Consider this scenario:
You were eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocked over a cup
of coffee onto your business shirt. You harshly scolded your daughter for
knocking the coffee cup over. She broke down in tears. After scolding her, you
turned to your wife and criticized her for placing the cup too close to the edge
of the table. A short verbal battle followed. You stormed upstairs and changed
your shirt. Back downstairs you found your daughter had been too busy crying
to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She eventually missed the school
bus. Your wife must leave immediately for work. You rushed to the car and
drove your daughter to school. Because you were late, you drove 80km/hr on a
60km/hr speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and eventually having to pay a
traffic fine, you arrived at your daughter's school. Your daughter ran into the
school premises without saying good-bye. You arrived at your office 20 minutes
late only to discover you forgot your briefcase at home. Your day has started
terribly already. As it continued, it seemed to get worse and worse. You
transfered the aggression on your customers and subordinates in the office. You
looked forward to going home. When you arrived home, you found a small
wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter because of how you
reacted in the morning.
The question now is, what or who created the bad day?
A) The coffee
B) Your daughter
C) Your wife
D) The road safety officer
E) You
The answer is You. Yes, you!
You had no control over what happened with the coffee, but YOUR REACTION to
the little scenario created the bad day.
HERE IS WHAT SHOULD HAVE HAPPENED:
Coffee splashed over you.
Your daughter was about to cry.
You gently said "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time".
You rushed upstairs, grab a new shirt and your briefcase.
You came downstairs in time, looked through the window and saw your child
getting into the school bus.
She turned and waved.
You and your wife kissed before you both went to work.
You arrived 5 minutes early and cheerfully greeted staff.
Your boss commented on how good a day you were having.
Do you notice the difference?
Two different scenarios both started the same way, but ended differently.
Why?
Because of YOUR REACTION.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is
determined by YOUR REACTION.
HERE ARE SOME WAYS TO APPLY THE PRINCIPLE.
1.) If someone says something negative about you, don't be upset. Let the
attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment
affect you. React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could
result in losing a friend or relationship, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
2.) How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your
temper? Pound the steering wheel till it falls off? Do you curse? Does your blood
pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? Remember the 90/10 principle,
and do not worry about it.
3.) You were told you lost your job. Must you lose your life as well? Use your
"worrying" energy and time into finding another job. Everything will normalize
again.
4.) The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take
out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is
going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passengers, etc. Why
get stressed out? It will only make things worse...
Now you know the 90/10 principle. Never waste time laying emphasis on what
went wrong, or who should be blamed, activate the "solution mode"
immediately.
I read this and I was impressed.... Cos I tend to over react sometimes and I also know many of us do same.

Over to u my fellow nairalanders, what's your say?

Nice one. You do not allow the circumstances around you control your life