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Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by twf1: 9:50pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
after going through your write-up I just thank God stammerers don't write the way they talk. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by nbright: 9:50pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by MissSlimbody(f): 9:51pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Op you're not alone in this o. Teenage girls of these days dey fear me o. I also have a teenage sis that has become unruly... |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by applemark: 9:52pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
and you seriously expect good advice from NL... shes doing what normal 14 yrs old do nowadays, when we people start getting it that we no longer in that era where youths are still in darkness and fear elders, this is the modern era that should be handle in modern ways.. . |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by 4nobody4every1: 9:53pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Nobody: 9:53pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Well i onec thought of that as i was growing, a d 2nd born, been a male, i cook, i wash plates, i do all sort of thing. Evry sunday after church odas run home to go out bt i run home to cook. Many things that i cnt rember, but then i thought the hates me. But now, i knw d rili loves me. They loves me so much. The only thing u will do is to advice her to keep away from bad frds. 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Intendy: 9:55pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Try get her a small phone and communicate with her. with this you can monitor her movement to some extent and information can also be gotten tru their. and tell her say if their body touch omoge she, go get belle. so she should reserve totorito |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Nobody: 9:55pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
I genuinely see nothing wrong with any of her actions. Children as young as 3 paint their nails. It's seen as a girly/creative thing. Some Nigerians just enjoy destroying people's creativity. No wonder the country is in such state. Think and behave like oyibo people- they learnt everything from our fellow Egyptian black ancestors. Off to blaze with the aliens and angels bless up! |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by UnknownT: 9:56pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
martyns303:Buy her phone? She go use am call her boyfriend b4 u know it dem don begin exchange nude pics 2 Likes |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by mike404(m): 9:57pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
SHE FIT DON DEY CHOP BIG CUCUMBER SEF |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Bhella5(m): 9:59pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Draw her close to you. Its the only way she can feel loved again coz she seemed to have formed an opinion(they hate her) about your parents. Dont get her a fone it will worsen the whole thing. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by arthurousman: 10:00pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
The problem is peer pressure. Ask ur sister the type of friends she keep both male and female try as much as possible to cut off some of her bad friends |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by aspabay(m): 10:02pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Hmmm, two things, first what is it with people creating new monikers when they want to share a story? Are you ashamed or what? Secondly, glad you see these behaviours as part of her growing up process. Its bad and unfortunate. All you can do is continue to admonish her and if you believe in , keep praying for her. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by witorwitoutyou(m): 10:02pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
So because of dis small issue u write dis long epistle,abeg next time,convert dt one thousand naira gift u give her to buy good cains, When next u come visiting,u place all d cains on d table,tell her to choose any 3 of her choice,Lock up d room,throw away d key..so dt nobody will enter Ko wa lu jagba jagba si lara(beat am like say tmao no dey)..u c dt her diary wey she dey use write nonsense,she go convert am to d tailored timetable u set for her, From skool,to mums shop,if posibu do d distribution,when she gets home,assg next,eat,den revise and sleep. U will warn her sternly dt if I hear peren again,wa je jagba jagba iya 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Nlaand: 10:02pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
wadetaw202: Thanks alot, I would try this as well...I really hope it works 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Ralphdan(m): 10:07pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
ly ha down flog ha 32 mk she sabi bodi |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by DeathStroke007(m): 10:10pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Nlaand: Since you Christian, quote from Bible to suit her bad behaviors... |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by olubenjazzy(m): 10:11pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
wadetaw202: Thank you 'cos your comment is so on point |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by HumbledbYGrace(f): 10:13pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Your sister sounds like someone who is really crying for attention, she feels neglected by your parents hence the need to follow friends trend, have a bf who gives you money because obviously at home they are not giving you enough, paint nails like the rest of the crew and go to deeper life camp with somebody so I would be liked more. The truth about journals is because there is a voice crying out to be heard. We need someone to talk to and there is none. You say you try to be close and stuff but trust you me, all your doing is being the older sister not a friend. You can't slap her for painting her nails, she feels its enhancing her beauty. What I do with my not so perfect 18 year old sister is I tell her stories about life relating to whatever issue we are dealing with at that moment. I don't try to sound like a hero to her, I've learned also not to play her mother, but I have learned to come down to her level of thinking. I've been there, done that, what did I learn from it? Your teenage years can't be compared to this, let her be the kid and be her friend. Close the gap, even if your far you can still be her bestie. My sister called me last festive and asked me what is my opinion on her having a boyfriend. My answer was very simple; "If you want to have a child who will not enjoy the love of a mother and father living in the same house, quit school and your dream of going to Harvard and kiss your scholarship goodbye. Ready to face your caregiver's rage and be thrown out of the house pregnant, be my guest my darling." Case closed, we just talk about what to expect from her future bf, hubby but for later. Summary, cover the gap with friendship, the one you would always be ontop of her list when she needs someone. 6 Likes |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Nobody: 10:15pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
I have a 17 yrs old younger sister and she's in ss3 preparing 4 her waec am 5 yrs older dan her, my mum base whr she works and comes once in a while to visit, and i hv older siblings who are working too bt because am seeking for admission in2 one of the tertiary institutions am always at home and spend more time wit her, i noticed sum months ago dat she was seeing a boy on the street and decided to have a heart to heart chat wit her which she admitted and promised to end the relationship, dat day she even asked to make food 4 me ;Dimagine dat!. Bt i didn't stop der also went and had a heart to heart talk wit the boys mum to talk to her son to stay away frm her so dat she can focus and make her 5 credits in waec and it worked, now she's focus and reads. Being at home made me realize dat girls needs der parents presence or atleast an older sibling they respect on ground to monitor their behaviours. I beat her up yesterday because she ran an erran for a guy in the neighbourhood who lives alone and is always wit friends and i made her realize dat she could get raped by one of the boys in the room....although she's beefing me bt she will realize is for her own good sumday. My advice is...if u don't want her to be wayward sum1 has to be on ground to see to her affairs because ur parents have aged and ur mum is busy bt one of u need to be there cos giving her money is nt enough. And don't give her money all the time, she's too young to be getting exposed to money, food is enough!. 3 Likes |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Sharoniah(f): 10:16pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
to be honest with you,this is a very tough and puzzling stage in a young girl's life.when I was about 14-about 18 I always felt my mum was too harsh on me I mean just me,i'll be queried for nothing even, so i'll tell you your sister is feeling INSECURE probably because your mum may be too strict with her, I never had friends even in secondary school,mum won't hear of that,I had only an elder bro 10 yrs older than I,i was always indoors, and till date I hardly relate with people well because I don't know anything about the outside world -Please build a tight bond with your sister -take her out whenever you're around -tell her about boys,the good ,the bad and the ugly -advice her to join social stuffs, sports,entertainment, writing, drawing -support her in whatever skill or talent she has,let her make use of it for good -point out pregnant teenagers to her and advice her positively -she should have company,it may be your don't let her have time to herself -most importantly ,PRAY FOR HER! 2 Likes |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Nobody: 10:16pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Nlaand:op dnt u tink ure being ova protective be ha friend nd at the samd tym b ha best pal |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Nobody: 10:17pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Nlaand, what is wrong with a 14 year old painting her nails? She is in her teens. It is normal for her however do not stop talking to her. Do not beat her, what she needs is more education. You could try by sharing your own experiences and thought process at that age. 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by klassykute(m): 10:17pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
yetseyi:if u spank her .. shez just gonna gt bad nd deb talk to her friends abt hw shz treated and trust mi she will gt d wrong advice wch she must obey.... for mi sha i feel she needs a lik freedom.. if she wanna play let her go .. but b4 u do tell her d dengers she might face .. and trynna know her friends ..... dont always act like u own her .. growing children gets sick of dat .. i remba i hated eribody in my family cos dey caged mi...tinking it was d way to train a Godfearing child .. guess wat wen i was in my 200 level i smoked nd had sex cos i was free.. like na once i taste d igbo o... LESSON IS give her freedom.. nd she will act well give her a open hand nd heart.. she will tell u secrets dont act as a lord over her/ being so authoritative and u will be her best friend JUST TRYNNA MAKE COMMON SENSE |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by souljaboi51(m): 10:19pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
some teenagers tend to think they hate their parents if they dont have their way. some even feel they are adopted or something for being treated in various ways. its just a phase, nothing to worry . in time she would outgrow it 3 Likes |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by klassykute(m): 10:19pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Nlaand: if u spank her .. shez just gonna gt bad nd deb talk to her friends abt hw shz treated and trust mi she will gt d wrong advice wch she must obey.... for mi sha i feel she needs a lik freedom.. if she wanna play let her go .. but b4 u do tell her d dengers she might face .. and trynna know her friends ..... dont always act like u own her .. growing children gets sick of dat .. i remba i hated eribody in my family cos dey caged mi...tinking it was d way to train a Godfearing child .. guess wat wen i was in my 200 level i smoked nd had sex cos i was free.. like na once i taste d igbo o... LESSON IS give her freedom.. nd she will act well give her a open hand nd heart.. she will tell u secrets dont act as a lord over her/ being so authoritative and u will be her best friend JUST TRYNNA MAKE COMMON SENSE 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Nobody: 10:20pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
I have a 17 yrs old younger sister and she's in ss3 preparing 4 her waec am 5 yrs older dan her, my mum base whr she works and comes once in a while to visit, and i hv older siblings who are working too bt because am seeking for admission in2 one of the tertiary institutions am always at home and spend more time wit her, i noticed sum months ago dat she was seeing a boy on the street and decided to have a heart to heart chat wit her which she admitted and promised to end the relationship, dat day she even asked to make food 4 me ;Dimagine dat!. Bt i didn't stop der also went and had a heart to heart talk wit the boys mum to talk to her son to stay away frm her so dat she can focus and make her 5 credits in waec and it worked, now she's focus and reads. Being at home made me realize dat girls needs der parents presence or atleast an older sibling they respect on ground to monitor their behaviours. My advice is...if u don't want her to be wayward sum1 has to be on ground to see to her affairs because ur parents have aged and ur mum is busy bt one of u need to be there cos giving her money is nt enough. And don't give her money all the time, she's too young to be getting exposed to money, food is enough!. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by blessedfavoured: 10:21pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
I'm not saying painting her nails is right at that age... But I don't think it's all that bad. Growing up, my mum had like 4 sisters (teens and twenties) that i used to spend a lo o time with. so I used to paint my nails from as early as age 8. Though my mun would clean it off as soon as we got back home, dad was indifferent. I knew I couldn't take it to school. She stopped freakin out about it when I turned 11, and I'm 24 now, the last time I did my nails was probably for a wedding 6 years ago. Like when I got to uni, and all my friends were crazy about painting nails an what not. I didn't see the big deal. Op at this point what you should be concerned about is her boyfriend an not nail polish. Tell her why it's important to stay chaste. She's 14, it is not too late. Talk about sex with her, give her stories about your friends that had sex early an how the relationship wen sour because of that.(form it if you have to) Talk to her about your own escapades , before you know it she's telling you about her boyfriend and what they do together. My sis had her first boyfriend d at 13, this was he method I used for her. I'd tell her about my boyfriend and She would tell my everything, and even show me his text . messages. She's almost 20 an still a virgin. Now I'm not worried about her, because she's a principled young woman. 1 Like |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by wadetaw202: 10:22pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Nlaand: I really hope so too. |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by Nobody: 10:23pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
She's 14. What she wrote in a diary does not mean shii. BTW who rebels because they were not allowed to go for Deeper Life camp? Somewhere even some youths in the church have to be pestered to go. Just keep on encouraging her as much as you can but i see her turning out just fine. Others up there have said a lot of good stuff anyways, no need wasting any more bandwidth. 2 Likes |
Re: My 14-Year-Old Sister Made Shocking Revelations, How Can I Manage The Situation? by DlOrdKRiS(m): 10:23pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
Praizekeyz:Wereh re o! |
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