[This thread is a reply to a previous thread titled Nigerian Students and Cohabitation menace]

[b]Actually, am used to seeing the religious and moral opinions of "disciplined" and "well-trained" nairalanders when it comes to talks on Co-habitation. I see most people who outrightly condemn things in their "righteousness", people who don't think of Situational ethics; people who don't know that an action which is bad in situation A may be fair in situation B.
I call them fundamentalist, and i wonder if they would even kill an armed attacker in the name of self-defence? Am sure they will, but then they wouldn't condemn themselves for "murdering" a soul? Will they? Surely they would seek justification.

Now back to the issue on ground which is co-habitation, i have 2 points which i want everyone to take note of.

1. Please stop saying co-habitation is a western or foreign concept. Can you deny the fact that in traditional african society, most first children are usually conceived before sealing up the marriage? In fact till now, many families operate on that trend, you need to be pregnant before marital rites can start. And even if we are to agree that co-habitation is a thing of the white, do you not know about enculturation? Do you think we can take what we want from a culture and filter all of the rest? For God's sake, culture is a combination of values which are coherent. If you adopt X from the white, and X coheres with Y, it follows that adopting X would mean adopting Y. So you can't admire some western practices, use their technology, follow their trend and not pull some ills which is against your own culture.

2. As much as it is undeniable that all humans are connected in one way or the other, so is it realistic that we are diverse people (minds). One of the problem we face in life is trying to make a single "style or rule or pattern or method etc." the universal path which everyone must follow. Trying to generalize opinions or convictions should be avoided at all means, so in that sense don't expect that since you disapprove of co-habitation, everyone should shun it. According to a philosopher named Leibniz, this world is the best possible world created by God because of its "oppositions or contradictions which are united". So please, even if your opinion is true and right, don't expect it to be held or practiced by even "most" people.

So this writeup doesn't in anyway encourages co-habitation neither does it disapproves it. It is just a message to people who condemn things outrightly.
Feel free to query, make an addition or a subtraction, i stand corrected. Thanks.[/b]

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I'm not a a story teller but I must say this: Pls don't co habitat if you're "still" in sch and more importantly if you don't have any source of income except the assistance you get from home. My 2 cents