[size=18pt]What makes women feel loved?[/size]
By GIDEON OPARINDE {08076616717 tomgidops@yahoo.com]
Sunday, May 17, 2009

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Some people wonder whether there is anything more pleasurable than a world of opulence, in which all the good things of life are at one’s beck and call. But in reality, does money answer all questions in the home? When it comes to matters of the home and, perhaps, the heart, women have proved to know where the shoe pinches. But what exactly would make them feel loved aside money?

MRS ONUNYERE RUTH
There are various ways a woman can feel loved. For instance, women love husbands who appreciate them when they prepare a good meal. Wives also love husbands who correct them with love; but should not be done in the presence of his in-laws, her in-laws or before the children.
Also, the husband should endeavour to send love text messages to his wife. This would assure her that there is someone there for her, who thinks well of her at all times. Husbands should be of help to their wives, especially if she is sick or when she returns tired from work. This gives the wife a sense of belonging and that she is still part of the family.
Lastly, the wife needs attention whenever she is trying to communicate or discuss vital issues with the husband. Women don’t like being shunned or ignored.

SENAMI OKOOSI
A woman needs love, tender care, attention and closeness in order to feel loved.

GRACE AMEH
A woman feels loved when she is given genuine attention and care. The man must accept us the way we are. If there must be complaint, it should be done with love. Men should not compare their wives with other women and should be willing to show adequate commitment. An important aspect is that infidelity should never set in. He should not give me reasons to doubt him. There must be mutual understanding. As my pastor would say, “marry your friend, who you can be free with and open to.”

MRS TEMITOPE OKOOSI
For a woman to feel loved, she needs to be appreciated whenever she does what is right. When a man snubs a woman, it is as bad as making her sad for the rest of her life. So no matter what a woman does in the home, she should be appreciated. She will cherish this more than any other gift.

OMOWUMI FALOLA
Every woman needs attention, to be appreciated and adored. Wives love husbands who communicate regularly. For instance, text messages are an assurance that she still holds a special place in her husband’s heart.
When women are not shown enough love, negative thoughts creep in, and can be the beginning of sorrow for them. No woman wants to be isolated. Sex alone is not what makes a woman feel she is loved. There is more to it than sex or romance. Women believe in what they are told. So when a man tells his wife sweet words, she is always happy.

AWI FUNKE
A woman feels loved when the husband shows concern, care and corrects her with love. My husband should accept me the way I am because no one is perfect. We are all human beings and as long as we remain at the flesh, we are bound to make mistakes. He should be able to show more commitment in the home and be nice during my birthday, our wedding anniversary through gifts.

MRS CHRISTIANA JAMES
Men, sometime, think sex is the only way to make your wife feel loved. On the contrary, some men are wicked in the area of care. They have sex with their wife only because they want children, after which they leave the woman dejected and frustrated. Very few men really care for their wives while a few others fall below average in the ratings. When men don’t care as they should, it indirectly pushes the woman to begin to look outside their marriage.

IDOWU BUKKY
Women feel loved when their opinions are appreciated, accepted and implemented. Wives like to be given freedom of expression while the husband, in turn, gives his rightful support.

ADEYEMI OPEYEMI
Despite his tight schedule, if a man sends romantic text message to his wife during the day, the woman will feel loved just the way she will feel if he is proud enough to kiss her in public. Women feel loved when they are appreciated by their husband in whatever they do.

MRS AUGUSTINA BIEM
As love is the bedrock of every successful marriage, so is every man the architect of either the success or failure in marriage. Men, as we know, are our motivators. But when this is not the case, we feel disappointed. Without encouragement from the husband, a woman cannot do much. Some men do not appreciate their wife’s meal or the time spent in the kitchen. Some do not value the stress it took the wife to go to the market to get foodstuff for the house. The worst is that some men see nothing painful in giving birth. When a woman lives under the same roof with a man legally married, he has the responsibility of making her happy. That was why her parents handed her over to you, with the belief that you will take up the mantle from where they stopped. But many wives today are not happily married. Some have died suddenly from high blood pressure and heart failure due to lack of happiness.

FADAHUNSI DAMMY
Husbands should make sure they live up to expectation in the home. He should be able to defend the wife/family and meet the daily challenges. He should speak good and sweet words that would encourage her at all times. The husband should lift her spirit when she is going through any odd experience, whether psychological, emotional and otherwise. Once in a while, the man should endeavour to take his wife out, especially at weekends.

ABIKE RACHAEL
The man should not concentrate on the weaknesses of the wife. If there is something to be corrected, it should be done with love. There should be understanding in whatever we do as the family.