mistyebby:


Thanks ladies. Actually this is not the first time I'm being matched made. We see this every time especially when people feel u are ripe for marriage. The only problem is i never saw a sign, he was into the relationship than I was. And this was the first time he actually complained of sad moods or anger issues. And he easily gave up.

Well, the thing is this, the guy was into the relationship more than you cos I guess he wanted to take someone to mama come December. Then he took you to his family after which he went solo. My dear, the guy sampled opinion about you after that meeting and the "Nay's" had it.
Who knows, maybe there are other ladys involved too.smh

Bottom line is, let it go. Your sad mood or happy mood, is only a flimsy excuse. Just let it go ok? Move on!

He is no longer interested, you have not stayed around him long enough for him to study your mood,

Move on, the early the better

Poster a guy who doesn't want to be with you will come up with the shittiest of all reasons not to. While the one who wants to be with you will climb over hills and mountains to do so.
I was in your shoes few months ago, a guy I adored so much did worse to me, just stopped picking my calls, blocked me on all social network, we didn't even have any quarrel or disagreement. I almost died inside.
After like 3 months he resurfaced and said we were not good for each other, that I don't wash his clothes when I visit, I don't wake up early enough to cook for him before going to work, that I watch him do the dishes after eating and I don't take it from him and host of other excuses. To cut the long story short we never got back together. That same month I met someone else , and 6 months later we are married today.
So just move on, work on your flaws and know that a better person is on the way.

mistyebby:
I have been in this relationship for the past 7months, Please i need advice. This guy came with the mindset of getting married, we were actually matched maked by his older cousin.We had an energising 4 months of talking through the phone. During Xmas he invited me over to his family house, there was no official introduction, I also returned the gesture, definitely my family knew who he was. After Xmas he reduced the calls, he claimed he had family issues he needs to settle. Before then, he had invited me to his place, i was busy, so we agreed to work another time out. I tried keeping in touch, though my spirit told me something was wrong. It continued, i started feeling hurt. I made him knw this times without number.

The coldness lingered, so I stopped calling, though I check up on him once a week. My sister had issues with sch, the way she kept crying on the phone got to me. So I dropped my ego and decided to call him to proffer solution cuz he works in the institution. The first time I called I was sad/ angry. Though he told me what to do, and finally the storm passed for my sis.

Finally I summoned courage and pleaded with him to tell me where I stand. I have always respected him that was why I choose this part. After a long wait. He sends a long chat i summary, he can't deal with my sad mood. I tried to talk abt it, BT I guess his mind was already made up. Though he claimed he still cares.

I really like this guy, what should I do?

sorry to poke nose o, so did you guys get back??

OurworkComNg1:


sorry to poke nose o, so did you guys get back??

No, we are just friends now, no hard feelings, he checks up on me and I do same too.

mistyebby:


No, we are just friends now, no hard feelings, he checks up on me and I do same too.

cool!!! keep the feelings soft like pap...*winks*

It's just an excuse to make it look like It's your fault he's no longer interested.
Notice that the problem started right after u met his family and vice versa.
It often happens in match making cases. They finally meet the person they've been told so much about, and the reports just don't seem to match with the individual.

Seconded

If he has not gone to bed with you, you have a good chance of winning him over time. He will definitely come back. Most men usually have respect for ladies they have not touched.