Good day,
we got wedded last saturday which is two days back as virgins. I am not writing this out of regret because i have no regret. we have obeyed God to have kept ourselves and i am sure that the blessings attached to obeying God is already ours. we dated for 8 years and i am presently 30+ and she is 26+; I stated all these fact just to assure and encourage someone out there that have decided to obey God that it is possible and they aren't the only one waiting.

pls i need mature contributions. The issue now is that we know nothing about sex. I can't even spot the virginal without thorough search, i am enjoying the search sha. i am doing better than her for now because i have been reading before now, while she hasn't done much of that. I have been doing my best to pleasure her and she has been speaking in tongues that i don't understand. while for her she has not been able to connect with me.
Also my penis has not be able to penetrate her, for now it is only one finger that can go in. When i try using two she reacts and resists because of the pain it is causing her. she already have sores all around her virginal.

I want you to give your advice in two folds, one directed to me and the other directed to her. when replies starts coming in i will invite her to the page to read because she isn't happy about the fact that she is clueless.

Thanks for your contributions.

Are u for real #fake #fake #fake

it's not in anyway wrong to have married a virgin

use lubricant
and make sure she's wet
and don't be too aggressive or forceful.
use practical videos or see a doctor for advice to ease the process.


#this is why I don't pray to marry a virgin (my opinion)

Ilovelindaikeji:
Are u for real #fake #fake #fake

Too bad, a lot of persons has gotten use to the abnormal.

Dheartless:
it's not in anyway wrong to have married a virgin

use lubricant
and make sure she's wet
and don't be too aggressive or forceful.
use practical videos or see a doctor for advice to ease the process.


#this is why I don't pray to marry a virgin (my opinion)

Thanks for your contribution, we have lubricant and have been using it.

Keeping oneself before marriage is a solid foundation for trust in marriage. you can also stand on it in times of attack and difficulty to provoke the blessings and the hands of God.

Nosu:
Iam doing better than her for now because i have been reading before now, while she hasn't done much of that.

Bro, when you read, do you aroused? Do you start thinking and fantasizing/imagining how it would be? If yes, then you've committed the sin you were running from, according to what I know. Not judging you though.

As for your question - you sure bet is lubricant. You can try Olive oil. I believe you'll have it in excess (annointing things ). It does reduce the pain she'll feel.

stinggy:


Bro, when you read, do you aroused? Do you start thinking and fantasizing/imagining how it would be? If yes, then you've committed the sin you were running from, according to what I know. Not judging you though.

As for your question - you sure bet is lubricant. You can try Olive oil. I believe you'll have it in excess (annointing things ). It does reduce the pain she'll feel.

So, reading texts that evoke sequel arousal is the same as fornication? I beg to disagree with you. While reading texts that evoke sequel arousal might be a sin in itself, you cannot compare it with fornication. Sins are of different gravity.

Besides, if his intent for reading those texts was to have some knowledge of how the act is done, that is not wrong at all, provided he didn't implement the knowledge in sinful ways.

webincomeplus:


So, reading texts that evoke sequel arousal is the same as fornication? I beg to disagree with you. While reading texts that evoke sequel arousal might be a sin in itself, you cannot compare it with fornication. Sins are of different gravity.

Besides, if his intent for reading those texts was to have some knowledge of how the act is done, that is not wrong at all, provided he didn't implement the knowledge in sinful ways.

Hence I asked if he gets aroused.
Last time I read the Bible, once your mind wander around and fantasize about sex, you've committed fornication.

webincomeplus:


So, reading texts that evoke sequel arousal is the same as fornication? I beg to disagree with you. While reading texts that evoke sequel arousal might be a sin in itself, you cannot compare it with fornication. Sins are of different gravity.

Besides, if his intent for reading those texts was to have some knowledge of how the act is done, that is not wrong at all, provided he didn't implement the knowledge in sinful ways.

My dear sin is sin noting like big sin or small sin.

Turn up br0... Wat are nairalanders for if nt 2 help... I volunteer my self bro... Pick me I go teach u wella, I go help u, turn ur wify to a pro... I go fu.ckx her very well no cause 4 alarm... Message me asap her number will also do

Watch porn very well and do lots of pre-intimacy

Swegzfreak:
Turn up br0... Wat are nairalanders for if nt 2 help... I volunteer my self bro... Pick me I go teach u wella, I go help u, turn ur wify to a pro... I go fu.ckx her very well no cause 4 alarm... Message me asap her number will also do

grow up

SAMBARRY:
grow up

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You mean me or the OP? Y d fu.ckx will I tell som1 2 fu.ckxing lecture me on hw to fu.ckx my wife...ur brain aint ripe also

Swegzfreak:

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You mean me or the OP? Y d fu.ckx will I tell som1 2 fu.ckxing lecture me on hw to fu.ckx my wife...ur brain aint ripe also

grow up teenager

Your wife is just scared of the proverbial first night pain.

-Get lignocaine/xylocaine spray or gel.
-Do loads of forep!ay.
-Apply a lubricant around and in the vag!na.
-Also use a lubricant on your JT
-Add 3-5 sprays of the lignocaine into the VJ. This will sting for few seconds.
-Support her butt with a pillow by placing it beneath.
-Thrust slowly
-Go in, come out and go back in, each time deeper than the former.
-Keep at it till you are sure the "milky way" is open.

The disadvantage with this method is that she won't feel anything during the process. No pain, no pleasure. However, she is going to have a peppery sensation/pain afterwards which will last for a few hours. So ensure this is done on a weekend.

Also, do not continue using the anesthetic (lignocaine), as long term use is not advised. Once or twice will do just fine.

Goodluck.

Phema:
Your wife is just scared of the proverbial first night pain.

-Get lignocaine/xylocaine spray or gel.
-Do loads of forep!ay.
-Apply a lubricant around and in the vag!na.
-Also use a lubricant on your JT
-Add 3-5 sprays of the lignocaine into the VJ. This will sting for few seconds.
-Support her butt with a pillow by placing it beneath.
-Thrust slowly
-Go in, come out and go back in, each time deeper than the former.
-Keep at it till you are sure the "milky way" is open.

The disadvantage with this method is that she won't feel anything during the process. No pain, no pleasure. However, she is going to have a peppery sensation/pain afterwards which will last for a few hours. So ensure this is done on a weekend.

Also, do not continue using the anesthetic (lignocaine), as long term use is not advised. Once or twice will do just fine.

Goodluck.

This girl ehn. I tire for you

@ OP, Phema has said it all. Try as much as possible to be gentle with her so she wont feel too much pain. Very soon both of you will get used to it even in the dark. Its always like that at the beginning

Nosu:


Thanks for your contribution, we have lubricant and have been using it.

Keeping oneself before marriage is a solid foundation for trust in marriage. you can also stand on it in times of attack and difficulty to provoke the blessings and the hands of God.

hi dear I also got married as a virgin its nott easy she will feel lots of pain oo 4 a while just be patient wit her nd pls use as mch lubrication as possible eventuually she will start getting wet herself nd she will become a pro. Also use ur imagination those things u read put it in practise

Bibol:


This girl ehn. I tire for you

@ OP, Phema has said it all. Try as much as possible to be gentle with her so she wont feel too much pain. Very soon both of you will get used to it even in the dark. Its always like that at the beginning

Congratulations Man, Patience, Patience and Patience is all you need. You are already on the right track. You will have to communicate with her and let her know that there will be some pain. You have to arouse her alot before trying to go in(pre-intimacy for at least 15 minutes). Make sure you use lubrication. Now this is where you have to be patient, You don't have to complete the penetration at once, Go in until she can't bear the pain again, then withdraw, you can try again a day or two days later, don't be in hurry with every trial her body will loosen up a bit. You have the rest of your lives to enjoy each other. And when you are at it remind her how much you love her and care for her. Good luck and welcome to the married club. Pls no one should quote me I plan to take down this post later. The advice is for married men only.

I forgot, You have to tell her to relax, because she is anticipating the the pain she may be tightening her V. Muscle, she must relaxand take a deep breath, And whatever she does pls don't get angry or be frustrated Encourage her all the way.

yeepa

Reading dis scares d poo outta me already . Op m sorry I can't b of help 2 u,cos m also a novice wen it cms 2 dis issue. Gud luck bro