I was always happy to hop on it
and ride with him, not because I didn't see
those men in their little cars but because my
eyes also saw those men trekking to their
farms.
#8. My daughter, if you and your husband eat
a little food with love, you both would be
satisfied. Times are not always the same;
support him in every phase he’s passing
through.
#9. My daughter, don’t ever close your laps to
your husband in bed , the day he paid your
dowry was the day you lost your will to do
so, don’t be stiff and try to satisfy him even if
you were angry with him.
#10. My daughter, a man would respect you and
be more proud of you if you’re learned and
not totally dependent on him. Strive to make
your own money and while you're at it, be
humble.
#11. My daughter, under the cocoa tree that I
did meet with your Father was open and
good enough for our discussions, yes; it was
open and good enough if you understand
what I mean.
#12. My daughter, in our time, we had sexy legs
and firm bosoms to show our men , in fact,
we had the finest ones, yet, when we dress,
we cover those parts of our body, not
because we were not civilized as you people
would call it, but because we know that the eyes of men
are
hungry, many of them
would only come, touch and go their way.
#13. My daughter, there is this thing you girls
now practice, they say it’s feminism. Well,
you can prove to be equal to a man in the
society but please, not in your marriage
because at my old age, I don’t want to start
counting your husbands.
#14. My daughter, marriage is not a
Rehabilitation Centre, if he’s not good enough
for you before marriage, nothing he does
would be good
enough after marriage.
#15. My daughter, you can see I still wear my
night gown , yes, because to my husband;
your father, I still want to look sexy. So, take
good care of your body, look good for your
man and don’t look like a grandma after
giving birth.
#16. My daughter, I’m your mother and still, I'm
not interested in you coming to me always if
anything goes wrong with your husband.
Though nowadays I see some mothers
controlling the homes of their sons and
daughters, I would only say; shame on them!
#17. My daughter, for you to have a peaceful
home and well-trained children, have one
voice with your husband, join him to say NO
when he’s saying NO before the kids but later
when you both are alone, you can plead with
him for a YES, if not, the children will see a loophole to
misbehave, either to you or their father.
#18. My daughter, if you chose to live together
with a man that you’re yet to be married to ,
and you are complaining that he hasn't
proposed to you, oh, he already did.
Whatever he said that made you start living
with him was his proposal.
#19. My daughter, your generation does not see
any pride in been a virgin before marriage,
it’s a shame! Your father met me a virgin and
he brought more yams to my parents and up
till today, he’s still proud of me when we
discuss in that direction.
#20. My daughter, I know that no man out there
is complete, but when you are looking for
your tall, slim, fair and handsome, if he’s a
woman-beater, please, go for the short, fat,
dark and ugly that will give you the respect
you deserve as a woman.
#21. My daughter, know, learn and respect the
culture and lifestyle of whoever you chose to
marry . In some part of Africa, you knee
down to greet your man’s parents while in
some part outside Africa; you can even call
them by their first name and ask for a handshake.
Whatever
they believe in, if
you've chosen him, believe it with him also.
#22. My daughter, don’t ever try to date a
married man, whether his excuse was that he
doesn't find happiness with his wife or he
would have married you if he had met you
first, if you ever try it, I curse you already.
#23. My daughter, when I say over 52 years of
marriage , it wasn't that I did not see any
reason to leave your father, I saw a lot of
them but I bear his faults, i forgave him to
stay married.
#24. My daughter, these are part of the wisdom
i have gathered over the years. and If I had
taken my time to tell you all these, and your
marriage doesn't last like that of your father
and I, then I had wished i never gave birth to
you

True talk

I wish many moms told their daughters this and I wish many daughters listen and make use of those beautiful words of wisdom.

Some points made sense but the article lost its beauty the moment it disparaged feminism and talking about pleasing a man with sex even when angry, duh!

My daughter don't open your legs, my daughter open your legs, my daughter don't you ever close your legs again.