freecocoa:
I find it unsettling that many don't see anything wrong in that question. How can one be in competition with her child? That's kinda crazy.

it would even make me happy to see my man devote himself like that our kid. That way even if I'm not there, I'm sure they are his priority.

Put it down to immaturity. The lady doesn't know that's how she should be loving the kid too now.

cococandy:
it would even make me happy to see my man devote himself like that our kid. That way even if I'm not there, I'm sure they are his priority.

Put it down to immaturity. The lady doesn't know that's how she should be loving the kid too now.

I don't think the lady means it the way you and freecocoa are seeing it.
I don't think it's envy or bitterness.I think she's just in a subtle way saying her hubby seems to be diverting too much attention to the daughter and not giving her enough.

cococandy:
it would even make me happy to see my man devote himself like that our kid. That way even if I'm not there, I'm sure they are his priority.

Put it down to immaturity. The lady doesn't know that's how she should be loving the kid too now.

It is actually a valid concern and I don't think the lady is being immature. You can be the best mother in the world but a lousy wife and vice versa. Basically she wants validation that she is the number One priority in her husband's life. Children should never come first before your spouse even though we as Africans tend to think that children should come first.

thorpido:
I don't think the lady means it the way you and freecocoa are seeing it.
I don't think it's envy or bitterness.I think she's just in a subtle way saying her hubby seems to be diverting too much attention to the daughter and not giving her enough.

You don't have to use your child to appear subtle or pass a message across, haba.
It's just petty.

Stillfire:


You don't have to use your child to appear subtle or pass a message across, haba.
It's just petty.

Well maybe petty is the word but I don't think it's envy or any form of bitterness.

Those who see nothing wrong with OP's wife question should check themselves. What nonsense!!! > >

EXACTLY what answer was she expecting? Yes? no? If it were the stepmom then i would pardon her to an article xtent. But think she is d biological mum and asking such asinine question is d height of it!! Nansense!! >

OP tried to have diplomatically addressed d issue. If Na me? Ha gobe. . .!

Feranchek:
Hehehehehe..... 2go love

This one Na WhatsApp love o

sevule:


It is actually a valid concern and I don't think the lady is being immature. You can be the best mother in the world but a lousy wife and vice versa. Basically she wants validation that she is the number One priority in her husband's life. Children should never come first before your spouse even though we as Africans tend to think that children should come first.

mmm ok

thorpido:
I don't think the lady means it the way you and freecocoa are seeing it.
I don't think it's envy or bitterness.I think she's just in a subtle way saying her hubby seems to be diverting too much attention to the daughter and not giving her enough.

Just like stillfire said, you don't use your child as a bargaining chip, believe me, that's not a question a parent should ask.

It's just like the other thread, where a lady was said to have asked who her fiance loves more, between her and his family, I mean, how does this sound?

That question is bred from jealousy/insecurity.

lonelydora:


I hope you are not my friend's husband because my friend told me her husband loves her daughter more than her and that she wants to put the question to him.

Do you reside in Lagos?

Question!!!!
Rhetorical question!!
Ask ur friend if she has a daughter called tolu!!

tolu4you:
I had this chatting with my woman yesterday. She asked me if i love my daughter more? Fellow nairalander, anything wrong with the question? Coz the question dey somehow.
How on earth asking such a question from your husband if he love his child more than you.


CC : lalasticlala

There is nothing wrong with the question.

You chose and married your wife and not your daughter.

As your daughter is young, you would definitely give her more attention but your wife should never never doubt your love for her/her position in your heart.

In another 9yrrs, your daughter is going to start flying and you both will be left alone.

As you make your bed now, you lie on it in future.

yorke1:
Are you sure the woman in question is your wife?

Very strange question for a mum to ask.

LewsTherin:
I don't know about you. But I cannot love my wife and daughter equally. I love them differently. They mean different things to me. Both of them have 100% of my heart. But different sections of my heart.

That's just it

favoured234:
Life is political..
Tell her you love her more...
Nobody will die and the baby wont even know, even if she knows she wont care...
Case settled..

So you get many sense like this?

wait until you have a son, then you will understand her feelings! it's called Oedipus complex in psychology! tell her often how much you love her and don't stop dotting on your girl child!

southernbelle:
@op, is she the birth-mother or the stepmother of the child? if she's the birth-mother, i see no reason why she should see your daughter as a rival (sorry to put it that way but that's how it seems to me).

smh. you've obviously never been married to say you see no reason. it's more common than a bird poop on a windshield.