Hi Pals. I am Sammy aka "Samwise". Sometimes, I get dissatisfied with my accomplishments. Whenever I see myself being control like Transistor I get pushed to seek for independence. I want to be a man of my own. I am being pampered like a nursery kid. I wish to just stay away from home and not come back nor depend from them " My parent". Although, i am still in school. drop your piece of advice and possible solutions to this fight for independence.

it is not possible for any human to be totally independent.
Get use to it.




00:41:03
Thu, Apr 16, 2015

Tell me how old you are, then I will be able to advice you...


cheers

Princeojua:
Hi Pals. I am Sammy aka "Samwise". Sometimes, I get dissatisfied with my accomplishments. Whenever I see myself being control like Transistor I get pushed to seek for independence. I want to be a man of my own. I am being pampered like a nursery kid. I wish to just stay away from home and not come back nor depend from them " My parent". Although, i am still in school. drop your piece of advice and possible solutions to this fight for independence.

Accept yourself . You cannot build a
strong, independent you if you can't
live with yourself. Accept your body, your
personality, your opinions, your choices,
your preferences, and your life story. Do
not say things against yourself. Everyone
can be strong enough. Everyone has put up
with something, proving their strength. Put
behind you your mistakes and learn from
them. Make an effort to be a better you
and most importantly love yourself.
This is an important part of being
independent because accepting who
you are will keep you from trying to
act like someone else.



Believe in yourself. If you don't believe
in yourself then who else will ? We are
all different and have something unique to
say. No one can speak the words on your
lips and not everyone is going to agree
with what you say which is why it's
important for you to stand by who you are
because at the end of the day you are all
you got and if you believe in yourself that's
really all that matters. Believing in yourself
will make you trust your own decisions --
even if they completely go against someone
else's -- or even society's -- expectations.
If you don't have faith in yourself, you
will always second guess yourself and
turn to others for help every time you
have to make a decision. Step away
from that.



Accept the world. Independent people
are not vain, nor do they believe the
entire human race is cruel. Independent
people are those who see the world, with
its good and its bad, and consciously
choose to be strong for themselves and
others. You are not independent because
you do not trust anyone. You are not
independent because you think highly of
yourself. Follow this guideline: Learn to
accept the world, and decide to be strong.
Accepting the world and all of its
complications will also help you see
that there are an infinite number of
ways to live out there -- nobody is
forcing you to conform to one of
them.



Be emotionally independent . Chances
are, you depend on many people for
emotional support. It may be your parents,
a boy or girl friend, or good close friends.
Although it is possible to continue to
depend on these people for the rest of your
life, it is in your best interest to realize that
everyone in your life that you depend on
will one day no longer be around. Some will
move away, some will stop talking to you,
and they all will eventually die. The only
person that will always be with you is you.
If you depend on yourself for support, you
will never be let down.
It's okay to get attached to a few key
people in your life, but you cannot let
these people determine your level of
happiness. That's up to you.
Be self-motivated. Other people do not
have and will never have the same
vested interest in your success. Motivation
and success is a function of habit. You
must break your bad habit of
procrastination, and replace it with one of
good planning. The most successful people
in the world aren't always the brightest, or
the best looking, but no matter what other
talents or gifts they have been blessed
with, they have underpinning their self
esteem a series of victories over tasks both
large and small. This is how you learn
anything in school, gain confidence dating,
and everything else in life.
If you want to achieve a career go
it should be to please yourself, not to
please your family. If you want to get
amazing grades, then the same thing
is true.



Don't be motivated to lose weight,
publish a book, or build a house just
to impress others. Do it because you
want to drive yourself to succeed. Do
it for yourself.



Be your own hero. A role model can
help inspire you and show you how to
live your life. It's not a bad thing to find
someone you deeply admire who shares
your values. However, at the end of the
day, it's important to think of yourself as
your own role model, as a person who is
capable of doing and saying anything he or
she wants. Aim to be yourself, and be the
best you can be. If you can't look up to
yourself, you can't be independent.
Avoid idolizing any friends or
acquaintances in your social circle.
This will only make you even more
likely to forget about doing your own
thing.




Accept that life is not fair. Our parents
cared for us so much that they did
everything in their power to raise us in a
fair and just environment. The real world
does not function on that principle which is
a big problem today. The rules in the world
usually protect either the majority (which
you may not be a part of) or people with
money and power. You will be treated
badly for all sorts of unfair things: your
skin color, your intelligence, your height,
your weight, how much money you have,
your opinions, your gender, and just about
everything else that makes you who you
are. You have to be happy in spite of that.



Don't let the unfairness of the world
keep you from doing what you want
to do. Want to be a male nurse? A
female in the military? The first
person in your family to graduate
from college? Go for it instead of
convincing yourself that it's just not
possible in the world you live in today.
Stop caring about what other people
think. This is the most important
thing about being independent. If you
depend on others to tell you if your music
is cool, or if your outfit is cute, you won't
be very happy! As long as you like it -
nothing else matters! Stop worrying about
other people's judgments about your life
whether they are thinking about your
clothes, your choice of career, or your
choice of significant other. These are your
decisions, and not anyone else's.
If you always have the nagging
thought, "But what will other people
think if..." in the back of your head,
then you'll always be holding yourself
back from doing your own thing.



Don't just think that you're the best;
prove it to yourself! Your opinion
matters the most in your own motivation,
but you know when you're pulling your own
weight as to your accomplishments. It's
far easier to just start dealing with your
responsibilities knowing, with an incredib
strong faith in yourself that you can handle
what comes up because you have before,
than trying to accomplish goals because
you're all warm and fuzzy inside. Warm
and fuzzy accomplishes very little, but
neither does beating yourself up.
Get your own information. Watch
and read the news and make sure
you get it from a variety of sources. Follow
it as often as you can and always have a
goal of getting both sides of every story
before forming an opinion. You can talk to
people of a variety of backgrounds to get
more information on a relevant topic, too,
but never let other people tell you what to
think. Make a goal of reading as much as
possible, whether you're reading literature
or The New York Times. Being well-
informed will keep you from being a
follower and will lead to more independent
thought.
You don't want to be a lemming and
to believe something just because
your 50 closest Facebook friends tell
you to.


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Accept yourself . You cannot build a
strong, independent you if you can't
live with yourself. Accept your body, your
personality, your opinions, your choices,
your preferences, and your life story. Do
not say things against yourself. Everyone
can be strong enough. Everyone has put up
with something, proving their strength. Put
behind you your mistakes and learn from
them. Make an effort to be a better you
and most importantly love yourself.
This is an important part of being
independent because accepting who
you are will keep you from trying to
act like someone else.
Believe in yourself. If you don't believe
in yourself then who else will ? We are
all different and have something unique to
say. No one can speak the words on your
lips and not everyone is going to agree
with what you say which is why it's
important for you to stand by who you are
because at the end of the day you are all
you got and if you believe in yourself that's
really all that matters. Believing in yourself
will make you trust your own decisions --
even if they completely go against someone
else's -- or even society's -- expectations.
If you don't have faith in yourself, you
will always second guess yourself and
turn to others for help every time you
have to make a decision. Step away
from that.
Accept the world. Independent people
are not vain, nor do they believe the
entire human race is cruel. Independent
people are those who see the world, with
its good and its bad, and consciously
choose to be strong for themselves and
others. You are not independent because
you do not trust anyone. You are not
independent because you think highly of
yourself. Follow this guideline: Learn to
accept the world, and decide to be strong.
Accepting the world and all of its
complications will also help you see
that there are an infinite number of
ways to live out there -- nobody is
forcing you to conform to one of
them.
Be emotionally independent . Chances
are, you depend on many people for
emotional support. It may be your parents,
a boy or girl friend, or good close friends.
Although it is possible to continue to
depend on these people for the rest of your
life, it is in your best interest to realize that
everyone in your life that you depend on
will one day no longer be around. Some will
move away, some will stop talking to you,
and they all will eventually die. The only
person that will always be with you is you.
If you depend on yourself for support, you
will never be let down.
It's okay to get attached to a few key
people in your life, but you cannot let
these people determine your level of
happiness. That's up to you.
Be self-motivated. Other people do not
have and will never have the same
vested interest in your success. Motivation
and success is a function of habit. You
must break your bad habit of
procrastination, and replace it with one of
good planning. The most successful people
in the world aren't always the brightest, or
the best looking, but no matter what other
talents or gifts they have been blessed
with, they have underpinning their self
esteem a series of victories over tasks both
large and small. This is how you learn
anything in school, gain confidence dating,
and everything else in life.
If you want to achieve a career goal,
it should be to please yourself, not to
please your family. If you want to get
amazing grades, then the same thing
is true.
Don't be motivated to lose weight,
publish a book, or build a house just
to impress others. Do it because you
want to drive yourself to succeed. Do
it for yourself.
Be your own hero. A role model can
help inspire you and show you how to
live your life. It's not a bad thing to find
someone you deeply admire who shares
your values. However, at the end of the
day, it's important to think of yourself as
your own role model, as a person who is
capable of doing and saying anything he or
she wants. Aim to be yourself, and be the
best you can be. If you can't look up to
yourself, you can't be independent.
Avoid idolizing any friends or
acquaintances in your social circle.
This will only make you even more
likely to forget about doing your own
thing.
Accept that life is not fair. Our parents
cared for us so much that they did
everything in their power to raise us in a
fair and just environment. The real world
does not function on that principle which is
a big problem today. The rules in the world
usually protect either the majority (which
you may not be a part of) or people with
money and power. You will be treated
badly for all sorts of unfair things: your
skin color, your intelligence, your height,
your weight, how much money you have,
your opinions, your gender, and just about
everything else that makes you who you
are. You have to be happy in spite of that.
Don't let the unfairness of the world
keep you from doing what you want
to do. Want to be a male nurse? A
female in the military? The first
person in your family to graduate
from college? Go for it instead of
convincing yourself that it's just not
possible in the world you live in today.
Stop caring about what other people
think. This is the most important
thing about being independent. If you
depend on others to tell you if your music
is cool, or if your outfit is cute, you won't
be very happy! As long as you like it -
nothing else matters! Stop worrying about
other people's judgments about your life,
whether they are thinking about your
clothes, your choice of career, or your
choice of significant other. These are your
decisions, and not anyone else's.
If you always have the nagging
thought, "But what will other people
think if..." in the back of your head,
then you'll always be holding yourself
back from doing your own thing.
Don't just think that you're the best;
prove it to yourself! Your opinion
matters the most in your own motivation,
but you know when you're pulling your own
weight as to your accomplishments. It's
far easier to just start dealing with your
responsibilities knowing, with an incredibly
strong faith in yourself that you can handle
what comes up because you have before,
than trying to accomplish goals because
you're all warm and fuzzy inside. Warm
and fuzzy accomplishes very little, but
neither does beating yourself up.
Get your own information. Watch
and read the news and make sure
you get it from a variety of sources. Follow
it as often as you can and always have a
goal of getting both sides of every story
before forming an opinion. You can talk to
people of a variety of backgrounds to get
more information on a relevant topic, too,
but never let other people tell you what to
think. Make a goal of reading as much as
possible, whether you're reading literature
or The New York Times. Being well-
informed will keep you from being a
follower and will lead to more independent
thought.
You don't want to be a lemming and
to believe something just because
your 50 closest Facebook friends tell
you to.


Credit: Wikihow[/quote I am dumbstruck. thanks alot

blackjack21:
it is not possible for any human to be totally independent.
Get use to it.




00:41:03
Thu, Apr 16, 2015

You are a f00l

OGWILLS123:


You are a f00l

In what particular way?

You can not completely be independent. I think what you are saying is you want to be responsible for your life and taking major decisions on how your life should run. Leaving home may not be the answer though it will help.

Firstly,
What skill, talent or giftings do you possess. Start sharpening them, get some self training and personal development too. You will attract some level of independence from your parents when they see you make more sound decisions, take more risk , get good result and when they see you behave like a man.

Respect from parents are gotten when they see responsibility, accountability and personal development , these is what will lead to independence you want.

Holiness is the key to a life of peace.

blackjack21:


In what particular way?

Never mind ,
Just wanted to check if you are still
Alive �

Princeojua:
Hi Pals. I am Sammy aka "Samwise". Sometimes, I get dissatisfied with my accomplishments. Whenever I see myself being control like Transistor I get pushed to seek for independence. I want to be a man of my own. I am being pampered like a nursery kid. I wish to just stay away from home and not come back nor depend from them " My parent". Although, i am still in school. drop your piece of advice and possible solutions to this fight for independence.

First, you do not belong to your parents, you belong to God.

Secondly Independence is given by God when you have qualified for it!

OGWILLS123:


Never mind ,
Just wanted to check if you are still
Alive �

And why would that mattered to you.