germainediva:
.......... is cheating so important that you dam all consequences .me tot its stressful,spritually grave,morally wrong,biologically dreadful.......physically,mentally and financially draining. What do you really gain? Just need a sincere answer.

germainediva:
.......... is cheating so important that you dam all consequences .me tot its stressful,spritually grave,morally wrong,biologically dreadful.......physically,mentally and financially draining. What do you really gain? Just need a sincere answer.

germainediva:
.......... is cheating so important that you dam all consequences .me tot its stressful,spritually grave,morally wrong,biologically dreadful.......physically,mentally and financially draining. What do you really gain? Just need a sincere answer.

germainediva:
.......... is cheating so important that you dam all consequences .me tot its stressful,spritually grave,morally wrong,biologically dreadful.......physically,mentally and financially draining. What do you really gain? Just need a sincere answer.

innervoice:
What consequences?

13regular:


My dear that ur partner is a horrible person! see the pain he is putting u through!!

germainediva:
.......... is cheating so important that you dam all consequences .me tot its stressful,spritually grave,morally wrong,biologically dreadful.......physically,mentally and financially draining. What do you really gain? Just need a sincere answer.

realborn:


I have only met one man in my life who has remained a virgin at 32.

Every married man I have come across will give in to having sexual intercourse with another woman who is seductively attractive, all things being equal, at standard temperature and pressure with the right ambience and environment.

Cheating on the other hand is a case of a man getting emotionally entangled with another woman to the point of intolerance for his wife. He would rather be with the new woman at all times than be with his spouse. At this point, I will say there is a severe problem. A man can only breakaway from such stronghold only after the strange woman's true colors are expressed beyond the veil and if those true attributes are glaring opposites of who she had pretended to be. More so, if he has a wife with sterling virtues, he may be led back home like a prodigal husband, but his sobriety will only last until he meets another deceptive woman who will cajole him out of the house again until the scales fall off especially when he cannot meet the demands (physical or financial) of the strange woman, then re returns home again. The cycle gets repeated until a marriage survives 40 to 50 years of wedlock.

I also consider sleeping with a spouse's family member, colleague, friends, neighbour or anyone within the spouse's radius of knowledge, cheating. This is because, the cheat and the cheating partner will tend to always discretely deceive the unknowing spouse of their amoral affairs. It is a case of direct mockery and has the most devastating effect when the secret is eventually exposed.

The root cause of cheating (not sleeping with random people) lies in the difference between expectations before marriage and expectations afterwards. It lies in change in preference before marriage and change in preference afterwards. Most guys are of the illusion that when a date is set for marriage, they will have their last dig and stay focused. Unfortunately, it is not always so. Guys do get extremely sexually bored in marriage. Natural law of diminishing returns sets in. A man's mind is programmed to flirt. Tuned to conquer, hence the toasting lines all the time. Often times, women are not to be blamed. it is just a man's stupid nature to sleep with other women or cheat (note the difference).

In some cases, a continuous nagging wife or unkind woman or vituperative woman or a narcissistic woman lays the foundation for an unrepentant cheating husband. Walahi, if such a man finds comfort outside, he would cheat with all his body, mind and soul. Except there is a financial gain, he may never care about the wife again.

In deference to sleeping with other women, it may be almost impossible to stop a man from falling for this natural evil even if he has all things perfect. A man who is exposed to the vagaries, vicissitudes and ills of life and remains steadfast and celibate before marriage with some level of relationship with God can remain same after marriage if he marries a complementing partner, that is a friend.

My final advice is for women to rise up and keep a lively home. Look good and attractive all the time but be careful not to look vain. Do dirty naughty stuffs with your husband as much as you can (dirty does not necessarily mean extremes, it could be sex on the balcony at home or hotel terrace). Be kind to everyone. Be a great mother to the kids. Adore your husband. Talk subtly to him about his amoral affairs and why he should stop.

NB:
My post-final advice, if you put into effect the recommendation above and he remains obdurate, please walk out of such marriage or shut your mind to accept the pain. Unfortunately women are not allowed the luxury to jump around as men are allowed to; this can temporarily equalize the pain but will blow up when the cheating habits of both spouses hit a confluence. Anyways, what is imperative is for everyone to be happy in life. A broken marriage is better than an abusive one!

lolaredvelvet:
@OP, Every post you've made on Nairaland is either male-bashing, complaining of something a husband has done or encouraging women to cheat

Your husband must be truly awful. From all I've seen.. your husband :
1. Ain't eating the pomegranate right
2. Doesn't wanna kiss you
3. Keeps passwords on his gadgets
4. Is probably cheating on you

lolaredvelvet:
@OP, Every post you've made on Nairaland is either male-bashing, complaining of something a husband has done or encouraging women to cheat

Your husband must be truly awful. From all I've seen.. your husband :
1. Ain't eating the pomegranate right
2. Doesn't wanna kiss you
3. Keeps passwords on his gadgets
4. Is probably cheating on you

SAMBARRY:
Open marriage has solved all this endlessly long grammar

MarvellousGod:
I really doubt if all those topics are about her.. I think she just brings random topics for discussion here.. She has multiple topics in this section and if she was to be going through all those, then she would probably be dead by now..

rawtouch:
Adventure...



And don't forget stolen meat is usually sweeter than the one you are given..

germainediva:
.......... is cheating so important irrespective whether it is from the man or the woman that you dam all consequences .me tot its stressful,spritually grave,morally wrong,biologically dreadful.......physically,mentally and financially draining. What do people who find themselves in this situation really gain? Just need a sincere answer.