Good day nairalanders, I had to hide behind a new moniker to post this for security reasons, pardon me please.

I've been married for five years and blessed with three great kids, 2 boys and a girl. My husband and I believed that our third child will be our last so we can take proper care of them in terms of quality education and other basic things of life. We both work and earn well, to an extent we are comfortable.

I got the shocker of my life two days ago when my PT test came out positive. I do not know how or when it happened, I have been very careful with my body system and DH cooperates very well, we have never had any issues with family planning, all our kids were well spaced, but this came as a very big shock to us.

Since then I've been so depressed and unhappy because this is not what I want or planned for, I have cried and cried and cried, I don't know what to do. Please don't get me wrong, children are blessings from God, I really appreciate that, but the timing for me is wrong. Right now I cannot do otherwise.

My biggest challenge is how to pull thru, how to carry the baby to term. Ever since I had my third child I've been battling severe waist pain, for which I've taken all manner of medication yet no relief. DH has been encouraging me, promising support and all that (though initially he didn't find the news funny), but that is the much he can do. The whole burden still falls on me.

Right now am frustrated, depressed, very unhappy because i know the goals I've set for my self. But with another baby on the way its like taking three steps backward and its really killing me.

Please words of encouragement, support and healing plus prayers is what I need from you my fellow Nlanders.

God bless you all.

Pkele. Just be strong

It is well with u ma'am. The Lord is ur strength, so put ur trust in Him

sister,I understand you perfectly.But pls remember women who don't have this opportunity.This child loved you first and wants to be in your warm embrace against all precautions you have taken.My dear pls the Lord is your strength,take courage from the list of women who are trying to conceive and remember to tell God that this is your last and he should give to others.Pls start loving that child now pls.This pregnancy may even be your healing ticket to that waist pain.#myhumbleopinion

God has reasons for everything. keep calm it will be fn. The Lord is ur strength.

Don't u know about FP

Different types based on ur body suitability
Male/ female


Pills
Injection
IUCD
Implanon

Just to name a few

It's better than the cyclic /calender mtd

Thank you so much ladies. Your words are a soothing balm to my nerves. Bless you.

hotterthanfire:
Good day nairalanders, I had to hide behind a new moniker to post this for security reasons, pardon me please.

I've been married for five years and blessed with three great kids, 2 boys and a girl. My husband and I believed that our third child will be our last so we can take proper care of them in terms of quality education and other basic things of life. We both work and earn well, to an extent we are comfortable.

I got the shocker of my life two days ago when my PT test came out positive. I do not know how or when it happened, I have been very careful with my body system and DH cooperates very well, we have never had any issues with family planning, all our kids were well spaced, but this came as a very big shock to us.

Since then I've been so depressed and unhappy because this is not what I want or planned for, I have cried and cried and cried, I don't know what to do. Please don't get me wrong, children are blessings from God, I really appreciate that, but the timing for me is wrong. Right now I cannot do otherwise.

My biggest challenge is how to pull thru, how to carry the baby to term. Ever since I had my third child I've been battling severe waist pain, for which I've taken all manner of medication yet no relief. DH has been encouraging me, promising support and all that (though initially he didn't find the news funny), but that is the much he can do. The whole burden still falls on me.

Right now am frustrated, depressed, very unhappy because i know the goals I've set for my self. But with another baby on the way its like taking three steps backward and its really killing me.

Please words of encouragement, support and healing plus prayers is what I need from you my fellow Nlanders.

God bless you all.

my love I understand how u feel just endure this may just be the greastest child u ever have and by the way 4kidss nor bad @ all na don't worry abt resources I assure u doors will open for u nd hubby let's toast tto de new angel CHEERSs

Ok let me understand this.... What exactly do you want?

Do you want some abortion advise or just plain old "God is in control" advise cause to me from what you've listed abortion is the answer if I were in your shoes. But first how far off in pregnancy are you before you consider that option.

And biko why is it that inspite of all the education we got on biology in secondary school and then healthcare adverts on Tv most of us women still prefer the ancient method of contraception kwanu?
Someone just listed the options
Condom
Iud
Pills
Injection.
Aren't you educated?
Am so tired of people addicted to putting burdens on their head so they can feel pitied.

Blade21:
my love I understand how u feel just endure this may just be the greastest child u ever have and by the way 4kidss nor bad @ all na don't worry abt resources I assure u doors will open for u nd hubby let's toast tto de new angel CHEERSs

Thanks dear. God bless your kind heart.

K9blunt:
Ok let me understand this.... What exactly do you want?

Do you want some abortion advise or just plain old "God is in control" advise cause to me from what you've listed abortion is the answer if I were in your shoes. But first how far off in pregnancy are you before you consider that option.

And biko why is it that inspite of all the education we got on biology in secondary school and then healthcare adverts on Tv most of us women still prefer the ancient method of contraception kwanu?
Someone just listed the options
Condom
Iud
Pills
Injection.
Aren't you educated?
Am so tired of people addicted to putting burdens on their head so they can feel pitied.

@ DEXTROVERT too, Thanks dear for the advice and 'insult'. I didn't put myself in this condition to get pity from anybody. I may not be as educated as you but am educated enough to be running a Ph.d programme. Am not a dunce.

I believe as a human being, not everything you planned worked out for you perfectly as you planned it.

We are humans that is why we make mistakes.

By the way am not contemplating abortion!

Thank you and remain blessed.

hotterthanfire:


@ DEXTROVERT too, Thanks dear for the advice and 'insult'. I didn't put myself in this condition to get pity from anybody. I may not be as educated as you but am educated enough to be running a Ph.d programme. Am not a dunce.

I believe as a human being, not everything you planned worked out for you perfectly as you planned it.

We are humans that is why we make mistakes.

By the way am not contemplating abortion!

Thank you and remain blessed.

I didn't mean any insult I was just trying to know if u don't know FP methods or u know but need some clearities which I can offer
Apologies Mam

Hahahahaha, abeg make I laugh small!!!!!



Sis, please get yourself out of that depressed mood. After this baby get a rock solid water tight contraceptive to avoid stories that touch.

K9blunt:
Ok let me understand this.... What exactly do you want?

Do you want some abortion advise or just plain old "God is in control" advise cause to me from what you've listed abortion is the answer if I were in your shoes. But first how far off in pregnancy are you before you consider that option.

And biko why is it that inspite of all the education we got on biology in secondary school and then healthcare adverts on Tv most of us women still prefer the ancient method of contraception kwanu?
Someone just listed the options
Condom
Iud
Pills
Injection.
Aren't you educated?
Am so tired of people addicted to putting burdens on their head so they can feel pitied.

Is it that you don't know that these contraceptive methods you mentioned can fail? Mistakes happen that's why it's a mistake. She never mentioned abortion, all she needs is words of encouragement.
Op, it has happened so just try and look at the brighter side of life, may be your greatest child, have heard testimonies like that. Pls 6 weeks after you birth this child, go for a more reliable contraceptive and still follow safe n unsafe period o! All the best

havent u and ur husband heard of the word family planning? Anyways am against abortion so forget it, jux go see a specialist. Or try the traditional healing method.

FP also fails!yes it failed me.its not 100% reliable.make enquires. n for those of u that wud say i didnt follow d instructions,i did.Take k of urself maam.God is in control of ur family n he knows what he is doing.cheers

soonest:

Is it that you don't know that these contraceptive methods you mentioned can fail? Mistakes happen that's why it's a mistake. She never mentioned abortion, all she needs is words of encouragement.
Op, it has happened so just try and look at the brighter side of life, may be your greatest child, have heard testimonies like that. Pls 6 weeks after you birth this child, go for a more reliable contraceptive and still follow safe n unsafe period o! All the best

Yes am aware but the op didnt mention it.

Thank you @soonest and estheremma. God bless you.

You will have to come to terms with this your life Given. Yield and accept this. Look to the brighter side. Most times, we humans suffer based on perception. Be positive and work on your mind that this pregnancy is gonna be different. Be still some messages is being passed across to you.

Or what if those dreams you've laid down wasn't for your own greater good?I've come to appreciate that the best things in life are hidden and disguised while some are bitter.

Nickname that sweet soul GameChanger when he or she is born. He or she will teach you stuffs beyond human calculations. Be positive for you already have a hubby that is supporting you. You either elect to make this an easy sweet 9months or.......? The choice is always yours. All the very best.

@hotter than fire, i decree twins fo this one o!take it take it take it!twins twins twins !

[quote author=Chubhie post=36711619]You will have to come to terms with this your life Given. Yield and accept this. Look to the brighter side. Most times, we humans suffer based on perception. Be positive and work on your mind that this pregnancy is gonna be different. Be still some messages is being passed across to you.

Or what if those dreams you've laid down wasn't for your own greater good?I've come to appreciate that the best things in life are hidden and disguised while some are bitter.

Thank you. This truly lifts my soul. God bless you real good.

gidjah:
@hotter than fire, i decree twins fo this one o!take it take it take it!twins twins twins !

Hmmmm.... Thank you

ur hubby is being supportive, no need to worry. why wouldn't he be ? u made the baby together. figure out how to manage the waist pain. cheer up, babies are blessings

Your baby will be great! God bless him or her(hugs)

Man proposes God disposes. So much 4 being a woman.

@hotterthanfire, I and my wife just discovered last week that she is pregnant. Our second and last child will be seven months old next week!!


This crisis is real not only for women, but for men as well. The added financial and emotional responsibilities of another child require adjustment for the entire family. My wife wanted to feel bad just like you (we are based in the UK) but I reminded her, that some blessings come so suddenly when you never expected them.

I STRONGLY BELIEVE that Love and joy are waiting for us at the other end (after 9 months) especially if you have ever prayed that the will of God be done in your life. Surprise pregnancy may be a surprise to you but no child is a surprise to God.

David - the son of Jesse, was the last of his fathers children. He said, I was sharpen in iniquity and in sin did my mother conceive me (Psalm 51 v 5). This may also mean that, he was an unwanted child who later became the Prophet King and the sweet Psalmist of Israel. I speak prophetically by the grace of God; this Child is anointed and is a child of promise. Rejoice & Be Glad!!

Gazilion

Captainswag225:
havent u and ur husband heard of the word family planning? Anyways am against abortion so forget it, jux go see a specialist. Or try the traditional healing method.

The only family planning method that is 100% sure is ABSTINENCE which is not practical for a married couple. Others that are >95% sure are permanent forms of contraception such as vasectomies and tubal ligation. These are all tough options for a relatively young couple.
The choice of a suitable family planning method is also not as simple as we want to believe because it depends on each individual's health status. God help a woman who is obese, hypertensive, and has fibroids because such a person will have it tough getting a suitable one.

Try hard as I could, I can't seem to fathom why you wouldn't want this child? Maybe because I would welcome the double lines with open arms right now. I'm tired of seeing red every month. Been trying for almost a year now and I've just been diagnose with hormonal imbalance and we don't have cash yet to pull through so I'm desperately waiting for a miracle.

Since you are looking for encouragement, perhaps this would suffice because if I were to advise you, I'm sure you would deduce my opinion judging by what I wrote up there...

If only we could trade places...

Thank you guys for the support and words of encouragement. I haven't felt this light in week. Reading your comments makes me feel like pulling my own ear d way grandma does especially that of primadonna123. Sis your miracle is by your doorstep, if it's possible to trade places I would have gladly done that with you, it's well.
I have wholly accepted this wonderful gift from God and pray that He sees me thru this journey. For the wherewithal, I know He will always provide.

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To all that were with with me on this I say a very BIG THANK YOU to you.
I have welcomed my baby girl to the glory of God.
She is worth every step of the journey.
God bless you all.

Congratulations Op
You and hubby should go for a more reliable FP method this time.