This may not be the best time for me to
write on this because of misinterpretati
ons, but I can no longer resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced by many young girls
today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a
life partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our
mothers and grandmothers, was there
really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem?
Or, maybe there were more men than
women then, or there was an adequate
corresponding numbers of both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the women
had values and were prepared to build a
home and not park into a built home.
Then, once a young man comes of age
and can at least feed himself and his
wife, he goes out in
search of a wife and the woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a
future. What am I really trying to say?
We created what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today,
the reverse is the case. Ask an average
girl to define her dream husband; you get
things like "he has to be tall, handsome,
fair, and rich, own a house at least, and
be presentable" and then she adds "God
fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around
you and the number of men that meet that
standard, and you will see the
problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my
father's house and then go and start
suffering with a man." What a wonderful
dream! What if from the beginning, you
have everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the
table turns around, then comes
suffering? Will you run away? No one
prays for suffering, but it is good to start
small and end big, than start big and end
small. The problem is that the description
majority of
girls give of their ideal man is virtually the
same. When 50 girls want the same kind
of man and the man that fits what they
want is just 1 man, and the man can only
pick one.
Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband
Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard,
due to the face of our economy to find a
man who is of marriage age who
possesses all those things these ladies
want, legally (except those involved in
Internet fraud); even the number of those
in Internet fraud is not enough to match
all those searching for already made
husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies
of substance, of good value and virtue,
who are ready to build a home with a
man who has prospects, are married and
not complaining of husband scarcity. The
easiest way to find a husband now, is to
change your view of who a husband is.
A husband is that man God made and
then saw that it may be hard for him to
really actualize his purpose for
making him, without a help mate and then
made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAMME, It is A
mission of building the family here on
earth. For those who see marriage as
a way out of poverty, it is a way into
bondage. Women are
HOME BUILDERS, not HOME
WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S
PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is
today, may only be A route to where
ALLAH has
destined him to be tomorrow. Another
truth IS that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS
TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in
ALLEVIATING "husband scarcity".
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not
saying that you should pick anyone that's
comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband
materials. What I am saying is that you
should stop
setting your standard on material
acquisitions or physical appearances.
Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A Man WHO HE IS, Is
NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW He LOOKS,
IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.
And that which he is made of is, most
times, not seen with the physical eyes,
only it's effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever
is seen is temporal and that which is not
seen is permanent.

Titchi95:
This may not be the best time for me to
write on this because of misinterpretati
ons, but I can no longer resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced by many young girls
today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a
life partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our
mothers and grandmothers, was there
really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem?
Or, maybe there were more men than
women then, or there was an adequate
corresponding numbers of both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the women
had values and were prepared to build a
home and not park into a built home.
Then, once a young man comes of age
and can at least feed himself and his
wife, he goes out in
search of a wife and the woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a
future. What am I really trying to say?
We created what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today,
the reverse is the case. Ask an average
girl to define her dream husband; you get
things like "he has to be tall, handsome,
fair, and rich, own a house at least, and
be presentable" and then she adds "God
fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around
you and the number of men that meet that
standard, and you will see the
problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my
father's house and then go and start
suffering with a man." What a wonderful
dream! What if from the beginning, you
have everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the
table turns around, then comes
suffering? Will you run away? No one
prays for suffering, but it is good to start
small and end big, than start big and end
small. The problem is that the description
majority of
girls give of their ideal man is virtually the
same. When 50 girls want the same kind
of man and the man that fits what they
want is just 1 man, and the man can only
pick one.
Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband
Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard,
due to the face of our economy to find a
man who is of marriage age who
possesses all those things these ladies
want, legally (except those involved in
Internet fraud); even the number of those
in Internet fraud is not enough to match
all those searching for already made
husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies
of substance, of good value and virtue,
who are ready to build a home with a
man who has prospects, are married and
not complaining of husband scarcity. The
easiest way to find a husband now, is to
change your view of who a husband is.
A husband is that man God made and
then saw that it may be hard for him to
really actualize his purpose for
making him, without a help mate and then
made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAMME, It is A
mission of building the family here on
earth. For those who see marriage as
a way out of poverty, it is a way into
bondage. Women are
HOME BUILDERS, not HOME
WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S
PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is
today, may only be A route to where
ALLAH has
destined him to be tomorrow. Another
truth IS that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS
TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in
ALLEVIATING "husband scarcity".
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not
saying that you should pick anyone that's
comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband
materials. What I am saying is that you
should stop
setting your standard on material
acquisitions or physical appearances.
Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A Man WHO HE IS, Is
NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW He LOOKS,
IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.
And that which he is made of is, most
times, not seen with the physical eyes,
only it's effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever
is seen is temporal and that which is not
seen is permanent.

i blame it most on the economic situation of the country