This piece is quite long but if you be patient enough to read to the end it would be of great benefit if this is relevant to you. The principle I would share here is not only relevant for the above mentioned but also applicable to every sinful habit.

I know a good number of people (mostly Christians) who have voiced out to me their sincere struggle to quit pornography and other sexual addictions. then i never had any definite advice for such cos i was also addicted to pornography and failed severally in trying to stop the act. it bothered me though because I was a devout Christian and I honestly did all i could to stop the habit but it just seemed so impossible to stop. i gave all my will power, made resolutions and created all forms of restrictions to prevent me from falling into the habit, I prayed about it, read my bible regularly and always attended church services to the best of my ability but non of those things worked. I always felt guilty after indulging in the act and i knew this act was adversely affecting my spiritual growth. i often thought to myself, 'what is the the difference then between we Christians and the unbeliever who shuns God if we struggle with the same sinful habits they encounter?' is there no power available for we Christians to live above sinful addictions?'. it was later on that i discovered that there is indeed power available to Christians as i would expound it here.

first off, i would like to dissect the philosophy of this sinful habit or any sinful habit for that matter. Any Christian who has struggled/is struggling with any form of sexual addiction would admit that sin is a desire. its a very strong desire that overrides every moral ideals or value in your mind. the fact you know you shouldn't be involved in such act doesn't in anyway prevent you from committing the act. so even if you read 100X the part of the bible that says 'thou shall not fornicate', it in no way wanes that desire within you to fornicate. the woman caught in adultery knew the law very well. in fact, unlike what we have now, she knew that if she was caught, she would be disgraced publicly and stoned to death in the open for all to see. no space for mercy, repentance or a 2nd chance. yet, the fear of shame and death didn't prevent her from sinning. this is a clear indication of how powerful sinful sexual desire is. So the basic reason Christians engage in sexual sins is not because they don't know its wrong, its simply because of the overwhelming desire in them. Now, the ground breaking truth that delivered me was the understanding that sinful desire is not the deepest root of sinful habit. The deepest root of all sinful habits is THE LAW.. Biblical proof of this is in 1 Corinthians 15:56b, Romans 5:20, Romans 7:8b this knowledge is important for anyone to break out of the cycle of sin.

it is also important to note that every man born is born under the law Romans 3:9,19, which means he lives as a slave to the law and would be overcome by forms of sinful addictions in his life. The only group of people that are not subject to the law are believers. every other individual is under the law and would remain under the tyranny of sin. Now, even as a Christian, if you don't have understanding of Grace and you still live by the principles of the law, sexual sin and sinful habits would still be a master over you. The law is the power of God against man. it is referred to as the ministry of death in 2Corinthians 3:7. Grace on the other hand is the power of God available to man Romans 1:16. we Christians need to understand how to rightly divide the word in order not to fall back to the old covenant of the law where sin makes us its slave. the principle of grace is; that anyone who puts faith in Christ's finished work is declared righteous by God. your sins can never come between you and God again because Jesus has paid the price for all your sins, even future sins. understand that your sinful nature has been crucified on the cross. realize that that desire for sin has already been destroyed 2000+ yrs ago on the cross and the reason those sin symptoms have been manifesting in your life is because you have, in your mind, remained under the law and unconsciously separated yourself from the provisions of the power of God available to you. Understand that you have been delivered from the law by putting your faith in Christ. Its only within the realm of the law that any sinful habit can be a master over you. I would end with this verse Romans 5:21 "For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under Grace" (KJV). What that simply tells me is, if you remain under the law, sin has dominion over you. your escape is grace which is already made available to you in Christ. I trust that everyone who this piece is relevant to would eventually see the power of God manifested to live above sexual sins as I've experienced. Grace.

please how do yo mean
what is the clear distinction that shows that I don't believe in grace when I got saved by grace before being held down by mine addiction or those it mean that I can be saved by the law also?
I'm sorry I am not too cleared by your exegesis.