ladies i need ur opinion, and guys how would u expect ur woman to react.

okay a friend at work had an argument with her hubby, it was a heated argument and they both did not speak for about 2 days, but made up later after they were calm and could think straight. well a week later after some even occurred my friend found out from her husband's mouth that the next day after they fought, he went out with his friend and met a girl (apparently a hooker) in the gas station, they spoke and then decided to get a room, according to her husband after he and his friend spoke to the girl, they changed their mind and decided not to sleep with the girl, and the girl ended up taking the money they paid for the room, bcoz the room was under her name. the way my friend found out was surprising bcoz her husband was talking to one of his friend and she over heard him, and when he saw her, he started pleading saying nothing happened, and she does not even know how to react to the situation bcoz this is a man she trusted and is 3 months pregnant for him, she says she has lost all trust in him and now imagines what happened in the past when they argued and he didn't come home til like 4-5am in the morning. she doesn't know if she should be angry or believe him, he pleaded saying nothing happened, and she is pissed bcoz if he could go that far after a little argument, then wat would happen if they had a huge argument that could threaten their marriage, cuz marriage is not a bed of roses, and arguments are bound to occur.

well i told her to play it calm and believe her husband but then again i am thinking that may have not been the best advice, i think she should tell him to take a HIV test to make sure she and the baby are safe, and she is the kind of person that would not stay with a man that cheats on her, but she's gotta consider the baby. so what should she do. and guys, do u really think her husband is telling the truth, cuz seeing him everyday after what he has done pisses her off.

ima1:

the way my friend found out was surprising bcoz her husband was talking to one of his friend and she over heard him, and when he saw her, he started pleading saying nothing happened, .

I honestly think that the guy is lying. Would he have tell his wife, if she didn't catch him on the phone

If it was me in that situation, i'd certainly get enraged and leave. I can't stand cheaters nor liars. I told my boyfriend from the beginning of our relationship that the day i find out he's cheating on me, i'm gone. However, because the wife is pregnant, and am assuming that the husband still wants to be with her (that's the reason he lied to her, fearing to end the marriage), i would advise her to talk to him and find out if it's something he does every time they argue.

I'm really trying to see what i would have done to save my family, but honestly all i can think of right now is HOOKER .^{Sorry for not really contribuating to your thread}

Unless you are in her shoes it is difficult to predict how you will react . A baby on the way always complicates matter. Only under very extreme circumstances will I ever advise anyone to leave their Husband (or wife).

I would ask to her to get  a complete STD screening for herself and her Husband,  and get Xtian and Professional counselling for them both if they are both willing to stay in the relationship

Pittbaby:

Unless you are in her shoes it is difficult to predict how you will react . A baby on the way always complicates matter. Only under very extreme circumstances will I ever advise anyone to leave their Husband (or wife).

I would ask to her to get  a complete STD screening for herself and her Husband,  and get Xtian and Professional counselling for them both if they are both willing to stay in the relationship

And picking up a prostitute is not extreme. We are talking about a prostitute here not that he was sleeping with a co worker. The man is an irresponsible dirty human being. He could have infected his wife and child with a disease. Abeg jo. Just tell it straight. A diseased dog is better than this man

Outstrip:

And picking up a prostitute is not extreme. We are talking about a prostitute here not that he was sleeping with a co worker. The man is an irresponsible dirty human being. He could have infected his wife and child with a disease. Abeg jo. Just tell it straight. A diseased dog is better than this man

uh ave a great point.

With a baby on the way, they both need professional counseling, fast!

canuck:

With a baby on the way, they both need professional counseling, fast!

i dont blv in the counselling.
Some single woman counselling married pple on how to raise kids.

  And picking up a prostitute is not extreme. We are talking about a prostitute here not that he was sleeping with a co worker. The man is an irresponsible dirty human being. He could have infected his wife and child with a disease. Abeg jo. Just tell it straight. A diseased dog is better than this man

hence the need to get STD testing. As much as i hate to say it men picking up prostitutes (the ones that stand on Street Corners or the Aristo chicks) is not uncommon in Naija ( I am not saying there are not good men o!!) . She needs to make the choice to accept the dirty human being that he is or dump his ass . I simply made my point that it is her choice cos I will not remarry her.

me I will kick his ass to the curb dirty stinky thing

first i would deal with my husband supposed friend who was also in the wrong. then i would deal with my husband and have his mother deal with him as well. if he did have his dick anywhere near her, it will never come anywhere near me again.