klassykute:
well i think u guys should just sit down and talk about ur future together .. if you love him so much and hw does as well..love aint really bout sex thou call him and decide a future for ur selves nd ur kids... so u dont get used and plus ur not over thinking .. ur just being a reasonable woman who knows what she wants... :f u guys ar always alone together i dont see hw u can resist d sexual tempt oo

Acidosis:
Your courage to accept reality would see you through this face.

#Fact 1
You're a Baby mama.

There's nothing wrong in being a baby mama, but is that what you want for the rest of your life?

Like the typical Nigerian woman, your answer is NO.

#Fact 2
The likelihood that you will get married to a responsible single man after 2 kids is slim; almost zero.

#Fact 3
The lack of job is not the reason he has not thought it wise to get married to you. If he has been supportive with regular upkeep for you and your son, what else does he need to settle down? I don't get it, would marriage with you double his current feeding levy, or house rent? You can get married without raising another child immediately.

#Fact 4
Nothing else would make him get married to you unless you 'force' him. Right now, you are at his mercy. He has your "mumu button". I won't even tell you to stop se.x cos I know you won't.

#Fact 5
Don't even think about leaving him for another man. Your level of attachment with him is so high that the next man might live to regret his existence.

#Fact 6
Do all you have to do to make him see reasons for marriage asap. You don't have to appear desperate to achieve this.

By the way, you talked about his father. What about your own parents? siblings?

Acidosis:
Your courage to accept reality would see you through this face.

#Fact 1
You're a Baby mama.

There's nothing wrong in being a baby mama, but is that what you want for the rest of your life?

Like the typical Nigerian woman, your answer is NO.

#Fact 2
The likelihood that you will get married to a responsible single man after 2 kids is slim; almost zero.

#Fact 3
The lack of job is not the reason he has not thought it wise to get married to you. If he has been supportive with regular upkeep for you and your son, what else does he need to settle down? I don't get it, would marriage with you double his current feeding levy, or house rent? You can get married without raising another child immediately.

#Fact 4
Nothing else would make him get married to you unless you 'force' him. Right now, you are at his mercy. He has your "mumu button". I won't even tell you to stop se.x cos I know you won't.

#Fact 5
Don't even think about leaving him for another man. Your level of attachment with him is so high that the next man might live to regret his existence.

#Fact 6
Do all you have to do to make him see reasons for marriage asap. You don't have to appear desperate to achieve this.

By the way, you talked about his father. What about your own parents? siblings?

Keona:
Hello everyone, thanks so far. Just as you guys advised that we talk about our future together, that night, I woke him up to ask what his plans are for Us. At first, he said why am I asking again when we already talked about it in a chat, I told him I needed to make d conversation physical since we are together(he came to visit us in Akure). He said we'll talk about it at daybreak because I ought to have told him I needed to talk to him earlier, later he said I'm selfish for waking him up from sleep to ask such question(this is a man I do everything in my power to please) . He turned it into a quarrel and finally said we aint talking about anything. This reaction really struck my heart.. Its obvious he is shying away from such conversation.
I'm not desperate to get married to him. I just want to know if I'm wasting my time with him. I cant afford to waste more years over someone I'm not sure about.

This is my plight guys.. Please do not quote this post either. God bless you.

Keona:
Hello everyone, thanks so far. Just as you guys advised that we talk about our future together, that night, I woke him up to ask what his plans are for Us. At first, he said why am I asking again when we already talked about it in a chat, I told him I needed to make d conversation physical since we are together(he came to visit us in Akure). He said we'll talk about it at daybreak because I ought to have told him I needed to talk to him earlier, later he said I'm selfish for waking him up from sleep to ask such question (this is a man I do everything in my power to please) . He turned it into a quarrel and finally said we aint talking about anything. This reaction really struck my heart.. Its obvious he is shying away from such conversation.
I'm not desperate to get married to him. I just want to know if I'm wasting my time with him. I cant afford to waste more years over someone I'm not sure about.

This is my plight guys.. Please do not quote this post either. God bless you.

cc Mindfulness Acidiosis Jashar ramdeuter Yomieluv klassykute

Keona:
Hello everyone, thanks so far. Just as you guys advised that we talk about our future together, that night, I woke him up to ask what his plans are for Us. At first, he said why am I asking again when we already talked about it in a chat, I told him I needed to make d conversation physical since we are together(he came to visit us in Akure). He said we'll talk about it at daybreak because I ought to have told him I needed to talk to him earlier, later he said I'm selfish for waking him up from sleep to ask such question(this is a man I do everything in my power to please) . He turned it into a quarrel and finally said we aint talking about anything. This reaction really struck my heart.. Its obvious he is shying away from such conversation.
I'm not desperate to get married to him. I just want to know if I'm wasting my time with him. I cant afford to waste more years over someone I'm not sure about.

This is my plight guys.. Please do not quote this post either. God bless you.

cc Mindfulness Acidiosis Jashar ramdeuter Yomieluv klassykute

Mindfulness:



And why do you do everything to please him?

Yomieluv:
I think you need a reset slap for your brain to function..its obvious,he only likes you as a bedmate. nothing much. it will be hard,but move on. try avoiding him,if you can't resist his pen1ss.

time will heal your pain.

Yomieluv:
I think you need a reset slap for your brain to function..its obvious,he only likes you as a bedmate. nothing much. it will be hard,but move on. try avoiding him,if you can't resist his pen1ss.

time will heal your pain.

Jahblessme:
Dear Keona,
1. Yes,you are wasting your time
2. He will NOT marry you.

He has made it clear in so many ways though you don't want to see it.He has said yo are the mother of his children-not his wife.You are the breeding machine,and you are probably a good bed mate for him while he is in Akure.

remember he didn't ask you to do everything to please him,it's totally your choice so you can't use that to hold him to ransom.He's not interested in marrying you so it's best you go and stock up on condoms to avoid stds and another pregnancy.Pls when next he comes to visit leave all doors and windows open,wear 4 shorts and iron pant.

if you choose to continue to have se x with him,just do it for the enjoyment not because you expect to marry you or you want to make him happy as he has shown that you are not in his future plans.

Read Mracidosis post carefully,it will help you.Please try and concentrate on your kid, building up and forging a career and future for yourself .It's very unlikely your baby daddy will be in it.
Good luck.

Briona:
I have the same problem too. Although there is no child involved.
Back to the topic ...like everyone has been commenting,it's difficult to let go of him since you already have a son for him. But the first thing you have got to do is knowing what you want and to be determined to achieve such goal.
one thing you have to know is ur baby dad doesn't value you.
My advice to you is to get a job first then we would know what to do after that.

Joavid:
one day op, just one day, you will hear From someone else that your baby daddy is getting married and your whole world will crash like synagogue church if you do not get something doing and take control of your life cos you are going to be a single mom for a long time.


I hope he continues to provide for the baby as you make firm decisions.

PinketteDawn:


OP, It is difficult to let go of him because you have a son for him....No it is not. You have to decide what you want and act on it. Many women have been in your situation before, even married to the man, yet they were able to break free. It won't be easy at first but you need to prepare your mind for the worst case scenario( him deciding to leave every responsibility of taking care of the child for you alone, in which case you can't compel him by law because you are not married). The more reason why you should work hard to get a job.

You will find it hard to marry a single man with your son?? ....If your only aim in this life is to get married, then you will find it hard. But if you focus on being happy and successful, babe, nothing is impossible. You will attract a single man who will love you and your son like kilode! Infact, that you have a child, will even be an advantage because it proves you are fertile. And what if he is not single? As long as he worships the ground you walk on, you will love and accept him with his children.

Never abandon your son my dear. Yes, when he grows up, he will look for his father, but he will never forget you.

For now, welcome back to your senses. Tell your parents about your decision and don't let their reaction (if against your decision) make you budge. STOP, I repeat, STOP giving him sex for now, to avoid stories that touch.