I stumbled on this & thought wise to
share....!!
The most difficult age for any man should
be
between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to
be something, to be someone is so immense. When you look around you
everyone seems to be doing something
for themselves, people seem to be living
a life you only dream of. You have
applied for jobs and the results have
been more disappointing than Besigye's shot at Presidency.
Sadly this is the age when most guys
lose it, the age when if not careful one is
consumed by alcohol or drugs, because
the disappointments become too much
and you find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few people you
studied with have been lucky enough to
land jobs, soon your circle of friends gets
thinner – mostly they don’t even cut you
out but you be real with yourself and cut
yourself off. I mean what you will do when you are in a WhatsApp group of
friends discussing about last week’s trip
in Zanzibar and planning another road
trip to Kigali while you are not sure of
what your next meal would be?
Most times you follow the conversation silently, all alone like a cross on the
grave. Soon you realize this is no longer
your kind of crowd because the more you
keep around the more the pressure to be
something takes a toll on you. You know
when stories about house parties come up and you act deaf because you don’t
know where an extra 5 guys would fit in
your house. Have you ever sat in a group
of people discussing the new iPhone on
the market or how British Airways offers
shit services and you can feel your heart whisper to you “boss this is chest pain
hour, can we just go and find a group
that talks about boda boda“.
But you sit there as these people are lost
in their lifestyle conversations, you are
like a secretary taking minutes in meeting. You are totally forgotten like
one of a woman’s breasts during
pre-intimacy. Once in a while one of the
friends will turn and ask if you need
another drink and you wonder if you
should just say No and head home, but head home to what? So you grudgingly
drop in the “I will have just one last one“
Lie.
But after a few years of job hunting, you
are now ready to take anything even if is
to smell a rich man’s farts as long as it pays , so you end up as an office
messenger in one blue chip company in
town. To imagine that 3 years of studying
and getting a degree is now reduced to
picking and dropping off letters and if you
are not doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the employees when they
are broke and they can’t order with hello
food. This is when conversations about
where people schooled start, you go
silent for it’s no longer of any use to say
you also reached University, it doesn’t matter – you have resorted to surviving.
Once in while you will bump into your
now well to do classmates they would
offer you lunch, but not even eating the
meals at caffesserie will make you feel
better about yourself, because in your mind you wish instead they would give
you the 30k and you sort your meals for
the next 5 days. As it is the norm you will
have photos taken, and uploaded on
Facebook, but always it’s your face that
would look odd one out – not even the best filters can hide a face which has
borne the city dust and survives on boiled
beans.
The worst mistake you can do during this
period is to try and date – there is nothing
that a person going through such times can offer in terms of love. How are you
going to do evening romantic walks when
you are tired from walking delivering
letters in offices around town? What are
you going to tell your lady when she says
she wants to go for Nile Gold Jazz Safari? That your financial religion
doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age
when you sit back and watch as the
ladies you would want to date are dating
or getting married to guys 10 years older
than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s only that your life seems to be
progressing slower than their goals in
life. Most of the ladies you meet during
this period, if you are lucky will be patient
with you till you hit 28, and if by then your
life is still in disarray like Liverpool’s performance in the EPL then my friend be
prepared for a walk out.
But then this is the age when you learn a
lot of about life, if you can hack through
this stage of life the only hard moment in
your life would be when you lose your parents - that’s if you are still lucky
enough to have them. This stage teaches
you a lot about perseverance, about
appreciating the small wins you have
each day, it teaches you something
about friendship, love, career growth and personal responsibility. This is always
your rise or fall moment depending on
the choices you make. How you live your
life in the 30’s is determined by how you
handled your life in this phase.
SHARE WITH YOUR PEERS IN THIS AGE GROUP TO MAKE THEM
UNDERSTAND EVERYONE GOES
THROUGH THIS PHASE OF LIFE.

CC: lalasticlala

Very scary @op, especially with the current economic state of the nation.

I'll fall into that age bracket very soon and I need not be afraid because God has good plans for me, not of evil and He'll direct my footsteps.

My advice to everyone reading this: Trust in God, do your best and leave the rest for Him.