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Re: Disciplining Children by midolian(m): 10:55pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
osifred:hahaahhahahahahaaha.. . You don't mean it! I ll go spiritual, brother. Flogging him won't take that madness out of him |
Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 11:02pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
agarawu23: Hahaha. Why will any one wanna cane a 2year. Who says you can't talk to a two year anyway. If you don't sit them down den just bend and talk. 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by whatofyou: 11:21pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
midolian: I have come to accept that we all are unique-- what works for/on me may not necessary work for/on you. In my arsenal (talking; caning; other punishments like kneeling, picking pin et c) of reforming the younger generation I administer all of them at once on the new offenders, yet noting the one most effective on him or her. As time goes on, what may keep him from straying into evil behaviours may be the application of 'that' one item or the mixture of two or more of the items on arsenal. Nevertheless, to err is human. |
Re: Disciplining Children by Ugosample(m): 11:22pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
histemple: This is so true. One of the very bad effects of beating is that it ruins the self esteem of the child in question that drags on into adulthood 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by Kolade354(m): 11:27pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
The whites don't beat there children and they are more better and responsible citizen than we wey go. Beat pikin like Horse.........Criminal pple!!! 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by Luckymay(f): 11:28pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Jollyjoy: |
Re: Disciplining Children by Luckymay(f): 11:30pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Jollyjoy:solidly behind u. Xpecially dat whipping, i still remember mum flogging me even at age 17 infront of my younger ones. Its very demeaning. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Disciplining Children by ibkgab001: 11:31pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
i thought you are a Muslim? |
Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 11:34pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Luckymay:yours is even better...dad actually thrashed me @age 19,an incident that has remained ever green in my memory.....chaii...to think my frnd was even there!! 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by Luckymay(f): 11:38pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Jollyjoy:oh my God. Dats even worse. Anyways those days are gone now 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 11:39pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Ugosample:it does nt ruin any self esteem mr....whipping a child below 16 might point out his wrong on the other hand,it useless flogging a child above that cos it might nt have an impact on him.....i think self esteem have to do with exposure....my opinion tho. 3 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 11:39pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
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Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 11:40pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Luckymay:yes jare..gone are those days.... |
Re: Disciplining Children by hausaboi: 11:59pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
CLeAtHead: Kaji wawa. Is grounding them a punishment, Oyinbo this Maija oo. 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by hausaboi: 11:59pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
CLeAtHead: Kaji wawa. Is grounding them a punishment, Oyinbo this is Naija oo. |
Re: Disciplining Children by whatofyou: 12:03am On Sep 07, 2015 |
osifred: Start by flogging the wisdom of God into his misbehaving brain. Then, while he is kneeling down with his hands raised up, talk to him about how 'poisonous' the urine is. That urine is so evil man had to make a special bowl for it to be deposited in. You can work out other talks that will grip his mind. Now, tell him to collect all the urine in the fridge into a cup you don't use for food things, like kerosene or fuel cup. When he is done collecting it, with an I-mean-what-I-am-saying look, tell him he should drink it. He should start crying again now, pleading with you to forgive him. After some few minutes of you egging him on to drink, with him pleading of course, follow him into the toilet and watch him as you tell him to pour it into the W.C. It doesn't end there. Next, make him get a rag, bucket, water, soap or detergent, and make him clean the fridge as many times as possible, pointing out a part that has not been thoroughly cleaned (even if it has) any time he tells you he is done. If he ever repeats it again in his life again, send me ten million naira into my account with bank PHB. 2 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 12:13am On Sep 07, 2015 |
missgray:You're very right on that resistant part. I'm a teenager and I'm so cane-resistant. In the Girls' Government Secondary school I just passed out, we were all cane's best friends. For every mistake, knowingly or unknowingly and even some things that were right we did, we'd be fed with whips or other forms of corporal punishment. If a class is making a noise and a teacher comes around, all the students, the noise-makers, those who were already dreaming about their valedictory service and Matric and the neutral would be punished. But do you know what happens after the next 5-mins?-A noise tuned from volume 5 to 12. On Friday assemblies, offenders would be called up to the assembly to be whipped with the hope of making it deterrent, but after the whip if the offender 'dusts it off', she'd be hailed. There was a girl who joined my class in SS2 and would catch cold and weep like a woman whose child was eaten by wolves at the sight of canes, but I'm pleased to let you know that when we got to SS3, she upgraded sporadically to the queen of 'whip-choppers'. Some students would even provoke teachers presumed as wicked to beat them till their arms become weak: that was why I seldom punished the 'Juniors' I was supervising. I persuaded them telling them why they should do the responsibilities assigned to them, the benefits and the repercussions of not doing them. Eventhough not all of them listened because some were born goats, I was able to come out successful in my duty as a prefect more than many counterpacts who spanked. 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by sladimeji(m): 12:18am On Sep 07, 2015 |
Its cool joor...these three has been restoring kids back to normal since time immemorial..na because dem no dey apply these to oyinbo kids na him make dem stupid 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by charlesucheh(m): 1:50am On Sep 07, 2015 |
Whiping won't solve anything! Using myself as a case study, can recall that my mum use to do the whiping stuff on me, but as i grew older, the kind of peer i choose to relate with helped shaped my life to what it is today!!! Not those bashing, cos i knew i would one day grow pass them and will have to take critical decisions that would hv either broken or shaped me!!! Creating a sound avenue for them to psychologically thing and choose positive directions in their endeavours is pertinent!!!not the bashing!b though as Africans, it is usually recommended especially when OGBANJE don enter the PICKIN body!! 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by optimusprime2(m): 5:04am On Sep 07, 2015 |
mutter:Thank Heavens you were not my Parent, I would have been a lost cause with your rather passive approach to instilling discipline 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by ganiujmh: 6:17am On Sep 07, 2015 |
It is a combination of all these. You need to identify how your children react when you talk to them as well as when you use other methods. Be cautious not to stick to one method of discipline because as they grow up there is tendencies to build resistance. 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by ugoezeik(m): 7:05am On Sep 07, 2015 |
agarawu23:tellam say u giv him mama belle |
Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 7:06am On Sep 07, 2015 |
Sabrwahaqqo: Spoken well except for one thing: your child is not your friend but your child whom you are to nurture, direct and reprimand when he misbehaves. This "treat your child as your friend" syndrome has made so many kids get unruly and take their parents for granted. You should be close to your child but as a parent and not as a friend. 3 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by bukatyne(f): 7:38am On Sep 07, 2015 |
mutter: This is very classic I must confess.... Everything I plan is just here Being a worthy example Providing a loving atmosphere Becoming their confidant Talking the talk. I dreaded them and my mother starts without a prompt . I did not even need to do something wrong. Training early... 100% with you. We like to bend dried fishes in Nigeria and get hypocrites and pretenders. A child is 'small' till he/she is almost 5 (after the character has been formed) then we want to impart the training of life. When I tell people my siblings & I grew up amidst glass and open shelves for electronics and a mini-library, they find it hard to believe because they claimed to tear seats, destroy electronics, drag things, break glass shelves etc. I will surely sit with mom when that time comes. Studying a child to know the right way to train.... Also remember that your post about your mom and your sister's friends. You get mind sha... How you handled your son's case. I cannot promise my kids no spanking sha It will not be the go to solution anyways. 2 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by rossychik(f): 8:01am On Sep 07, 2015 |
[i][/i]d thing is most times we as pparents don't start our trainin as early as possible, frm a toddler start bendin ur child to what u want him 2 be. Some tips are 1 donot always give d child all his every whims 2knw when to advise, spank, or flog as d case I.e offence may be 3 love n care that way they can relate wit u easily nd above all 4 pray for ur children. It is a well known fact dt in Africa there are some black magic, so some of their behavior may raise eyebrows play safe by always remembering them in ur prayer. I am typing out of experience as parent and as teacher 2 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by freecocoa(f): 8:15am On Sep 07, 2015 |
I think really talking to(not yelling o) grounding and some other forms of punishment which doesn't involve physical hitting will do, when the kids are at the age where they can understand what's being said/done, you can be stern and firm without resorting to the traditional method of discipline as we know it in Nigeria. I believe if one must spank, it should be when the kids are still toddlers(atleast they are yet to fully understand things) because I think it's very important to teach kids not to hit others and I don't know how that can be achieved, if you go about hitting them, parents are afterall, the best example for their kids. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Disciplining Children by freecocoa(f): 8:27am On Sep 07, 2015 |
Jollyjoy:My sister, self esteem starts from the family o, you can't always be beating a child,telling him/her how useless he/she is and expect that child to have a healthy dosage of self esteem, charity does begin at home. 3 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by fairheven: 9:26am On Sep 07, 2015 |
kITATITA: Obviously your DAD took your discipline to an extreme measure and I feel your pain, but who knows what wud have bcome of you without discipline,even the bible says that "God chastise,as in discipline those he loves" Today I just see Indomie-bread-and-butter kids, with no "street-credibility",no value system(my nebo 3yrs old son is familiar wit the mother ,that her orders are like child's-play to him) and we are really descending to chaos. If my Son misbehaved outside and someone corrects him either by flogging or whatever measures,first I should be ashamed of myself for not training that child well enough to the extent of an outsider correcting him,and secondly I wud be greatful to the individual for caring enough to discipline my child. 2 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by lurlah2014(f): 9:28am On Sep 07, 2015 |
for me spanking is better of than the two 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by Topman0001(m): 9:35am On Sep 07, 2015 |
Jollyjoy:u made a good point but sincerely my dad was still flogging me at 22, i used to call my upbringing a millitary training. It got to a stage i suddenly became arrogant and would repeatedly do what dad said i shouldn't do. He stopped flogging and i composed myself. It helped though. Today my family is proud of me, my employer and my colleagues are all proud of me. 3 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by AreTheyBitches(m): 10:10am On Sep 07, 2015 |
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Re: Disciplining Children by madaleeda(m): 10:17am On Sep 07, 2015 |
kITATITA: i will tend to disagree with you on this assertion, in America there are over 11,000 gun related violence among teenage peer groups in a recorded year. nigeria youths aren't as violent as the "don't beat, but just talk generation" been breed in america. such violence is as a result of a system that doesn't take responsibility for training the child before he or she is able to define the clear difference between right and wrong. in a society where norms are based on personal baseless belief, then the inevitable truth is the equally baseless purpose would arise. |
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