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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by mrwonlasewonie: 8:43pm On Jul 17, 2016
braithwaite:


Gbam..you crack it
like niccolo machiavelli said in his book the prince

Follow the rules to get to the top and then when you get to the top break the effing rules to suit you

Thay should BE your philosophy if yOu're living with an African Christian parent.to them you have no opinion when it comes to religion. As a matter of fact your opinion is irrelevant.that's why you see teenagers and young adults who their parents forced to church looking uninterested. Many of them just stare at the pastor pretending to be listening. Theu are only hearing him they're not even listening while some are pinging in church.

But because they're living with authoritarian parents they have to be in church.it's an unwritten and unquestionable law in a Christian African home that on Sunday you're all going to church on Sunday

But if they weren't forced they will have been able to gradually allow the children to develop interest and one day the child will willingly on his own choose to go to church. When he feels convinced and convicted his own Christianity and dedication will be more stronger than even his parents

Research and look at how kids of overzealous Christian parents end up compared to those who didn't force their kids to go to church

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Presyyy(f): 8:56pm On Jul 17, 2016
nnamdibig:
That's the path you choose so don't complain. Our society is not ripe for such.


again if your parents believes that God gave them all they have, as an atheist, you don't deserve anything from them na!!!!


The moment I set my eyes on your post, I was blown off track, swept off my feet..WOW! What more can I type? Huh? Throwing me off balance should be a minor statement. You've got that talent that I've so long desired. Bro, you are too good. You know what? You've just ignited my morale to the highest peak. I really envy this post. Wish it came from me though. Elohim1 was talking about a hater but what I'm referring to is haters... I think some people aren't grateful having parents. Poster, if you want to remain an atheist even after this, try living your life like an orphan who haven't had someone to call father or mother right from day one and tell me if you wouldn't wish that people had guided you from the start. Tell me if you wouldn't wish that you would follow their doctrine even after seeing how children with parents that are disciplinarians treat them. Tell me that you wouldn't dare open your mouth to cry unto GOD during your trying times even when you are kidnapped and would be killed in few days. At times, we should have a rethink before we go into conclusion. If only we could see life in so many perspectives, we would bring ourselves to order to understand that our being in this world is not of our making but of someone else. The funny part is that you can't determine when you will die. Whatever progress you've achieved in this world must be left behind when you die. I wonder how you want to train your children and find a life partner who accepts your religion without complaints. Poster, when I saw your post, without doubts, I was really perplexed and numb for a while till I thought of giving in my opinion and I sure hope my opinion helps. Dear, pease, try to be fair.

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Lincolnburrows(m): 9:40pm On Jul 17, 2016
aaronson:
Op I suggest you pretend and blend in with them, you will not be with them forever. My parents never liked my idea of Atheism initially but the day I HUMILIATED their pastor during service, they start to respect my idea about Atheism and my dad even stopped church.

My advice is pretend to do every religious participation you told to do just for camouflage, You know yourself outside their roof.

how did u humiliate their pastor? I would like to hear the story
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by aaronson(m): 9:45pm On Jul 17, 2016
Lincolnburrows:


how did u humiliate their pastor? I would like to hear the story
Go on my profile and click on my topics, I started a thread in that regard.
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Maximus85(m): 10:25pm On Jul 17, 2016
anonym0us:
I'm from a Christian home but since my childhood I find it hard to be in any religion..i was always forced to go to church.sometimes my mum will invite the pastor and prayer warriors to conduct a deliverance section on me but still I'm always skeptical about religion..now I'm old enough to decide what I need and the kind of spiritual or non spiritual life I want to live but my parents always treat me like an outcast whenever I'm around . They even threatened to disown me if I don't get baptized...

plus other things I wouldn't like to mention
please how do atheist in the house cope with this kind of situation



They should take you to a psychiatrist.

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Tinyemeka(m): 10:40pm On Jul 17, 2016
sonOfLucifer:

Saul killed thousands, David tens of thousands, Yahweh millions of thousands. Satan is the good guy in the Bible. All classy and mysterious. Wonder why the angels who rebelled against 'The Most High' remained so loyal to Satan? He knows how to take care of his own.
Does he take care of you?

In what way?
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by whitebeard(m): 10:55pm On Jul 17, 2016
[quote author=Elohim1 post=47641866][/quote]dude u have issue don't quote me again...seems u are expecting a life full of comfort no pain, stress...I am not Justin..biko..and follow GOD with faith that's how u know he exists...if u like do shakara...!!!
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Drguzzykola(m): 11:03pm On Jul 17, 2016
allanphash7:
Are you saying that you also believe in Ogun or what do you mean by ogunlade ?
Ogun is same as ogunlade, am a religious believer but I believe ogunlade exist, there are many deity , am not his worshiper, u never belief anything call deity that's y I say try the ogunlade , jokingly use ur life as a pratical evidence to dare him whether u ll live to see evidence na, very funny people , the kind knock way im go knock u die is doing presup, wool, I don't have ur time biko
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by OgundeleT(m): 11:05pm On Jul 17, 2016
luluosas:
My God is the creator of heaven and earth. Jehovah is His name and He rules over the affairs of men from heaven. Take care
Yes he is since you are told or since you read it somewhere

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Pdizzle(m): 11:06pm On Jul 17, 2016
That's the problem of African parents, they are supposed to try to understand you, but you on the other hand should be aware of your environment, you are in Africa!
Try to be part of their religious activities when you're with them, and be a very good kid. The truth is the average Nigerian thinks being an atheist means you don't have a moral compass, suprise them by being a better person they'll come around.

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by NZAGHA(f): 11:10pm On Jul 17, 2016
anonym0us:
I'm from a Christian home but since my childhood I find it hard to be in any religion..i was always forced to go to church.sometimes my mum will invite the pastor and prayer warriors to conduct a deliverance section on me but still I'm always skeptical about religion..now I'm old enough to decide what I need and the kind of spiritual or non spiritual life I want to live but my parents always treat me like an outcast whenever I'm around . They even threatened to disown me if I don't get baptized...

plus other things I wouldn't like to mention
please how do atheist in the house cope with this kind of situation



my best advise to you is dis...
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Repent now and ask God to cleanse you for believing that he does not exist... The only thing that will save you in this life and the life to come is to believe in Jesus...

Just believe that

he cares for you
he loves you
fights for you
he wants to bless you.

Anything outside christ confirmation will lead to hell...

Note: hell was never made for man, but the devil. Why men go to hell is because they have choose to follow the way of satan...


Believing or not believing that Jesus reigns will never save us from judgement if we dont.. Do what pleases him....

Bruh, take time to think of the decision you make...

I pray you encounter the Lord and be set free from the devils.. Plans...

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Armstrong508: 11:12pm On Jul 17, 2016
you just have to bear it until you are able to stay on your own. the reason I became an atheist was cause I find religious pple full of hate for each other and Christian is the worst of all of them

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by tsamson(m): 11:19pm On Jul 17, 2016
anonym0us:
I'm from a Christian home but since my childhood I find it hard to be in any religion..i was always forced to go to church.sometimes my mum will invite the pastor and prayer warriors to conduct a deliverance section on me but still I'm always skeptical about religion..now I'm old enough to decide what I need and the kind of spiritual or non spiritual life I want to live but my parents always treat me like an outcast whenever I'm around . They even threatened to disown me if I don't get baptized...

plus other things I wouldn't like to mention
please how do atheist in the house cope with this kind of situation




hi brooo...

I think i know you,

your name start with R and end with N...


#OfficiallyAnon
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Nobody: 11:28pm On Jul 17, 2016
Tinyemeka:

Does he take care of you?

In what way?
I'm in love with a character in a story book, not a being. Hope you can tell the difference.

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Nobody: 11:29pm On Jul 17, 2016
Maximus85:


They should take you to a psychiatrist.
For not seeing things that can't be seen? undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Nobody: 11:38pm On Jul 17, 2016
sonOfLucifer:

For not seeing things that can't be seen? undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided

grin grin grin grin grin
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Antiparticle(m): 12:55am On Jul 18, 2016
This is one of the best pieces of advice to a young atheist, ever. You are such an empathetic person, @gameaddict.
gameaddict:
Atheists or those questioning their faith are usually advised to keep their status secret while they are still dependent on their parents or other family members.

You should not reveal your preference/status from a point of view which puts those you depend upon on the defensive. Don't even try to create religious arguments if the result is to prove them wrong immediately. Always start with simple, non argumentative questions, learn about their stance. If they appear to be dogmatic, be extra careful.

If OP isn't dependent on his/her parents, no need to worry. Stop arguing religion with them, stop making fun of them if you are, instead, start asking questions (smart questions that makes them feel like you really want to learn) and listen to what they have to say. Tell them you will think about it and do. You don't need to come back with something that makes them look foolish, instead, point out that their point may be valid but non universal, etc, and put in your own experience and why you have your own views. Don't argue, strive for peace.

If OP is still dependent however, keep things on the down low. If you've told them they are wrong, misinformed etc, apologise. Tell them you are sorry and would love to learn about their perspectives but that you won't like to be forced to accept what they believe without giving you explanations on why they believe it and time to consider their explanations.

If they tell you that the bible or Quran is the only proof they need, don't argue. Tell them about the history of how books like the bible and Quran were written, the oral traditions and time lags, the difficulties in translation, the differences in opinion/translation and tell them that is why you have trouble believing it immediately. If they are smart parents who are capable of learning, they will understand and also try to learn why you think the way you do. If they are dogmatic however, shut up, participate in non-harmful events they force you to, bide your time, and one day, you'll be independent and free to do what you like.

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by 41lady(m): 1:10am On Jul 18, 2016
OP... or guy, U are lucky Ur parent are not worshipping that Arab man, if not ur case is gone and forget u ever existed. If I am lieing ask people from the northern Nigeria who deny that religion and know how they are been hunted like bush meat.
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by GloryIsaac: 7:05am On Jul 18, 2016
mrwonlasewonie:
exactly. By now they should know force doesn't work on children. Examples abound every where

Look at Michael Jackson the son of Jehovah witness parents.did he become a Christian
Look at all this rappers that their moms forced to be in the choir. They ended up singing vulgar and lewd rap songs
children of pastors end up living completely opposite of what their parents preach
but I wonder why parents don't see in between the lines that their children are pretending just because they're still under their roof without knowing that there's always an inner self will in every human being to live the kind OF life he chooses to live

By the way the girl that I said walked out from the pulpit,the parents never pierced her ears now she has several ear lobes and tatoos.

Unfortunately african parents think force works for everything

Several ear lobes and tatoos! shocked She's already lost grin grin never expected her to take it this far.... The problem with us is that we over-do things, we are far more religious than those who brought it to us, funny how they're more developed than us, i know some friends who have already laid down a list of what they'll stop doing once they leave home, right now, they follow every rule and so on but once they leave, It is finished cheesy
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Maximus85(m): 7:29am On Jul 18, 2016
sonOfLucifer:

For not seeing things that can't be seen? undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided

Yes, for saying there's no air just because he can't see air.
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Maximus85(m): 7:31am On Jul 18, 2016
Fools only believe there's no God but they believe there's is devil.
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Nobody: 7:34am On Jul 18, 2016
Maximus85:


Yes, for saying there's no air just because he can't see air.
You don't need faith to breath. Don't be silly.

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Maximus85(m): 7:42am On Jul 18, 2016
sonOfLucifer:

You don't need faith to breath. Don't be silly.

See who is not stupeeeed.... So what do you need to breathe?
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by mrwonlasewonie: 7:59am On Jul 18, 2016
GloryIsaac:


Several ear lobes and tatoos! shocked She's already lost grin grin never expected her to take it this far.... The problem with us is that we over-do things, we are far more religious than those who brought it to us, funny how they're more developed than us, i know some friends who have already laid down a list of what they'll stop doing once they leave home, right now, they follow every rule and so on but once they leave, It is finished cheesy
exactly. Religion IS personal just like the kinds of clothes you buy,who you choose to marry,who you choose to give your virginity to etc.they're not things YOU force on kids.they end up rebelling and go overboard when YOU can no Longer control them.moreover control of children is just for a period of time.maxim of 13 years.

But when YOU tell them they feel they know it all
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by jojosweet(f): 8:15am On Jul 18, 2016
kilo4sure:
This is what is called atheist persecution, lol. Trials and temptation of your faith my brother.
or lack of grin
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by kilo4sure: 9:24am On Jul 18, 2016
jojosweet:
or lack of grin
Yeah, he should count it all joy.
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Armstrong508: 9:36am On Jul 18, 2016
Maximus85:


See who is not stupeeeed.... So what do you need to breathe?
all you need is your life
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Harvard13(m): 9:47am On Jul 18, 2016
anonym0us:
I'm from a Christian home but since my childhood I find it hard to be in any religion..i was always forced to go to church.sometimes my mum will invite the pastor and prayer warriors to conduct a deliverance section on me but still I'm always skeptical about religion..now I'm old enough to decide what I need and the kind of spiritual or non spiritual life I want to live but my parents always treat me like an outcast whenever I'm around . They even threatened to disown me if I don't get baptized...

plus other things I wouldn't like to mention
please how do atheist in the house cope with this kind of situation



ogbeni, obey ya parents, mba
learn from them, mba
if youre up to 18, then ure an adult, go fend for yaself
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Basalt(m): 10:06am On Jul 18, 2016
Busayorafael:
Hi Op.
I understand how tough African parents can be. They are your parents, and you will sometimes have to succumb to their wishes.

It won't take anything away from you if you get baptized. You don't believe in their god, right? Going for baptism won't affect you in anyway. It is just a placebo they believe; do well to satisfy them(your parents)

I'm a freethinker myself, and I still go to church. Why don't you become a Christian till you're old enough to settle down on your own? #JustSaying

I will do worse than your parents if I were them.

I know you must be from the southern geopolitical zone.

Either SE, SS or SW.

Its extremely rare to see a Northern atheist because they are so serious in their religion.

All these atheist madness is only predominant in the Southern part of Nigeria
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by Maximus85(m): 10:19am On Jul 18, 2016
Armstrong508:
all you need is your life

And what is the source of that life?
Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by GloryIsaac: 10:33am On Jul 18, 2016
mrwonlasewonie:
exactly. Religion IS personal just like the kinds of clothes you buy,who you choose to marry,who you choose to give your virginity to etc.they're not things YOU force on kids.they end up rebelling and go overboard when YOU can no Longer control them.moreover control of children is just for a period of time.maxim of 13 years.

But when YOU tell them they feel they know it all

Nah, African parents are always correct, there's no need argueing that.. You only become correct when you're no longer under their roof .. Simple grin.


To those shouting '"Its only in the south and all that b.s'", Sentiments aside...How has your Fanaticism developed the North undecided , How has it allowed you to think your way out of the current mess this country is in If we all could put in the same effort we put in religion to develop this country, we would surpass even U.S in no distant time.

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Re: My Parents Are Treating Me Bad Because I'm An Atheist- Anonym0us by mrwonlasewonie: 10:49am On Jul 18, 2016
GloryIsaac:


Nah, African parents are always correct, there's no need argueing that.. You only become correct when you're no longer under their roof .. Simple grin.


To those shouting '"Its only in the south and all that b.s'", Sentiments aside...How has your Fanaticism developed the North undecided , How has it allowed you to think your way out of the current mess this country is in If we all could put in the same effort we put in religion to develop this country, we would surpass even U.S in no distant time.
my oga made a statement and I was shocked at his open mindedness. He's also a pastor btw.he said any country that uses science, research and technology as it's yardstick always develop fast as opposed to countries like Nigeria that uses religion, sentiments and ethnicity as it's yardstick for policies

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