Apologies if may sound too direct, i totally understand how scarce resources could be and how hard things can get. I'm sorry about that.

But let me put this in another way. Maybe it'll be more helpful.

Consider this scenario:

A good man gets to heavens gate and was queried why he cheated on his wife. He complained "My wife was a nagging and lazy woman who denied me of sex most of the time". He was right. His wife pushed him to cheat. Every circumstance around him encouraged him to cheat. But......it was his fault that he cheated! He had the power to control his emotions. Maybe he didn't realize it at that time. Unfortunately, he must take responsibility and bear the consequences of adultery.


My point is, life is what it is. We can't keep crying over spilled milk. We can't keep complaining about these employers. They are who they are and you are who you are. Are you hungry for success or not? What have complaints and blames brought you? Nothing i guess.

I've learned that when i take responsibility for everything that happens in my life, whether i'm at fault or not, it helps me sort out issues and move on seamlessly.

Often times when i'm confused and don't have deliberate goals, it's easier for me to blame on people, things and circumstances around me. Yes, I might have a point blaming those people or circumstances. However, it is what it is and the BIG question is "Do i want to be a success or not?". Only then do i realize that the whole world has failed me, circumstances are against me, but i must make it.
Sheer determination and discipline can make you move like an unstoppable grenade and achieve anything you want to achieve.

I agree that it's easier for a well-to-do guy to pay for a programme at NIIT, buy a high-end laptop and learn computer programming in his air conditioned home. It's also possible for a less fortunate guy to save 1000 Naira every month for 2 years and buy a fairly used desktop computer, get ebooks and start learning in a hot and uncomfortable room at home. If the later is really determined, he'll make it. And tomorrow, nobody will know the difference.

We all have the ability to change our lives whether we know it or not.

One can forgo ones BIS subscription for a month to buy a book on Financial Accounting or even French!

One could make it a point of duty to be more extroverted in order to sharpen ones sales/marketing skills.

A graduate engineer can take up a stressful 10,000 Naira monthly salary job to acquire instrumentation skills that will help him apply in Nestoil in 2 years, then ExxonMobil in 5 years.

One can consider entrepreneurship

One can also lament that things are rough, pay for internet subscriptions and read irrelevant news online everyday.

The options are endless.

Remember you are the architect of your own life, you design what ever you want to design with it. What ever you design is what you get.
If you design failure, then you get failure. If you design success, then success you get. Don't blame any body for your mischief in life cos you are responsible for your own life.

The choice is yours. You are on your own. Are you gonna do something about it or not? The choice is left for you to make.

Amen! brother, amen!

Right..

Did not read. Somebody please summarize.

charix:
Did not read. Somebody please summarize.

lol... Take it line by line
The OP actually gave a summary because if I were to write the same stuff mine would have been longer. Truth still remains the choice is ours to make whether we fail or succeed, I realised that for me some people dull my sparkle when they give me false hope. You sit idle waiting for a promised job or whatever it is and as you wait idly days turn into weeks and weeks into months and months into ... God forbid!

So, It is best to take responsibility for your success or failure. October 2015 ends today, we will be ushered into November 1 before we know it. Mmmh...

To summarize: That Which Is Like Unto Itself Is Attracted!

That was inspiring and kinda emotional Thanks very much Op. Bigger u Insha Allah

true. very true.

Thanks..

I vividly believe dat wit determination nd hardwork God wil settle us before december


AMEN

Hallelujah somebody. God will surely do it for us. But, we have to also act. just do something, no matter how small it is . @op everything u said is the #fact.
Remember Faith without work is dead

If we had all forgone OUR Bis subscription we wont be on nairaland neither would we be commenting on your post now #Lol

Thanks for that great piece op. I have learnt long time ago to stop blaming people for my woes. I always take responsibility for my actions and face my problems squarely. In life nobody cares, nobody wants to know how you achieve success, just become successful and see many people, even those you have not met before celebrate you.