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My Little Thought On Husband Scarcity by Nobody: 10:03am On Sep 03, 2015
My little thought on HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!

This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push.

"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home.
Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves.
Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at
least, and be presentable" and then she
adds "God fearing" in order not to sound
so worldly. Then, check the number of
girls around you and the number of men
that meet that standard, and you will see
the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot
suffer in my father's house and then go
and start suffering with a man." What a
wonderful dream! What if from the
beginning, you have everything you want
and there is no suffering, and later in the
marriage, the table turns around, then
comes suffering? Will you run away? No
one prays for suffering, but it is good to
start small and end big, than start big and
end small. The problem is that the
description majority of girls give of their
ideal man is virtually the same. When 50
girls want the same kind of man and the
man that fits what they want is just 1
man, and the man can only pick one.
Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband
Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that
it is hard, due to the face of our economy
to find a man who is of marriage age who
possesses all
those things these ladies want, legally
(except those involved in Internet fraud);
even the number of those in Internet
fraud is not enough to match all those
searching for already made husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies
of substance, of good value and virtue,
who are ready to build a home with a
man who has prospects, are married and
not complaining of husband scarcity. The
easiest way to find a husband now, is to
change your view of who a husband is. A
husband is that man God made and then
saw that it may be hard for him to really
actualize his purpose for making him,
without a help mate and then made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT
A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is
a mission of building the family of God
here on earth. For those who see
marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a
way into bondage. Women are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS
DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be
a route to where God has destined him to
be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU
MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT
HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating
"husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT
VALUES. I am not saying that you should
pick anyone that comes your way and
talks of marriage, not all men are
husband materials. What I am saying is
that you should stop setting your
standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond the
physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS,
IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE
LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.
And that which he is made of is, most
times, not seen with the physical eyes,
only its
effects can be seen. Marriage is a
permanent thing. Whatever is seen is
temporal and that which is not seen is
permanent. Relax and go to God in
prayer. God did not just make Eve for
making sake; He made her for Adam's
need to become complete and fulfilled.

Credit: Blessing Ekpo

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Re: My Little Thought On Husband Scarcity by Blakjewelry(m): 10:11am On Sep 03, 2015
Well you are right though
Re: My Little Thought On Husband Scarcity by Nobody: 10:16am On Sep 03, 2015
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Re: My Little Thought On Husband Scarcity by vkon2(m): 10:32am On Sep 03, 2015
jst hop they will listen

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