babygirlfl:

Madam pls I want some of that your matching shoe and bag. Thanks in advance.

armyofone:
Please wash and send them over when you are done.

Ewuro4, add rope necklace, thanks in advance.

Op,
She works hard for the money, work hard for it honey, so you better treat her right.

Mynd44:
How can female Nigerians in different countries/Continents have the same attitude? Did they plan for this or is there a manual for bringing them up?

Since a manual does not exist, it is safe to say the women who form the majority of those you have met were influenced by the society and environment they reside in not the fact that they are Nigerians

Furthermore, if you have been to Europe, America, Asia etc and a majority of Nigerian women react to you in a negative attitude then have you sat down to think maybe you are the one with the problem?

damiso:
So I can get you a bit OP.so are you querying WHY they buy the stuff or the value they place on the stuff or looking down on people who They think don't have the stuff ?

One thing one that helps in life is understanding that we all have different value and priorities so again(am on a roll tonight do YOU) find people who you share similar interests with chikena.

I like looking good as much as the next Nigerian woman and I won't lie (when younger) would base friendships on things like how a person dressed or looked ( na everyone we dey call razz that time razz is another slang for ratchet) but with time I have come to understand that a persons character goes far deeper than 'what' they wear or 'how they dress' . If some of my old friends see some of my new friends they would wonder what we talk about

Superficial things like 'I can never use synthetic weave ' won't make me look down on those who do.

Truckpusher:
You've not made any sense at all.

Acidosis:
If they don't buy, how will Louis Vuitton and Gucci make the dole?


If you understand the power of retail environment/experience and the behaviour of consumers, you won't blame Nigerian women.

These marketers and luxury brands have a way of enslaving the minds of buyers. You can't avoid them.

NigerianBelle:
Look, all I can say is that I was not begrudging anyone the right to buy whatever she pleases or to wear it. Again, I'm talking about the importance put on these things. I am born to a Niaja family (but born the US side), so you can't really call my observations "eavesdropping." This is not a quick call, but years of intermingling with my sisters from home. I wouldn't be saying this if I didn't see a difference between the Nigerian women who have been here since childhood and newcomers.

Besides, all the individuals who are defending their "right" to buy expensive things and flaunt them, instead of answering the question, are proving my point rather than disproving it.

NigerianBelle:
It seems that the majority of the Nigerian women I've come in contact with abroad (not in Nigeria, but in America, Europe, &c) are extremely materialistic, shallow, and vain. So many of them focus on purses, shoes, labels, hair, makeup, and the like. When they come in contact with a sister, they don't talk about values of mind, body or spirit but the value of the bag on her arm or the gold in her earrings. Style, clothes, body image, and other similar topics seem to be the sole subject of their conversations. Why is this? Is it a cultural characteristic? Is it the economic status of the country that drives putting such an exaggerated value on materialistic items or physical attributes? Not that I have never come across a Nigerian woman who seems to have her values straight, but these are rare and far between.

babygirlfl:

Hehehe. I don't share. and I am not going to be done with it soon.

armyofone:
Please wash and send them over when you are done.

Ewuro4, add rope necklace, thanks in advance.




Op,
She works hard for the money, work hard for it honey, so you better treat her right.

Mindfulness:


I totally get your point.

You come from an affluent country, they come from a poor country. This is why they consider these things so important and so special and this is why it is so foreign to you and why you do not place so much importance on such things.

The same phenomenon can also be observed on the national level in the US. Rappers show off their wealth more than any other group of people. Why? They come from a place of poverty.

Truckpusher:
Perfectly right , until a society evolved on it's own it would always be subjected to external influence that promotes anything that serves as a means to an end.
Women are still materialistic all over the world and not just Nigerian women , they simply exist with different orientation on how to go about it.

Ewuro4:


Huh?

Honey, are you being sarcastic or for reals?

What 'things' are you referring to about Nigerians that WELL TO DO oyinbos don't place much value on , if I may ask?

Mindfulness:


Showing off.
There are white people who are rich but don't show it. It is hard to find such people among Nigerians.



Why do you think rappers look like this? Why are they showing off money, cars and women they paid for in almost all of their videos?




Why doesn't Bill Gates behave like this? Why didn't Steve Jobs behave like this?



I also think that there are more white ladies who do not place as much value on fashion in the sense of "dress to impress" as Nigerian ladies even when they can afford high quality fashion.


I am not being judgmental here sweetheart, just descriptive.

Ewuro4:
Nigerians this Nigerians that, people should get off their individual locations , save up some doe , travel and see the world around them.
As in...

NigerianBelle:
It seems that the majority of the Nigerian women I've come in contact with abroad (not in Nigeria, but in America, Europe, &c) are extremely materialistic, shallow, and vain. So many of them focus on purses, shoes, labels, hair, makeup, and the like. When they come in contact with a sister, they don't talk about values of mind, body or spirit but the value of the bag on her arm or the gold in her earrings. Style, clothes, body image, and other similar topics seem to be the sole subject of their conversations. Why is this? Is it a cultural characteristic? Is it the economic status of the country that drives putting such an exaggerated value on materialistic items or physical attributes? Not that I have never come across a Nigerian woman who seems to have her values straight, but these are rare and far between.

Mindfulness:


Showing off.
There are white people who are rich but don't show it. It is hard to find such people among Nigerians.



Why do you think rappers look like this? Why are they showing off money, cars and women they paid for in almost all of their videos?




Why doesn't Bill Gates behave like this? Why didn't Steve Jobs behave like this?



I also think that there are more white ladies who do not place as much value on fashion in the sense of "dress to impress" as Nigerian ladies even when they can afford high quality fashion.


I am not being judgmental here sweetheart, just descriptive.