Subtitle: Why Women Endure Domestic Violence.




In Africa, this seems to be a norm. Many husbands live as though they've got no conscience, no heart, no nothing and it hurts.

You lay hands on your wife like she is a punching bag? Haba!

The woman is trying to make the marriage work while the man is busy sleeping around with the alibi that, "men are polygamous in nature". Well, she can't fight him physically so she stay put for the reasons I'm about to mention.



1.SURVIVAL: Fear about her own and her children’s safety if she leaves.

.2.ECONOMIC DEPENDENCE: Can she survive on one income?

3.FEAR: Of being alone, fear that she cannot cope with home and children by herself.

4.PARENTING: Wanting a father for the children.

5.RELIGION:Pressure to keep the family together.

.6.FAMILY: Extended family pressure to keep the family together.

7.LOYALTY: If he had cancer, she’d stick by him.

8.RESCUE: If she stays, she can “save” him and help him “get better.”

9.FEAR OF HIS SUICIDE: He says he’ll kill himself if she leaves.

10.DENIAL“It’s really not so bad.”

11.LOVE: She loves him, and he is quite often loving and lovable when he’s not being abusive.

12.IDENTITY:Many women feel that they need a man in order to be complete.

13.SHAME, EMBARRASSMENT AND HUMILIATION:She doesn’t want anyone to know.

14.LOW SELF-ESTEEM: After years of being criticized by her abuser, she believes that it must be her fault, she must deserve it, she’ll never find anyone better, “a little love is better than no love at all.”

15. SEX ROLE: “That’s just the way men are.”



Honestly, as I was editing this piece of article I ran into, I was moved...

Women are unique and fragile. God had to command: Do not be bitter against them.

Men and Guys, love your woman. Without them the world is boring.

Men, reconcile with your wife. Run away from that side chick. She's there to destroy the peace in your home. If you're the kind of man that discusses your wife with your family member... I pity you sha. Nothing good ever come out from that!

Love her and show it. Respect and honour her. Don't yell at her as though she has committed one crime for not adding enough sugar in your tea. Remember you once called her, "The Sugar in my tea."



In conclusion, if she chooses to stay then she has to be patient as she couples it with prayer.
If it becomes unbearable, it is expedient she is separated from him for a season.

So how should those women leave or at least cope with such abusive relationship?

Na them Sabi na!!!

they stay because they don't know that they do have options

You have summed it up already. Nothing to add.

Now you've help identify a problem.
How about the options: What should they do?

Write an article. List or give them their options.
# Or this article is as good as garri without ****

One word: dependence!

That's why!!

Aprime:
Now you've help identify a problem.
How about the options: What should they do?

Write an article. List or give them their options.
# Or this article is as good as garri without ****

Didn't you read the conclusion??

You want satisfying definition of a woman? Nah.. we women understand ourselves better ..majority of women tend to stay put on abusive affairs coz of the seed (children )..it's actually a zero tolerance if such isn't involved, finance, fear,self esteem and all what emusmith stated above is actually not true.. the dividend of marriage is actually the seed..

Mathematical:
You want satisfying definition of a woman? Nah.. we women understand ourselves better ..majority of women tend to stay put on abusive affairs coz of the seed (children )..it's actually a zero tolerance if such isn't involved, finance, fear,self esteem and all what emusmith stated above is actually not true.. the dividend of marriage is actually the seed..

Where have you been all this while ? I have been looking for you as if my life revolve around you

**No-woman-wrappering**

I have no pity whatsoever for any woman still staying with an animal. If she enjoys the violence, good luck to her. If she wants to die there more grease to her elbow. Even if you type 50reasons there will still be some eran iyas that will still stay there. More evidences abound by posters above me





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TheSonOfMark:


I know part the OP is in a bid to score brownie points from the females. Well, good luck with that.

Really? I have seen it happen and it hurts!

You're there saying "Brownie points"
When did I start caring what females or anyone think about my threads

Smh

tosyne2much:
Welcome back Emusmith

Nice write-up

Thnx bro