I have a little daughter in her second year.
There is this trend however on-going that i hate but dont know the best way to approach it
Peeps in and around my wife are fond of giving her food.
If its biscuit and baby stuff, i dont really have a problem, but often, its like they are spoon-feeding her with the same spoon these people are also eating with. I think it is very unhealthy and spiritually insecure. But how do i approach it, without offending people?

Cant people just mind their own business?
There people that will deliberately "worry" this my little child to cry and i so hate it.
Other especially males will want to touch her buttocks


what is all this?

please help

Tell ur wife to be actively involved in feeding ur child. B4 ur pikin begin fly 4 night.

dhantey324:
Tell ur wife to be actively involved in feeding ur child. B4 ur pikin begin fly 4 night.

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Please you should stop it

Tell them not to continue with it.

Come up with what ever excuse

Else she might get initiated tru that means

Melahou:
Please you should stop it

Them them not to continue with it.

Come up with what ever excuse

Else she might get initiated tru that means

thanks oo

vybzkartel:

thanks oo

move away from that apartment, I guess it isn't conducive for raising a child

vybzkartel:

I have a little daughter in her second year.
There is this trend however on-going that i hate but dont know the best way to approach it
Peeps in and around my wife are fond of giving her food.
If its biscuit and baby stuff, i dont really have a problem, but often, its like they are spoon-feeding her with the same spoon these people are also eating with. I think it is very unhealthy and spiritually insecure. But how do i approach it, without offending people?

Cant people just mind their own business?
There people that will deliberately "worry" this my little child to cry and i so hate it.
Other especially males will want to touch her buttocks

what is all this?

please help

Excuse my french, but are you having a brain fart?! With the part I just bolded, are you truly still worried about offending these people rather than protecting your child?! Are you waiting for your 2 year old toddler to be the next victim in a thread titled "Man of such age defiles 2 year old girl" before you realise you should carry your pikin away to safety, whoever wants to feel offensed should hug a live transformer instantly. Haba.

I don't think there's any spiritual harm to your child however it isn't sanitary for anyone to be feeding her.

You need to sit your wife down and show her all those threads on NL about child abuse cases and tell her that innocence can never be recovered and all the parents of all the victim's never suspected the abusers. Speak sternly to her and let that be the last of anyone doing anything you're not comfortable with, to your child.

OP like seriously?
If you have to yell at them to stop, pls by all means do.
Ewwwww to the 10th power.

Pls who and who touched her buttocks and what were they looking for? The moment you saw the first person do that, you shoulda made a big scene or case out of it and everyone else will learn to keep their space.

Thanks all for the advice so far

Please get a better apartment, this happens in a very public living arrangement. You can't really protect the child fully if you keep living in such setting because you won't spend the entire day at home to guard her.

vybzkartel, I am sure you have a really cute and smart daughter and hence people want her to be around them.

You need to be very firm. Your first thought should be protecting your daughter and understanding that people that abuse young children are usually people who have access to the child. You might offend people in achieving this but it needs to be done.

To stop them from giving her food,
1.) Ensure she is well fed at home always, she might be taking food because she is still hungry
2.) Children learn when we repeat instruction, tell her always that you want her to stop collecting things from people except for mummy and daddy.
3.) Tell all your neighbors that you are trying to teach your daughter contentment and so you need them to stop giving her things, when they try to give her something in your presence collect it and return it to then. They will understand you mean business.

You must be very firm and even offended when anyone touches her inappropriately or tries to make her cry, let them know immediately that you do not want that (Yes they may mock you as an overprotective parent but most will stop it). My husband is fiercely protective of our daughter and believe me people around us understand this and behave appropriately

Finally your wife needs to sit up. You cannot achieve much without your wife also having an understanding of the dangers you might be exposing that child to. You both need to agree on what is acceptable or not and the dangers in just going with the flow in raising your children.

Sorry for the long post but this is something i am passionate about.