http://leadership.ng/features/441799/the-anatomy-of-a-big-girl
The phrase ‘Big Girl’ is trending and is becoming a popular nomenclature. But who is a ‘Big Girl’ and how does she get her flashy car and cosy house(es)? Celestine Okafor, writes the phrase ‘Big Girl’ means different things to different people. It is used to describe a class of the feminine gender. And if you are familiar with the Nigerian social circuit a decade or two ago, the term ‘Big Girl’ was not really a common expression. The popular term used to describe today’s Big Girlthen was simply ‘Senior Girl.’ But at the turn of the millennium, especially in the late 90s or early year 2000, the term had gained currency and had stuck till today.And taking a more serious look at the tag ‘Big Girl,’ one wonderswho she really is. The term simply evokes class, power, clout, fortune, independence, influence and above all, dominance. But even then, the expectations that go with it are not quite simple to pin down. The ‘Big Girl’ looks rather difficult to reach, although the classification is paradoxically very popular. On a mere simple level, and by general enlightened assumption, a ‘Big Girl’ mostly, is well educated and highly cerebral too. At the level of the professions, she is quite successful on her own merit and also on top of her career. On this basis, she is economically liberated and has the capacity to comfortably shoulder her financial responsibilities as well as thoseof her dependents.By this standard assumption too, a ‘Big Girl’ is regarded as a high net-worth individual with strings of top level contacts at the social, business, professional and government corridors. She has taste, clout, class and guts. Others may see her as one on the fast lane; very aggressive, liberated and upwardly mobile. She is seen ashighly sartorial but most often, clinical in her cross-gender relationship. The ‘Big Girl’ is urbane in most cases, full of upper class affectations and is generally known to be fiercely independent. To some ladies who ordinarily should fit into this bill, the term ‘Big Girl’ is a recognition; an elevation of a sort.The group ‘Big Girls ‘ are ubiquitous in major Nigerian bigcities like Abuja, (the Federal Capital Territory), the commercial city of Lagos, the coal city of Enugu, the garden city of Port Harcourt, the commercial city of Kano, the tin city of Jos, the regional city of Kaduna and others like Calabar and Warri among others. In these cities, the typical ‘Big Girls’ are running things and dominating affairs in their domains through influence peddling.But the ultimate questions still remain: Who indeed is a Big Girl? What qualifies a woman tobe so tagged? What are the real characteristics, the supposed attributes that make her? Is she that young ‘show-offish’ jet age school undergraduate girl who seek to be noticed courtesy of physical endowments? Is the Big Girl that skin-bleaching, mini-skirt-wearing and sophisticated-looking woman, adorning extravagant make-upsand shoulder-length Brazilian hair? Could the Big Girl be that perpetual night-clubbing girl, with a glowing cigarette in handas she pounds the high street pavements, every day and night,squaring for a kill?Is she the worldly-wise globe-trotter, who cruises in sleek top-of-the-line cars all over the city’s high streets? Probably, the Big Girl might be that rookie actress or singer whose sudden fame or public endorsement gives a false image of herself as a celebrity figure? Or is she simply the warm, elegant, skirt-suit-wearing sussie communicating in upper class English accent commonly seen in well appointed corporate offices? The appropriate description of the Big Girl may not be quite easy to pin down here.

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But even among those who should have the exact definition of the term ‘Big Girl,’ the descriptions are more varied than the unexpressed and religiously assumed expectations. To an Abuja-based insurance executive, Idongesit Etoks, a ‘Big Girl’ is a young woman, who, because of her educational background or complexity, decides to stay alone; or a woman who has children but detests staying with a man and obeys no orders from either her parents or any other person.As pedestrian as this view might appear, Aliyu Babangida, a Niger State-born commodity merchant based in Wuse Market, Abuja, offers a somewhat banal description of a Big Girl. “A Big Girl, to me, is noted for her ability to date big boys and wealthy men. She is the type seen at night clubs and the like. Whatever she wears, must be very costly and in vogue. Such Big Girls are everywhere here in Abuja, Kano, Kaduna, Lagos and other big cities. They are not after marriage or proper family life. Some of them are not really after money because they already have that. They are often girls who do not bother about marriage when they were younger, but when it is too late for them, they become desperate to get hooked to Mr Available,” Babangida claimed.However, in the words of a corporate lawyer, Hajia Zainab Bayero, “A Big Girl must, first of all, be properly educated, either as a degree holder or a polytechnic graduate. She must be a successful career lady with good reputation and defendable integrity.”According to a fast food owner based in Lokoja but who was in Abuja on a quick business trip, Kayode Ogunsola, Big Girls are usually hit singles mostly in their mid-30s and early 40s. Among them are divorcees with some claim to marital and economic independence. They live in exotic and well furnished houses and apartments; they drive flashy cars or ride in one even when they don’t have any.Ogunsola also added that Big Girls “are ladies who know whatthey want and how to get it; they do so either by hook or crook. They don’t care whose oxis gored in that process.” He argued that even in dating and mate selection, the Big Girls are equally cold-blooded in their approach. He said, “They go for much younger guys who they can control, manipulate like toy-babies and discard them at will for a better alternative. And when they go for the older ones, it must be for the sole purpose of sucking them materially with which they use to enhance their ‘big girl-ship.’ At social circles, the Big Girls are part of the crowd.”However, Big Girls could be conveniently classified into two categories: there are the family-oriented ones, with foundation in rich homes, and who only step up their effort at grossing wealth from the society. Also, there are others who acquire theBig Girl status by launching themselves from high profile prostitution to drug business and other fraudulent deals. The typical Big Girls or aspirants to that status, strive to keep up with the trends in fashion. A lot of them residing in Abuja, Lagos, Kano, Enugu and Port Harcourt, for instance, operate as government and corporate contractors and lust after multi-million hot deals that give them incredible financial leverage.They are known to own and control multi-million or billion naira or even dollar investmentsas the case may be. Some of them operate as business or investment fronts to their older rich male consorts who are either top politicians, well placed government officials, business moguls or city mandarins. In Abuja, for instance, some of the typical BigGirls are into hotel, real estate and fast food businesses. Some do not even have visible means of livelihood, but live large. Theyoften operate at dusk and retire to sleep in their cosy homes at dawn. Big Girls in this category easily keep company with top military and police officers and notable political heavy weights, just incase of trouble.In the ugly and risky game of intrigues, name-dropping, blackmail and high level treachery, they are involved. Some of them are adept at spewing lies and deceit, to suit their not-so-liberal agenda and fatal desires. There are equally arange of Big Girls with deadly capacity to make ‘fall guys’ of individuals. They are in the habit of putting people on the line, especially those who are uninitiated in their wiles or fast games. They also have men (of all categories) under their thumbs. And while such relationship lasts, they prefer to call the shots. Sometimes, their male consorts are skillfully made to come to them strictly by appointments.LEADERSHIP Weekend gatheredthat most typical Big Girls are rich, influential, and fun-loving worldly women who often enjoy the past time of flying around the global capitals and cities as often as they feel bored. And of course, money for their indulgence is certainly not the problem. They carouse in top world holiday spots like Honolulu, Hawaii and Southern France and, of course, on another person’s account even when they could afford it.As Tessy Uzoma, a typical Abuja Big Girl captures them: “Big Girls love cash you know. We like to live above our means because we have to keep up with good taste and comfort; it doesn’t matter to us how they come. A guy who is interested indating a Big Girl should be readyfor the financial implications. We are ambitious people, not necessarily hard working. To be a Big Girl, you must be confident. We simply love life’s comfort. We like to invest heavily on our body because that’s what attracts rich men to us. And a real Big Girl in our league should be educated and informed so that she does lose her deposits where and when it matters. You must know where and when to hit your target.“A good number of us are single mothers; marriage is not important to us. And if it comes the way we want it, good luck, but if not, no sweat. Nowadays, it is even becoming fashionable for some of us who care less about marriage to be both fatherand mother to our kids.”
http://leadership.ng/features/441799/the-anatomy-of-a-big-girl

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