This may not be the best time for me
to write on this because of
misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push. "Husband
Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls
today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer
for a life partner. And this calls for
concern. Casting our minds back to
the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much
of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or,
maybe there were more men than
women then, or there was an
adequate corresponding numbers of
both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and
were prepared to build a home and
not park into a built home. Then,
once a young man comes of age and
can at least feed himself and his
wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates
him and helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to say? We
created what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity" for ourselves.
Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream
husband; you get things like "he has
to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich,
own a house at least, and be
presentable" and then she adds "God
fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of
girls around you and the number of
men that meet that standard, and
you will see the problem. You hear
girls say, "I cannot suffer in my
father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a
wonderful dream! What if from the
beginning, you have everything you
want and there is no suffering, and
later in the marriage, the table turns
around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for
suffering, but it is good to start
small and end big, than start big and
end small. The problem is that the
description majority of girls give of
their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of
man and the man that fits what they
want is just 1 man, and the man can
only pick one. Then, what becomes of
49 others? They simply start
lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is
hard, due to the face of our economy
to find a man who is of marriage age
who possesses all those things these
ladies want, legally (except those
involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is
not enough to match all those
searching for already made
husbands. If you look around,
majority of the ladies of substance,
of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man
who has prospects, are married and
not complaining of husband scarcity.
The easiest way to find a husband
now, is to change your view of who a
husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may
be hard for him to really actualize
his purpose for making him, without
a help mate and then made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM. It is a mission of building
the family of God here on earth. For
those who see marriage as a way out
of poverty, it is a way into bondage.
Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE
A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a
route to where God has destined him
to be tomorrow. Another truth is
that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity".
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am
not saying that you should pick
anyone that comes your way and
talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying
is that you should stop setting your
standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond
the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN
WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE
IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is
made of is, most times, not seen with
the physical eyes, only its effects
can be seen. Marriage is a permanent
thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is
permanent. Relax and go to God in
prayer. God did not just make Eve
for making sake; He made her for
Adam's need to be truncated
Have a nice time(credit: Vera)

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