I am a married Lady in my early 30's.am an introvert so I barely make friends.in my house,church etc,I HV ppl who give me cold shoulder in short I don't HV any friend at home&HV heard PPl say am a proud&bad person.it makes me feel sad inside but DT is who I am:I keep to myself.how can I change people's impression abt me?

U are too proud. Ur post even shows it.

Swallow your pride like a bowl of EBA, that's how

Hybrid01:
I am a married Lady in my early 30's.am an introvert so I barely make friends.in my house,church etc,I HV ppl who give me cold shoulder in short I don't HV any friend at home&HV heard PPl say am a proud&bad person.it makes me feel sad inside but DT is who I am:I keep to myself.how can I change people's impression abt me?

@male married lady
Your case is serious.
Take 6 pure waters to Shiloh this year, have one of the gate men pray over it for you.
Take this pure waters home.
Buy a chicken and use 3 of the pure waters to make stew with the chicken, use the remaining 3 to make poundo yam. Eat the poundo yam with egusi, use the stew to eat some agege bread.
At this point everything will be ok. Some friends will come share the stew with you.
If this doesn't work, go to Shiloh again next year, try to go deeper inside this time, get someone other than the gate men to pray over your next year pure waters

Be nice to people around you. Greet when necessary and worry less about their opinions.

Am also an introvert so i understand your point,making friends is not that easy for us, but then its not all about making friends. When u see the people around greet them well(even if they pretend not to see you),ask about their family, if their kids are there just play with them a little (just try and be social with those around).this will go a long way i hope

Hybrid01:
I am a married Lady in my early 30's.am an introvert so I barely make friends.in my house,church etc,I HV ppl who give me cold shoulder in short I don't HV any friend at home&HV heard PPl say am a proud&bad person.it makes me feel sad inside but DT is who I am:I keep to myself.how can I change people's impression abt me?

Smile

A smile is warming and it is welcoming
You don't have to say anything
People probably think you are unapproachable because of your facial expression and body language.
Try and make a conscious effort to change that first and see if it works

People generally speaking are more welcoming when you approach them with smiles and humour.

What the hell

Those are people from a distance who don't know you, who're just judging from a distance majorly based on assumption . However your husband is the closest person to you who knows you inside out. If he thinks they're right then work on your personality by first revaluating yourself, if he thinks they're wrong they can as well go to blazes with whatever they think. Bottom line ask him not nl.I don't know you, nlders don't know you either. Ignore the clowns

Ar u beautiful

You need to learn interpersonal relationship skill. I have seen people hide their poor skill in relationship under the pretext of being an introvert but being an introvert does not make a person obtuse and saucy. Life is built on relationship and Christianity especially, is built on relationship both horizontal or vertical.

Be warm to people around you, greet them, show interest in them and they will reciprocate.

I asked my hubby,he actually said If someone does not move close 2 me,they can think like DT.in d office, I don't HV DT problem just at home&maybe church.I greet but I don't play or make small gist except we r friends.I just keep 2 myself.sometimes I wish I cld burst out but I was not brought up like DT!again,I HV d issue mostly wt women,never men!

U can be an introvert and still av so many friends . there are 2 ways around this, it's either u are really proud and arrogant, or people just tend 2 misunderstand u. Either well check urself very well.

work on your personality

kidgod:
U are too proud. Ur post even shows it.

no,she is just over confident with high self esteem

My dear, just be nice, their opinion does not count. The few friends we do have, of what benefit are they. DEM MUST TALK

The opinion people have about you is none of your business.

If u want to change, do it for yourself and not because you want people to like you cos some people would never change their impression about you
First impression,last impression

Op,just be yourself. That is the best you can be.
There are people out there that understand your nature and your husband is one of them.
If you begin acting different ,you will look fake and you wouldn't be happy with yourself and same people calling you proud will begin to call you other names like hypocrite.
Remember if nobody talks about you then you are nobody.
God is so wise that he made everyone with different personality,if we all had the same character i bet the world will be a boring place.

Always remember to put a smile on your face

You are not proud. that's just who you are. Am an introvert and because of that, I don't have much friends and people usually take me as a proud person but usually change their impression about me when they come closer. Don't mind what they say. Your happiness is not tied to them. keep doing what you love and don't forget to wear a smile always.

@Hybrid01

i understand the pride thingy but dont get why people/strangers could say that you are a "bad" person?!

MRBrownJ:
@Hybrid01

i understand the pride thingy but dont get why people/strangers could say that you are a "bad" person?!

I heard d bad&proud part from someone they told.the reason they gave is simply dt I feel like am beta than them coz I don't sit 2 play&gist wt them.I was not brought up 2 make friends in d compound.simply greet,be polite,mind ur biz,finish.how does ds become a crime?

U acting Aloof. Don't mind them jare, no be dem be ur God

.my own be say after church I go run comot before pastor shout amen,,,na so one girl cum pick interest where I dey,cum follow me dey talk since she observed I don't really talk to anybody..don't ask me what happened later?....with time I started hanging around people to make small talk not more than ten minutes..na gradual process ,,just smile and greet...be friendly wit kids in children dept,ushers etc..

Hybrid01:
I am a married Lady in my early 30's.am an introvert so I barely make friends.in my house,church etc,I HV ppl who give me cold shoulder in short I don't HV any friend at home&HV heard PPl say am a proud&bad person.it makes me feel sad inside but DT is who I am:I keep to myself.how can I change people's impression abt me?

You just lack social skills - which can be easily learned.

You are most likely not proud.

Guessing you just 'shut down' in social situations, out of anxiety, in ways that make you come across as haughty.

You have no idea how friendly people can be.

Yes, absolute strangers too.


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My dear u r not, I know how u feel, I'm an introvert too n I don't easily make friends n what my close colleague told me recently was that others said that I'm very proud, dt I don't joke with or talk to them.

I asked the guy if what they said was true, he said no that I'm not proud, he even told dem that the problem is that I'm an introvert, that they can get to know that only when they get close to me.

So dear, I don't think there's something you can do about it, I don't like when pple say such things about me, I have tried to change but my dear is very hard, if you force yourself to blend with them u will end up looking stupid bcoz is not in u.

My advise is, be urself, try n do what is right n forget what pple say, God knows the reason y is so.

Sleekbaby:
My dear u r not, I know how u feel, I'm an introvert too n I don't easily make friends n what my close colleague told me recently was that others said that I'm very proud, dt I don't joke with or talk to them.

I asked the guy if what they said was true, he said no that I'm not proud, he even told dem that the problem is that I'm an introvert, that they can get to know that only when they get close to me.

So dear, I don't think there's something you can do about it, I don't like when pple say such things about me, I have tried to change but my dear is very hard, if you force yourself to blend with them u will end up looking stupid bcoz is not in u.

My advise is, be urself, try n do what is right n forget what pple say, God knows the reason y is so.

u got me.sometimes I try 2 joke/play and I end up lookin silly:2 me anyway.I will b like, hope am not over talking etc