People with long-term low self-esteem generally see the world
as a hostile place and themselves as its victim. As a result, they
feel reluctant to express and assert themselves, miss out on
experiences and opportunities, and feel helpless about changing
things. All this merely lowers their self-esteem even further,
and they end up getting caught in a downward spiral.
Thankfully, there are a number of simple things that anyone can
do to boost his or her self-esteem and, hopefully, break out of
this vicious circle. You may already be doing some of these
things, and you certainly don't need to do them all. Just do
those that you feel most comfortable with.
1. Make three lists: one of your strengths, one of your
achievements, and one of the things that you admire about
yourself. Try to get a friend or relative to help you with these
lists. Keep the lists in a safe place and read through them
regularly.
2. Think positively about yourself. Remind yourself that, despite
your problems, you are a unique, special, and valuable person,
and that you deserve to feel good about yourself. Identify and
challenge any negative thoughts that you may have about
yourself, such as ‘I am a loser’, ‘I never do anything right’, or
‘No one really likes me’.
3. Pay special attention to your personal hygiene: for example,
style your hair, trim your nails, floss your teeth.
4. Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself.
5. Eat good food as part of a healthy, balanced diet. Make meal
times a special time, even if you are eating alone. Turn off the
TV or radio, set the table, and arrange your food so that it looks
attractive on your plate.
6. Exercise regularly: go out for a brisk walk every day, and
take more vigorous exercise (exercise that makes you break into
a sweat) three times a week.
7. Ensure that you are getting enough sleep.
8. Manage your stress levels. If possible, agree with a close
friend or relative that you will take turns to massage each other
on a regular basis.
9. Make your living space clean, comfortable, and attractive.
Display items that remind you of your achievements or of the
special times and people in your life.
10. Do more of the things that you enjoy doing. Do at least one
thing that you enjoy every day, and remind yourself that you
deserve it.
11. Get involved in activities such as painting, music, poetry,
and dance. Such artistic activities enable you to express
yourself, acquire a sense of mastery, and interact positively with
others. Find a class through your local adult education service
or community centre.
12. Set yourself a challenge that you can realistically achieve,
and then go for it! For example, take up yoga, learn to sing, or
cook for a small dinner party at your appartment or house.
13. Do some of the things that you have been putting off, such
as clearing out the garden, washing the windows, or filing the
paperwork.
14. Do something nice for others. For example, strike up a
conversation with the person at the till, visit a friend who is sick,
or get involved with a local charity.
15. Get others involved: tell your friends and relatives what you
are going through and enlist their advice and support. Perhaps
they have similar problems too, in which case you might be able
to band up and form a support group.
16. Try to spend more time with those you hold near and dear.
At the same time, try to enlarge your social circle by making an
effort to meet people.
17. On the other hand, avoid people, places, and institutions
that treat you badly or that make you feel bad about yourself.
This could mean being more assertive. If assertiveness is a
problem for you, ask a healthcare professional about
assertiveness training.

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I can give these same advice to some one who wants to heal a broken heart. Its wild advice but very likely solutions.