SUGARBEE:
She's just jealous nothing more

But Op tell me the truth.. What were you doing with the other girl in the room?

beycity:
If she does not believe you, then let her be then..

emmchi:
So guys am kind of confuse cuz i was not in any uncompromising position with her,but we were just discussing. she came back from school and saw that the front door was locked and saw me with another female friend in mine room. Been trying to explain to her that she's just mine friend and she came to visit me since it has been long we have seen each other.And for the locking of the door, there's a logical explanation for that which she also knew.

But she has refuse to talk to me saying we were doing some hanky panky inside the room. as such am now on probation for the next 6 months.

please,Nlers you all should come to mine rescue.am innocent of all the charges.

Chubhie:
How did you arrive at the conclusion she's your girl? Have you presented the girl's father kolanuts? Forgive me for I'm old school. The new babe you were inside with doors locked while playing hanky panky have you taken palm wine to the father?

My apologies yet again for being archaic. I guess your logic seems why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free?

yellowb:
what wud u have done if u came bk n met her in a LOCKED room wit a guy? possible u were not doing anything but u don't expect her to just take DAT.

Richy4:
I believe you bro. But the question is if the reverse was the case, would you believe her?

Anyways Go to her house, seat her down and in a matured way explain that you came to her place to explain to her that you will not do anything to hurt her. But if she doesn't believe you, it's unfortunate because in a relationship there should be some level of trust.

Remember to do some bla bla bla about what you were saying with the other girl for 2mins.

Say it in a serious way no laughing or anything. Then get up and walk away with the highest dignity any one has never had.

With that the table has been turned. She will be the one begging you to forgive her for not beliving /trusting you. Believe me within 24-74hours your phone will be ringing.

This can only work if you got swags and pick up her bills some times.

SAMBARRY:
I don't have much to say but I'll show you what Tony has to say

emmchi:

He may be right,but there are still people who are looking for true love and are ready to go to any lenght to get it.

emmchi:

Thanks bro, but we haven't had any issues in our r/ship.Am a one lady kind of guy and dot see the need to be frolicking around with other girls.Showing her love and care has been mine number one priority.These coming from her is now making me to doubt if she genuinely love me.But,I ll still sit her down and talk to her; hop she ll come back to her senses.

emmchi:

Cuz we have been together for close to a year and half and am also opportune to know her family.Am think of settling down with her when she's through with her studies.

The other girl is just a mere friend childhood friend and we just talk about friends we missed.

Richy4:


Thank God you now have issues.
Hmmmm I would have said you guys are living in pretends. Who doesn't have issues in a relationship. Even identical twins got issues not to talk of people that came together for the purpose of love.

Try and solve the problem. This will strengthen your relationship. She will come around. She is only being a woman.

Chubhie:
Okay. Try and explain to your girl in clear terms that the friendship you have with the hanky panky lady is not a romantic one and there's no way you are attracted to her romantically and that you value principles as trust,loyalty and respect.

If she doesn't get the message free her and look for another else, you've signed up playing her games the rest of your life. I'm sure you won't want to be in a relationship that offers lack of freedom,trust,loyalty and respect for the rest of your life? Good luck.

emmchi:

Will certainly do that,but if she still insist I have no choice but to move on.I just don't know why she has no iota of trust in me after been with her for close to 1 1/2 yrs.It just a pity after all have invested in the r/ship it all comes crumbling down just like that.

freecocoa:
If you've been with her that long and she still can't trust you on this atleast, then there's something wrong with that relationship, perhaps you've given her reasons to doubt you before.

emmchi:

Or perhaps she is insecure with herself over me. we see mostly on weekends,so when would i have the time to be messing with other girls giving mine tight schedule at work.

freecocoa:
Why are you asking me? Am not in the relationship with you guys.

Am just trying to explore here, you know her better, if you believe insecurity is the issue, then try talking to her again and if she doesn't believe you still, let her go.

Being in love with someone doesn't mean always entertaining unnecessary excesses.

emmchi:

He may be right,but there are still people who are looking for true love and are ready to go to any lenght to get it.

prissyluv:
Op,you have a sitting room yet you decided to stay with a female friend of yours in your room with the door locked.
Who wouldnt be angry?

prissyluv:
Op,you have a sitting room yet you decided to stay with a female friend of yours in your room with the door locked.
Who wouldnt be angry?

emmchi:

Actually that was where i went wrong,cause i shouldn't have allowed her to come inside the room.She was in the sitting room watching a program on telemundo.And am not a fan of mexican telenova,so i decided to go and complete a movie i was watching in the other room,that was when she came and was complaining that i just left her all by herself and she decided to watch the movie with me.

Mind you,it was actually the front door that was locked .

emmchi:

Actually that was where i went wrong,cause i shouldn't have allowed her to come inside the room.She was in the sitting room watching a program on telemundo.And am not a fan of mexican telenova,so i decided to go and complete a movie i was watching in the other room,that was when she came and was complaining that i just left her all by herself and she decided to watch the movie with me.

Mind you,it was actually the front door that was locked .

emmchi:

Actually that was where i went wrong,cause i shouldn't have allowed her to come inside the room.She was in the sitting room watching a program on telemundo.And am not a fan of mexican telenova,so i decided to go and complete a movie i was watching in the other room,that was when she came and was complaining that i just left her all by herself and she decided to watch the movie with me.

Mind you,it was actually the front door that was locked .

freecocoa:
How do you mean? What's there to get angry about if they aren't doing anything wrong?

prissyluv:

I mean that the Op would have entertained his female friend in the living room,though he has explained what happened.