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Close friends with married man. I bet he de get advice from you and you de give am the advice wey land am where he de today.

Kobojunkie:
There is no truth to this. Reports have it that 80%-90% of women in Afghanistan are highly/clinically depressed, and by all metrics, Afghanistan is one of the many shit holes on the planet. The UN tracks these things in places like Afghanistan, where UN presence has been almost constant for at least the last 50 years. Now compare that to Nigeria, where there are no reports or records on such things. 😒

Please stop spreading misinformation! 😒😒

UN is known to not say the truth about so called developed countries. I am saying the truth because almost everyone is medicated for some sort of mental issue over like someone else mentioned. You think people who visit or travel over there dont notice. It may be normal to you which is why you are in denial but mental health issues is unusually high in first world countries. Even when you go online almost everyone in the comment section is talking about one medication or the other they are on. Many on psychotics and all from a particular part of the world.

Naya261:
She's not in contact with the children because the man has blocked her using their phone both on WhatsApp and phone calls.

But you said he sends the wife message through the childs phone.

Make una leave this Chike matter abeg. Frank wey no respect his old age desPite being fed by that woman. He was even bringing women to knack om his matrimonial bed. Make Frank go find farm work. These people don divorce. Make we move on.

I will immediately leave it and go home. Bad as e bad you go get yam and palm oil for house.

Dogalmighty17:
Nigeria. Alomo bitters. Erujeje. Gbefu. Na the anti-depressants wey we dey take be dat.

Sadness is not depression. If you know the depression they are talking about. You no go even fit leave your house buy Alomo. Its mental illness. The warm weather alone does a lot against depression. The sun always giving vitamin D helps too.

Some of them no de baff, brush teeth or leave their bed for days. Their mind literally lose the will to survive or be alive.

The mOre advanced a country the higher rate oF mental illness and depression because of bills and the financial trap of never really being free. You own nothing. Just a well dressed slave.

We no de use maggi or too much salt for our house so Iru to the rescue. Iru is natural maggi and very good for you. Local stew with Iru be like heaven on earth. You can wash it to reduce the smell. Regular Iru not Pete. Pete is higher quality and some are very clean.

Since we have cut maggi and salt my blood pressure is very stable and ok. So nobody fit tell me anything about Iru.

Edo State has a very active Ministry which should be able to sort this man out for your sister. But make sure you have enough evidence of his doings. They will call him, warn him and try to mediate. But since shes not yet ready for custody, the warning with presence of police and in front of the children should be enough.

Naya261:
I have asked her this question countless times and her answer is that she doesn't want the marriage again but she said if she can have custody of the children or at least custody of one of the children especially the youngest one she will be fine. For now she's not financially independent and she currently stays with me. So bringing her child or children into my place won't be a good idea.

If she doesnt want the marriage again she should go to court, file for divorce and demand custody of the children with witness testimony and evidence. Infact declare shes concerned for all their safety and pending the divorce demand they stay with a relative where they are safe.

If you know someone in Government, they can help especially if Edo State has social services or gender based violence and abuse services. Let her get their support, start reporting and documenting all his abusive actions. So by the time shes ready, a lot of things will be in place.

Let her try to keep in contact with her kids since they have their phones. Just sending them prayers daily is enough. When they are old enough they will see the man for who he is and may even run away to their mum if he retains custody.

Naya261:
He has already started brainwashing the kids. This man will record a voice note cursing my sister and forward it to the daughter and ask her to send it to her mother. It's not as if my sister blocked him o. He told the children that their mother abandoned them and is currently living with another man. The last daughter did a birthday last month and my sister wanted to buy a gift and send across to her this man warned her not to buy anything for his children with the dirty money she collects from men. He has told the eldest daughter to her both on WhatsApp and phone call. This man is a complete devïl.

Where do they live? In Lagos? If your sister wants her kids and to divorce this man which is the best move, just drag all the evidence and take it to court. In fact he wont want this to get on social media or hes finished. Hes obviously mentally unstable and shoult not have custody of those kids.

But approach him with caution so he does not harm them. Maybe if they come for visit then you people strike and make sure to expose him, get government and social media activists in court. For now, ignore him till the right time. Ensure your sister is well skilled even if na Fashion design so she can support herself and kids when they are finally together.

Tega better not try to deny if shes guilty. This woman sound like she has plenty evidence.

I be genius abeg. I talk am say the knacking na during their separation. If separation na 2yrs before divorce which is standard in Nigeria divorce. Most people move on in that time. Let nobody insult my boy Chike again
Chike knack person wey don separate.

But both of them are known cheats now. Was Frank not cheating with her in his first marriage? I dont understand this brouhaha when both of them are criminals. Frank should stop crying and let us hear word abeg! You leave your loyal wife marry your cheating partner. Both of you wan use cheating finish una sef for the marriage. E pain you say Chike gbola na WMD na why you de cry!

Gerrard59:
oh! I see. Thanks for the breakdown.

Just to prove to everyone that the guy is a liar and a divorce or pre-nup does not mean deportation. You have the chance to regularize or change status or leave if you cant afford the fees. They will never deport you over a divorce. A divorce is not a crime.

Gerrard59:
I actually follow his tweets, but he never mentioned the child in all of this. I just found it weird that a man would allow the mother of his child to be deported when the child is still very young. So, I kept asking myself: what about the child? Abi no be him own?

Its a lie. Its his child and allegedly hes actually the cheat. I doubt she was deported because their marriage failed. More likelihood that she left because she could not afford the fees or support the child on her own in the UK. UK no go deport just like that. They will give you time to get lawyers to sort your issue but lawyer fees no be joke at all. My friend is going through this and hes a dependent on the visa. They gave him time to sort himself out with lawyers.

Gerrard59:
In all of this, he never mentioned the child's situation.

NL doesnt post all sides but the womans camp did mention they have a kid. He chose to remove that one so that the woman will not get any sympathy. If person born for you and they wrong you, you avoid public embarassment because of the kid. Especially when na you dump the person and you dont care about them anymore.

The way he was jumping from platform to platform trying to praise himself did not give the impression that he was the one that did the dumping and a lot of the details did not make sense. Nothing concern UK with some random desperate immigrants marriage drama.

Obiedun:
Honestly,I used to think they don't have mosquitoes as a result of cold weather.
But I saw someone who traveled to London last year telling me it was so strange that she didn't see ants or other insects in the house where she stayed that if you drop your sugar on the floor you will meet it there the following day intact.

Thats a lie. Ants are everywhere but they hibernate in winter. In summer they have to fumigate the house to prevent ants and other insects. They have the same and even worse insects than we have. Some types you have never seen before.

Make sure thr case details are public so we can know who is lying here. With the way the guy waa jumping from platform to platform insulting the ex and mother of his kids that he allegedly dumped was suspicious. He even added the lie of pre-nup and na the pre-nup make UK deport the woman. Which is a very strange and bizzare claim.

Obiedun:
We are on the same lane. I was also thinking the same way

Mosquito is everywhere in the world even America. But their mosquitoes dont carry the malaria parasite. They only bite very very well in a painful way.

Thewrath:
Oga leave talk for people with experience,don’t mislead people,you may not even be married and without any experience.

Ask yourself what is the highest salary a hotel attendant earns in Nigeria,it’s usually not more than 100k with how the economy is biting hard…all these hiding behind “hotel work” is all about the “side hustle” which 95% of female hotel workers engage in,a hotel is where these ladies see potential clients for their hustle,they enjoy the attention,gifts and money that comes with it….it is this same reason that made Regina Daniels leave her husband citing abuse and blah blah blah many of us know it’s because she was limited and restricted form the kind of life she wanted to live as a married woman..

All those actresses hardly get married because once they do,the roles reduce and stop coming.

Why do you think guys don’t work in hotels? Or why don’t hotels employ guys?

I have more experience on all sides of this topic than you think

Thewrath:
She can’t condition him,even if na provision shop the husband later open for her,that is what she will manage with him,if she can’t,then she shouldn’t accept the marriage proposal….there are some jobs that are completely inappropriate for your fiancée or wife to do….do not make that mistake o

Provision shop. Do you know the kind of responsibility such person can have? Say for instance this is your sister or daughter. She now marries such a man, quit her job where she is sending you money to patch that your small pension that inflation has eaten up. Or you are her brother and shes using her salary to pay your school fees only to marry a poverty infested man who will snatch all your hopes and dreams from you just because he is battling spritual problem.

Some of una de think with your penis only. If na so Awosika husband de think in a very low way, the woman for don turn kiosk owner. That girl will find a man that will know what to do with someone with her ability. If you need someone to tend to provision kiosk, find girl wey no wan work. Leave all these girls wey like career. But who no like better thing. Na how she look attract you which cannot be possible without the money from that job.

When she become a kiosk owner and she lost that attractiveness, you will come under another name saying your wife has gotten ugly after marriage and now you have to cheat. Find someone on your level, na long throat carry OP where pass him class.

bullabong:
Oga no be hotel matter..any woman working in a hotel will always sell her body for money.

Thats not true. Its a customer service job, owning a supermarket is also a customer service job with many rich men coming jn who will toast her

I have years of experience in the corporate world and i can assure you, your promiscuous wife can be getting knacked almost daily by abut 3-5 people. Even abroad. Its not by the type of job, its the person. If a girl working in a hotel is not for the guy he need to move on.

That girl can be good at her job and end of working in executive management in international hotels. But because she met one person with limited IQ he will plunge her and her kids into poverty she may never recover from. Then when everywhere red he will blame her for being too expensive or not smart enough by taking him seriously. You think children are cheap to cater for abi.

bullabong:
Any lady working in a hotel is for the streets believe me. Your friend is about to marry a prostitute who has tasted the easy life of getting fed food and drinks,getting laid and getting paid. Sorry for him in advance. My cousin started working in a hotel 2years ago and has since turned in an undercover prostitute

In corporate office there are some people male and female knacking almost anyone they can knack. It comes down to the character of the person not where they work.

Kukutente23:
1. It depends on the kind of hotel in question

2. Your friend is insecure

3. If he really feels strongly about it let him open the supermarket before asking her to quit

4. A bird in hand is worth two in the bush

So he can close the supermarket anytime hes offended. Never quit the fruits of the work of your hands for anybody. He knew she worked in a hotel before toasting her. If shes smart she need to dump him immediately, this person only want to control that woman and she will suffer with her kids of she quit that job.

Walk out of the relationship so she can meet a man that will marry her. Imagine you are asking her to quit a job as a boyfriend. In this time where everywhere red, a boyfriend?. Omo some of you need to be in yaba left. So after she quit the job, are you capable of taking care of all her responsibility including all her family members?

Ladies, never quit your job for any human being on thjs planet. Ire o. Tell the person to find someone who is jobless. Such man threatening to walk away will still dump you when you become liability.

After the billions the government paid for this show of shame. Which the money could have gone to security and free education. Dem use am increase the GDP of another country by one unnecessary tourism. I thought you all claim your God is ominipresent.

So what is the use of going to pilgrimagr aka religious tourism every year? Tourism you cant afford. Someone need to sue Nigeria government. They might need to start paying for each Nigeria citizen tourism vacation and not selective for some religions

One from community high school equally as brilliant as private school colleague. A lot of states need to invest more jn the quality of their state schools.

No worry, when Tinubu finish 8yrs, Northerners can give up their turn for igbos afterall like you said, its Wa-zo-bia. Appeal to Northerners. Even they will not vote Obi because who will enter Presidency and leave after 4yrs? Why you no suggest this one after Buhari first term. You fit try am? With this your name you are certainly not a Northerner.

Dont be too quick to judge Chike. It could be he met Franks wife and thought she was single. Frank has said they have been separated for 2yrs. Maybe Frank was hoping for reconciliation but baby de knack Chike and had moved on.

Chike need to clear the air on this. I dont trust Frank he seem like someone who if he doesnt have his way will destroy many things. I am sure he is the one that revealed this story. Liking older women is a preference and many men do. They are both old enough. The question is when did they knack.

Fiscus105:
Do you hear from pastor side before you call him madman? The way you people react with emotion ehn, no wonder lot of crises globally.

Maybe, Op is the that lie pathologically you don't, you quickly given all sort names because of one sided accusation.

Who they will give chance to talk that won't side himself? Learn how to calm and neutral going forward, it would help you take good decisions and if you opportune to get to leadership positions.

Like i said, the pastor is a mad man. Is the sister not with the OP or not? If he was a good person, a pastor for that matter, the woman will still be in his house. If his wife was a bad person and the family was bad, he will not come back begging. If you want to consider the Pastor side, he needs to come and tell it but hes not here is he? You also need to mature and realize that man mad men and women are in marriage. Especially Pastors who are known a table their marriage matters in church.

Never move in with anybody or have unprotected sex with them till they have married you. Ensure they pay your bride price at least. Dont put yourself in a bad situation and lose your value.

You know no one till you have had a child together so dont put you and your future children in a disadvantage. If he likes you and is a honorable man who respects you and your family he will do the right thing before you move into his house.