I am a 23 year old first child with 2 brothers and a sister. Despite the 6 and half years age gap and the 2 boys between us, my sister and I are pretty close. When we were much younger, a brother of a relative's wife sexually abused my sister. She was 4. My mom went ballistic with a bottle and the boy ran away bleeding in his boxers. We were all very careful with my her after that and were relieved because it seemed like she totally forgot the experience and was normal. Fastforward to now, I am a graduate, she's a jambite, my parents have been seperated for 3 years, my brothers are in school, we are still close and people often take us for friends. Yesterday, a neighbour came into our house and my sister threatened to pour water on him if he doesn't get out. I was shocked, my sister is usually very calm but she was shaking with suppressed fury. Knowing the man's reputation as a child molester, I was scared. I calmed her down and kicked him out to my dad's embarrassment, she then told me this man had raped her twice when she was 8. I was devastated, she never told anyone and had carried it inside for sooo long. I cried with her and for her. When the crying got too much and her tongue swoll up so she couldn't talk, she started writing. it's what she wrote that broke my heart.

She wrote that there was still one more person, a relative someone I wouldn't believe.... I was scared, I didn't want it to be any of the men in my life. This morning, she told me and my dad that it was my brother. My immediate younger brother. Older than her by 5 years. My tummy started to hurt. Although I had suspected, the confirmation was killing. She said it happened when she was 11 & 12, countless times. She never told my mom because it would maybe kill her. I haven't been able to reason straight since, while I gloried in my virginity, my sister threads the grounds of shame, guilt and suicidal thoughts for something that isn't her fault. She confessed that she thought about it everyday and hated all three of them. How do I make her feel better? Will she get better? How do I begin to tell my mom? Will this feeling of anger, anguish, guilt and powerlessness dissapear?

you glory in your virginity?

who does that?

sounds like you browse nairaland entirely too much, you are starting to confuse fiction with reality.

bournvitaandboli:
She wrote that there was still one more person, a relative someone I wouldn't believe.... I was scared, I didn't want it to be any of the men in my life. This morning, she told me and my dad that it was my brother. My immediate younger brother. Older than her by 5 years. My tummy started to hurt. Although I had suspected, the confirmation was killing. She said it happened when she was 11 & 12, countless times. She never told my mom because it would maybe kill her. I haven't been able to reason straight since, while I gloried in my virginity, my sister threads the grounds of shame, guilt and suicidal thoughts for something that isn't her fault. She confessed that she thought about it everyday and hated all three of them. How do I make her feel better? Will she get better? How do I begin to tell my mom? Will this feeling of anger, anguish, guilt and powerlessness dissapear?

Only people who have been raped can really answer that honestly...don't you think?

Cc: FrancisTony

how old was the boy you first mentioned?

crackhaus:

Only people who have been raped can really answer that honestly...don't you think?

Cc: FrancisTony

I have not been raped, Mr..

crackhaus:

Only people who have been raped can really answer that honestly...don't you think?

Cc: FrancisTony

FrancisTony:

I have not been raped, Mr..

herald9:

And he replied

5minsmadness:

And he replied

herald9:

What's shocking & funny?

FrancisTony:

I have not been raped, Mr..

But you have made reference here on NL to being sexually assaulted while you were younger.

Was that a lie, or do I have to go digging Mr...

crackhaus:

But you have made reference here on NL to being sexually assaulted while you were younger.

Was that a lie, or do I have to go digging Mr...

I said I was told to lick the unlickable which I didn't find bad tho'.

Last time I checked, when boys are molested by an older female, their thing would played with or forced to do many things against their own will.
Bye, sir!

FrancisTony:

I said I was told to lick the unlickable which I didn't find bad tho'.

Last time I checked, when boys are molested by an older female, their thing would played with or forced to do many things against their own will.
Bye, sir!

Okay so you were not raped, only sexually molested...

Pardon my mistake...
Bye!

OK

It looks like this your "sister" was pretty left unsupervised to be an easy target to trusted PEDO relatives. Only JEH-HOE-VAH knows who else had access to her poohsie.

Not to make light of the situation, this is the FATE of many females all over the world.

If it were YOU, would the feelings go away?

It is tough to be a child in this present world of ours.

Just a damn SHAME SICK MEN are always the culprits. All female PEDOs learned from one or several men!

FACT!!!!!

Got this in my Whatsup thingy and was shocked to see what children were doing in our AFRICAN JUNGLE OF CHRISTIAN VALUES!

This less than 2-minute clip of HARD-CORE child porn was SHOCKING.

The way the girl coached and molested the little boy only confirmed the FACT that children are not safe ANYWHERE in the world around SICK MEN especially!

I don't think I could ever move HALF as much as that little girl or WITCH did!

Na who teach am?
As you can see from the background of INCESSSSTOUS POVERTY, this is RAW UNDILUTED PRIMITIVISM!

Na for h-insai THICK FOREST dem dey do dis wan o.

Omg!

Are you sure she was sexually abused by your brother? There is a difference between abuse and fantasy.

Some female will willingly give in for s e x, and later change the whole story. You also mentioned something about your mom "killing her"? You mean your mom will kill your sister because her brother ra-ped her?

Your family needs a serious reform.

Are you sure your brothers have not joined some cult groups? cos I'm seeing a clear case of poor parenting.

Don't even bother discussing this with your mom. The fact that she cannot live with her husband peacefully shows she's not in the best state of mind to proffer any meaningful solution. In fact, she needs your advice right now, more than you need hers.

What has kept you going? Your boyfriend? Pastor? or Grace?

I think you need to take responsibility for your sister's well-being right away. Where do you reside?

Modern day Shakespeare!