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|How To Make People Like You More by LaurelP(m): 5:42pm On Nov 12, 2015|
A lot of people ask why is it that people don't really like me? What is it that makes people want to be with others while avoiding the others? Why do some people have a lot of friends while others have none at all?
Humans are social creatures and therefore desire to be loved and appreciated at all times. Unfortunately some people just can't get others to love and appreciate them.
We can't force others to love us but we can definitely help them by showing that we are open to love and companionship, friendship and togetherness and therefore become happier and live healthier.
Most people don't know that their body language is what is hindering people from liking them. People are wired to spot negative threats faster than positive ones. For instance, if you have body odor, people will notice it faster than when you have a nice perfume on.
Having said all of these, what are those things you can do to become more likable and attract friends and colleagues at work and on normal everyday life processes?
Beware of your attitude
People judge or guess the kind of person you are in split second. Don't go about carrying a long face all day. No matter how bad things are, don't let it show on your face, stop the self pity and don't expect people to pity you.
Refuse to get angry easily and even if you are, deal with it immediately and move on, don't let it affect your mood.
I advise people to have a particular time each day when they think about issues bothering them. Don't go about thinking of negative things affecting you, you'll always be IN a bad mood.
Try to always be secure and project confidence
Very important. People are drawn to confident and secure people. Try to tackle anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or insecure. If its for instance body or mouth odor, you can definitely do something about it. Dress in comfortable and well fitting clothes. Be friendly with everyone until they give you a reason to stop being friends, don't write anybody off, don't burn bridges you never can tell if you'll need the person.
Like and respect everybody until they give you a reason to stop
Every human being deserves to be respected, don't underrate or look down on anyone. Don't select who to greet and who not to, who to take greeting from and who not to.
I have come to learn that in this world, anyone can be anything without looking like it. I have seen millionaires who behave so humble and reserved that you will hardly ever know they have 50k in their account. Don't just jump into conclusions.
Always think about what you can do for others. Don't just start thinking of what you can get from people the moment you meet them, they will know. Help people genuinely, don't expect to be repaid.
Take care of your body posture
Your posture says a lot about how people will perceive you. Proper posture makes you look confident and people like confidence.
Stand up straight with your feet as wide as your hips.
Make yourself as tall as possible, imagine being pulled up by the top of your head.
Relax your shoulders.
Sit up straight but not rigid.
When entering a room filled with people :
Smile like you're happy to be there. Smile like you stepped outside and noticed the sun was shining.
Greet the crowd, not by shouting but by taking a moment to look at the people in the room.
Make eye contact. Don't just walk straight to your seat.
Take your time, it shows confidence and an open attitude.
Wave to imaginary friends. Humans are wired to like and respect people with friends. When you walk into a room and greet people closer to you, follow it up by waving to your friends with a smile on your face (whether the friends exist or not ). This will make people to assume that you know people and also give you more time to relax and increase your confidence.
Men must use a firm handshake, it communicates confidence. A week handshake will make people see you as a weakling. Look people in the eye as you grab the hand with a smile on your face.
I still have two very powerful tips to share that will make people to find it hard to resist you. But that will be after this thread enters front page.
|Re: How To Make People Like You More by Olumayor1(m): 5:43pm On Nov 12, 2015|
Nyc write up... First to comment
|Re: How To Make People Like You More by Ifeanyi4491(m): 6:17pm On Nov 12, 2015|
|Re: How To Make People Like You More by psychologist(m): 6:35pm On Nov 12, 2015|
Wow nice one
|Re: How To Make People Like You More by Nobody: 10:44pm On Nov 12, 2015|
Yes bad attitude is one but having many friends......you will achieve little in life.
|Re: How To Make People Like You More by sholay2011(m): 6:07am On Nov 13, 2015|
|Re: How To Make People Like You More by anath(m): 12:31pm On Nov 13, 2015|
U are very right. U just itemized my attitude towards ppl and sometimes I tot d popularity is not good for me but now I see reason to keep the good fit of being love by ppl. Thanks OP!
|Re: How To Make People Like You More by LaurelP(m): 12:49pm On Nov 13, 2015|
|Re: How To Make People Like You More by LaurelP(m): 12:50pm On Nov 13, 2015|
|Re: How To Make People Like You More by sisiafrika(f): 6:28pm On Nov 17, 2015|
Who needs friends? Mtchwww. With my heavy make up and high heels and big booty and shouting hairstyle with dark googles, you must clear way for me. Aint send nobody. You good to me, I'm good to you. You bitchhh, I show you your levels. YOLO!
|Re: How To Make People Like You More by SweetyZinta(f): 9:48pm On Nov 17, 2015|
Keep it coming
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