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If i saw them myself, will tactfully tell my friend to be alert and on the look out. But if i got informed by another friend then won't tell, @Op your Friend mrsB can go ahead and tell mrs C not you cos you didn't see anything, you only heard.

bro Ronald4lif
you raise some good points but let me clarify a few things:

ronald4lif:
MrBrownJ has been deliberating all day about what is right and what is not. I don't know what makes him or anyone think they have the mandate or audacity to dictate and tell what is right in another's person home.

MISCONCEPTION #1 i dont give a damn what is "right" in another person's home, this is SOLELY about what is right for ME!
- i would tell because I dont believe it is right for a person to be in suspicious surroundings while their partner (who happens to be my friend) "may" be taken for a ride or in harm's way.
- i would tell because this is what i would expect my friend to do if i was in the clueless partner's shoes.
- i would tell because if the partner is indeed unfaithful, I could not live with the deadly consequences of such actions, that i could have prevented.

Indeed, we learn everyday and this has got to be one of my greatest albeit weird knowledge so far on this platform. Who would have thought another's privacy can be something anyone can intrude into and claim their are doing the right thing according to them.

MISCONCEPTION #2 we all should decide what is RIGHT or WRONG in our lives and stand proudly for it, while teaching and showing the examples to our children how they should live righteously. if i see my friend beating his wife mercilessly i MUST stand in to ask him to stop, whether that woman believes it is RIGHT for her to be beaten or not. if you'd rather stand and watch simply because thats their private lives then no wonder people are so fukced up these days!

Now that we have degenerated to the point of doing what is right and what is not without minding the consequences and aftermath of our actions, may I plead that we digress a little and see how lengthy you can go to substantiate your right claims, shall we?

MISCONCEPTION #3 telling ones friends about possible danger that lay ahead is what any normal human being should do.... not saying anything simply because that person "believes" that the coast is clear is wrong. TELL THEM and if they dont want to listen to your advice then let them crash, knowing fully well that you would have done all in your power to prevent it.

Let's assume we are buddies and I do smoke once in a while or a chain smoker but my wife doesn't know as I always ensure to clean my tracks away from her. Would you turn around to tell her in the name of doing what is "right"?

if A) your wife was my friend and B) your "once in a while" smoking could HARM her in anyway (which i doubt it will) , then YES i would tell her.

I have a child before I got married to madam but I never told her as I was afraid it could ruin my chances of getting her tied to me. You as my long time buddy is aware or might not be aware about it but I later told you. Would you in the spirit of rightness disclose this to her?

how can having a child HARM in anyway your unknowing wife?! but i sure would ask YOU (aka my friend) to come clean. and if madam was my friend, and i got this info, then i would tell her in a heart beat.

I and my wife have a mortgage home and she has been appealing to me to pay off the balance so it can be outrightly ours but I have been evasive and lying that I don't have the money even though I do. My reason being that, since she's European or we're resident in Europe where alimony settlements are strictly enforced any property bought here might turn out hers in the event of a divorce and for that reason I opted to purchase a property in Nigeria without her knowledge but you are aware. Would you open up to her and damn the consequences in this paradigm of rightness?

MISCONCEPTION #4 again, can having a house in 9ja HARM your wife?! but i will advise YOU (aka my friend) to come clean... and if your wife was my friend and i get to know that her husband is cheating her financially, then by all means i will tell her!

now let me tell you when i would gladly tell your wife even though YOU are my friend:
- i know that you sleep with hookers unprotected and after i advised you to protect yourself, you refused.
- you told me you have thoughts of having sex with your own teenage daughter, and when i ask you to get professional help, you refused.

Your response to this posers would go a long way to clarify what you truly mean by doing the right thing and why you think it is your obligation to tell what is "right" in others private affairs.

again, as soon as any information is PUBLIC knowledge then this is no more a "private" matter and people have the right to notify their friends of possible incoming HARM. not doing so is not only foolish but also plain crazy!

cococandy:
@bold yes.

Before nko? See all the evil things you're thinking in your head.

In fact even if I don't know her before I'll look for her contact and do amebo on you.

A friend in need

Amebo no be work o.