I am Nigerian-American and my African American wife does not even bother to cook. I cook the meals for our two kids every single day upon return from work. Sometimes if I have an event at the office and have to stay a little late, she just waits for me to return, then cook. It is not as if she cannot make something for herself and the kids, she just lazes around and sleeps most of the day, then plays card games on her phone. I have to make sure there is enough prepared food so my kids won't go hungry while at work especially in summer time like now while school is still out. She claims she's tired always given some health problems she had four years ago that have since been treated and managed through medication and rehab.

She may be tired always, but never tired to go on vacation, or an out of town cultural event, or travel. Never tired to attend social events, etc. Even when we visit some of my African relatives and friend and she sees how other highly educated African women take charge of their kitchens while their husbands just sit and wait to be served, it does not occur to her to be a bit more help in that department. The other day at an African event where food was served, when the women served me, they knelt down to place food in front of me as a sign of respect and reverence. Not that I expect my African American wife to go that far, but that display worried her because she sensed the lady serving me had a thing for me, and that I might be missing some of those familiar pecks that come with African women. Luckily for her, I have no interest or plans to be unmarried. However, it is way too much load on me. If my children are sick, I darn well have to take off work to take them to the doctor, dress their wounds if they sustain and injury, cook and serve her own parents when they visit so they don't sit and leave hungry. I just recently semi stopped ironing her clothes. I got tired and told her to do that herself.

Sad to say, many African American women have no clue. They have very limited domestic training, and very ignorant about family life, child rearing, discipline, and nurturing of children. If I was a cluless man or had not been taught how to maintain and manage a household by my mother and father, my home would have been torn apart a long time ago. My parents raised 6 kids in love and were married for early 50 years before my father passed. Despite the challenges and frustration, I don't want to see my children suffer or raised in a single parent household because I want the same upbringing that I had for them. And black women go to church a lot, but most of their attendance does nothing to change their thinking, their mindset, and character.