Hi

I'm french (sorry for my English!) planning to get married in 2010 with a igbo man. I really want us to do the traditional wedding because is too wonderful and important for he's culture. He tell me many time that the traditional wedding it's too expensive, So, I suggest him to do it in Toronto where my family and igbo community leave and is parents and members of is family are ready to come. I would liked to know if we do the traditional outside Nigeria if it have the same value and if it will be recognize by everyone

Traditional marriage can be done anywhere and still have the same value. Besides, u r french and traditional marriage does not apply to you. This is just an African/Nigerian tradition per se.

B/w. Traditional marriages are not expensive. It really depends on the couple/family

Thanks for the reply! At least I know it have the same value. But my fiance didn't tell me that I cannot do it because I'm french! He said it's possible and we can do it, I hope is not fake hope!!!!

ofcourse u can do it but not a must, traditional marriage is done at the house of the woman

Who does this traditional marriage more to, you or your fiance, it sounds like it's very important to you, and he doesn't mind doing it in Toronto, which is probably the best idea.

It is lovely to see that you are passionate about your husband's heritage and background, hopefully he does not resent yours, and you two can bring a sort of mixture of both to the children, you might have, in order for them to be well grounded in who they are.

If there are any traditional things or statements he needs to do that comply with french tradition I would advise that he does that too, for fairness, and getting the respect right from the start of the marriage .

All the best.

P.s. your English is great. Anglais c'est Tres Bon (unlike my French)!!

Thanks for all the reply!!!

goldygirl:

Hi

I'm french (sorry for my English!) planning to get married in 2010 with a igbo man. I really want us to do the traditional wedding because is too wonderful and important for he's culture. He tell me many time that the traditional wedding it's too expensive, So, I suggest him to do it in Toronto where my family and igbo community leave and is  parents and members of is family are ready to come. I would liked to know if we do the traditional outside Nigeria if it have the same value and if it will be recognize by everyone

I really can't tell because I think the worth of a tradition cannot be measured.
Personally . . . .there's something that makes it VERY TRADITIONAL when
the T.W takes place in my DAD'S house in NIGERIA while I'm dressed in my
TRADITIONAL ATTIRE and there are enough TRADITIONAL MEALS and everything is TRADITIONALIZED.

Again . . . .It still boils down to how You want Your thing done.

POSTER
Your message here is not clear. You failed to state if you are Igbo or not. If an Igbo man is marrying a french, German, English, Irish and other western cultures, they do not do traditional weddings. But if an Igbo man is marrying an Igbo lady or related cultures, then there is the case for traditional marryiage.
So, what sort of french are you?. Just explain your self more and be specific with your ethnicity.

Andre,she said she is a French girl about to get married to an Igbo man.

ifyalways:

Andre,she said she is a French girl about to get married to an Igbo man.

based on the above quote, there is no need for a traditional marriage. Traditional marriage occurs when someone marries an Igbo lady or from related cultures. The Igbo man should not be expected to conduct a traditional marriage in this circumstance, and there is no point turning Igbo culture upside down.

Andre Uweh, agreed, but she can still do a traditional marriage if she wants. The thing though is that she would just have to find out how her culture in France does their traditional marriage.

The western world has statutory marriage while Ndiigbo has statutory and traditional marriage (Igba nkwu or Ihe nrisa). It is either the POSTER does not know what she wants or she is Igbo pretending to be French. There are lots of them.

In that case, her and her husband to-be would go and do the statutory marriage, instead of Ilu Nwaanyi.

If you are french the your husband will do french traditional wedding not Igbo traditional wedding. Igbo traditional wedding is only done when an Igbo girl is getting married. If an Igbo guy is getting married to somebody outside the Igbo community he will only do the marriage rites to conform with the tradition of his in laws.

Unless you are of Igbo ancestry but french born then you can do the trado but its weird doing it in Toronto.