Most times we expect much from our friends. This exposes us to big disappointments esp. when they don't meet our expectations, thereby hurting our feelings and harming our relationships. Even though true friends are hard to get, I believe if we can work on our attitudes (and emotions), we can reduce disappointments to a barest minimum.

When I thought of this, I arrived at the fact that controlling our emotions towards our friends can help us prevent or mitigate any future disappointments.
Initial impressions of people can be misleading and we judge wrongly at other times. It may also be due to our nervousness and 'over-openness' during our initial encounter. But, overtime we begin to see people's true character. So, avoiding early judgements and trusts enable us learn more about friends without being hurt.

You can't beat how this helps you understand people's character and values that make them unique.

Carefully learning about our friends' past, their way of thinking and approach to issues enable us know their kind, character, values and motivations. This helps us to foresee their actions and later behaviours.

Due to the dynamic nature of humans, we shouldn't bear stiff ideas of people. Sometimes you have good impression of people, but when situations change, we see different colours. Yet, there may have been prior signals earlier that such may happen, which we ignored bc we had carelessly trusted them.

Due to the dynamic nature of humans

your friend today may not be your friend tomorrow, people change and so do you.

important point to note.

Sometimes in life, we are amazed at how flighty people can be, especially after we may have put so much trust in them, maybe on a task. The truth is that we shouldn't have careless trust in people's offers. If there deliver, appreciate them well. But, be prepared for anything. "Be optimistic for the best, but expect the worst"

Bottom line is, do not expect much from people. Accept them as they are and live your own life.

Any more suggestions and insights will be accepted. Also, share any true life experience. Forgive my long epistle.

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your friend today may not be your friend tomorrow, people change and so do you.
important point to note.

POINTBLANK.

permanent interests, not permanent friends.

always keep that in mind.