YorubaIgbo:
Good day Nairalanders, i have an issue bothering me seriously. My gf an i have been dating for over 6 months and i wish to take her seriously.
When we met she told everything about her past and i wasnt too bothered since its in the past.
The most worrying thing is the fact that her cousin have slept with her a number of times even though she CLAIMED she did it willingly just once.
The same cousin calls her each time he is on break at his own school to meet at a relative's place where they both reside and one thing usually lead to another before she come back to me weeping.
The last time she went on break, i warned her sternly not to go to her relative's but she expained why she doesnt like to go to her parents place at another state (I dont want to reveal everything here).
She came back and i discovered she got pregnant for her cousin. I'm sorry i had to soil my hand in murder (i guess you know what i mean) despite all these my love for this girl hasnt shook a bit.
I made her realise how bitter i am and even tried not to break up against my own will, she wept throughout the night and we settled the ish without involving 3rd parties.
Just 3 days ago, this same cousin called her again (she told me) asking if she will be on break too, she said no.
She asked for my advice on if to tell him what he did to her the last time and how to put an end to all these.
I have seen better counsellors here that's why i decided to ask here too.
Matured advice please.

Pineapp:
What if,,,,,,





What if,,,,,,



Just what if she's been lying to you and the"cousin" is her main guy

YorubaIgbo:
despite all these my love for this girl hasnt shook a bit.

iamSi:
What if I told u , u are just one of a kind ... My Advice? Don't ever let go ... I won't say all here. I'll suggest u close this thread. You just don't have the heart of a man I don't wanna call u a god but I think u have the heart of a god. If a man can forgive with this type of a Large heart I am wondering how God will feel forgiving your own errors. Trust me you won't regret this. It's best u keep this all a secret maybe u should call a meeting 3 of u , squash the whole thing and resolve cos if there's a 3rd party the Lady u r trying to protect might just commit suicide out of shame. Don't loud this pls

Mayflowa:
You have been so kind to your girlfriend. she needs to sit up real fast. You can't keep spoon feeding her. She should avoid completely her cousin's present.

However, it is best you three meet. Your girlfriend should tell her cousin you are aware of everything and the pregnancy. You should tell the boy you would be forced to report to both parents if they continue. If your girlfriend refuses this meeting, then you have to hold your shoes in your hands and run 4-40.

9japrof:


Bullshit, you are here acknowledging and supporting a guy who can't identify between left and right.

The OP is a fool, the girlfriend a bigger one. A girl who sleeps with her cousin ? Who does that ? that's inbreeding, I believe most African Cultures frowns at that, the so called holy books also frown at that, so where do the girl get the basis of engaging in the act. Its a taboo buddy. There are relationships that should be terminated without asking questions and this is one or ia Nairaland a trash bin where all sorts of stupid questions are being asked.

Stupid OP look at what the babe is bringing out of you : a murderer and a spineless human. The stupid and pervert cousin of his cannot even take care of the problem he caused.

Have you for day check what the implications of her actions would be if you wife her? would she have the morality and mind to back off your children when she see em playing with cousins in a not to good way. Bros change your way sharp sharp and let that babe be

YorubaIgbo:

He stays in a different state, we school in a different state and my gf's parent stay in a different state too.

iamSi:
What if I told u , u are just one of a kind ... My Advice? Don't ever let go ... I won't say all here. I'll suggest u close this thread. You just don't have the heart of a man I don't wanna call u a god but I think u have the heart of a god. If a man can forgive with this type of a Large heart I am wondering how God will feel forgiving your own errors. Trust me you won't regret this. It's best u keep this all a secret maybe u should call a meeting 3 of u , squash the whole thing and resolve cos if there's a 3rd party the Lady u r trying to protect might just commit suicide out of shame. Don't loud this pls

iamSi:
Truly BULLS.H.I.T. But trust me some people eat lizards and frogs knowing its best for their health . Let's leave the guy with what he can live with Sir .

So called - Holy books condemns it but not people ... Then again if it's A So-called why take it seriously ?

wagazala:


I understand how you feel about this. I've seen it happen to close peeps too, what girls do at a tender age is crazy sometimes but emotions could be a b#*@h sometimes.
OP, your babe needs help and no condemnation. Yes she loves her cousin but it's wrong. The solution to this is to ensure they are not in the same place alone, they are separated till they both grow old enough to understand the implication of their actions. It might require you involving her parents or a elder family member.

9japrof:


yea you right, sorry about the phrase, I believe in the Bible and take it advice 100 percent.

YorubaIgbo:
Good day Nairalanders, i have an issue bothering me seriously. My gf an i have been dating for over 6 months and i wish to take her seriously.
When we met she told everything about her past and i wasnt too bothered since its in the past.
The most worrying thing is the fact that her cousin have slept with her a number of times even though she CLAIMED she did it willingly just once.
The same cousin calls her each time he is on break at his own school to meet at a relative's place where they both reside and one thing usually lead to another before she come back to me weeping.
The last time she went on break, i warned her sternly not to go to her relative's but she expained why she doesnt like to go to her parents place at another state (I dont want to reveal everything here).
She came back and i discovered she got pregnant for her cousin. I'm sorry i had to soil my hand in murder (i guess you know what i mean) despite all these my love for this girl hasnt shook a bit.
I made her realise how bitter i am and even tried not to break up against my own will, she wept throughout the night and we settled the ish without involving 3rd parties.
Just 3 days ago, this same cousin called her again (she told me) asking if she will be on break too, she said no.
She asked for my advice on if to tell him what he did to her the last time and how to put an end to all these.
I have seen better counsellors here that's why i decided to ask here too.
Matured advice please.

mentorandfriend:


This is why I tell people. Once you're in a relationship and you're having sex, forget it. You can never evaluate him/her with your right senses. Dating is a time for communication, openness and assessment of values, not sex.

Once you have sex regularly with someone you're dating, say bye to making a wise decision void of emotions whether you can continue or not.