i am in love with a girl who i intend to marry but the fact that when she was in university she lived with her ex for two years is a source of concern to me.i dont respect her as i should because this she did it without her parent formally handing her over to the guy as husband, the guy was on a free ride on her during those two years as she was within reach,she was sent to school to study not to live with a guy,im always feeling im with a left-over and now because we are not married  she is refusing to live with me.She said the pastor has to join us as husband and wife before such a thing can happen-what a double standard. What's your opinion please.