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Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by byvan03: 10:20am On May 10, 2016 |
bukatyne: The gist frustrates me because no matter what I say, you will always hear " am staying for the kids". I totally agree with you, most times these women's decision have nothing to do with finance. |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by Onegai(f): 10:39am On May 10, 2016 |
byvan03: One lady once told me about her ex-husband whom she stayed with, on top of the heating. She had a job, contacts, no kids yet. She even fought her blood sister when that one came to defend her and fight her husband. When she started having kids, the beatings increased and she finally ran for her life. I still wonder why she stayed. Even in this Ronke Shonde's case, she had a job so she could have left. But take a look at the nice pictures the couple took together (I know happier couples who haven't done Photoshoots). It's a psychological thing. They are genuinely afraid they cannot manage on their own and they be a internalised it. I remember when I was in a similar situation and I asked myself "what's wrong with me that this happened to me and not others? It must be my fault". It wasn't and that is why I tell people "Domestic Violence is about Control and not about Anger". There women in these marriages sometimes need pyschological help, emotional support and encouragement to leave, more than money. It isn't just to say "Leave" but to say "you are not the problem, your attacker is. This is not your fault". 3 Likes |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by KevinDein: 10:59am On May 10, 2016 |
When people are trying to help make a better world; trying to better the lot of humanity, some people are devoting their entire time and lives trying to find ways to promote divorce. Gosh. Don't you selfish fuuckkkers think it will be best to just fight for the total abolishment of the Institution marriage. I mean that way we get to prevent innocent kids from having to go through the excruciating pain of growing in a broken home. Selfish evil fucckkers |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by byvan03: 3:21pm On May 10, 2016 |
Onegai: It really confounds me on how people get into this psychological abyss, what happened to their sense of preservation? Is it the fear of being alone or a case of genetic impairment that rid these women of all self love. Can it be obsession for the man or the act of being married? At some point I ruled it as some sort of masochism, may be a man that beats them turns them on. He probably signifies strength and brute force, the type only a psycho will find appealing . |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by kaziblake(f): 3:59pm On May 10, 2016 |
My mum picked courage and left...Pls I'm advising and begging all women out there in violent marriage pls leave that man isn't worth it. The God we serve will surely help you |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by Naijagirlwrites: 5:19pm On May 11, 2016 |
Domestic abuse is not restricted to a particular gender. Domestic violence no be only beating o, it also includes emotional abuse, psychological, sexual and financial abuse.It usually starts with wanting to exert control, intimidation and all kinds of manipulation. Most of the domestic abuse stories, hits closer to home than we may think. It can happen to anyone. http://naijagirlwrites..co.uk/2016/05/domestic-violence.html#more |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by bukatyne(f): 6:40pm On May 11, 2016 |
byvan03: I so hate staying for the kids thingy. Domestic violence will never end if peeps keep 'staying' for the kids. |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by byvan03: 9:48pm On May 11, 2016 |
bukatyne: Cowardice is the issue, fear of the society. 2 Likes |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by duperola(f): 3:20pm On May 12, 2016 |
walking away is not always easy for a number of reasons.if there r no kids yet and d relationship is abusive,it is always easier to get out.with kids,anything can happen!the man can even take away d kids from d woman and she can never be happy without Them.I would suggest d woman do a personal check.If it is something she does like nagging or goading tge man,she can try to stop.if d abuse is for no reason which I doubt,she can always turn it to God. marriage is no longer what it used to be.ppl now get married for funny reasons age,money,beauty etc dt even when they see d signs,they still put their heads so many even going to d extent of getting pregnant deliberately. 1 Like |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by Pylony(m): 1:57pm On Aug 02, 2016 |
Happywoman:A TRUE HARD TALK FOR THE WISE WOMAN.. |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by johnson232: 6:14pm On Aug 02, 2016 |
if our mothers were to go by this, they would all have left our fathers by now? senseless thread.... every fruitful thing in life requires patience & endurance... life it self is even not fun & rosy, then why would marriage be? who no wan marry make she go sit down for one side jor.... |
Re: Walking Away- Domestic Abuse by Nobody: 4:42am On Aug 03, 2016 |
From what I have seen, a lot of this is down to very faulty foundations. I don't beleive that people suddenly change. They always had it within them. Courtship is not for mr Biggs and attending shows alone but to take time to study the manor woman that you are trusting your life and happiness with. What we should be doing is educating both men and women what is acceptable and what is out of bounds even before they tie the knot and even if per chance they themselves have a faulty upbringing, they will be able to work out what is acceptable and what isn't. Women especially should only have the number of children that they can comfortably look after if anything happens and you have to run for your life There is no need for 5 children if you are on a low wage. If you are giving up a career for for your family then ensure that you are well provided for and invest the money wisely. |
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