blank:



No more drive. Everything's gone. But I have made my choice to be grateful for what I have and to ensure I replicate it in my kid's lives. They are boys so no stopping them.

Hi Blank,

Will respond to you.

In my opinion, we can have it all. Marriage in the early twenties has a plethora of advantages, for sure: Fewer expectations of your partner cause you are just starting out, peak fertility, high libido to please and be pleased etc. But career is one of the few things a woman has control over so she should get on with it. In relationships unfortunately woman have limited control. As long as you desire having a man, the psychology of men cant be overlooked; they want women younger. A young woman has different men knocking at the same time, we need to determine what is our base requirement of a partner, once we see it we take the plunge and not wait for perfection cause it doesn't exist.

ginger123:
In my opinion, we can have it all. Marriage in the early twenties has a plethora of advantages, for sure: Fewer expectations of your partner cause you are just starting out, peak fertility, high libido to please and be pleased etc. But career is one of the few things a woman has control over so she should get on with it. In relationships unfortunately woman have limited control. As long as you desire having a man, the psychology of men cant be overlooked; they want women younger. A young woman has different men knocking at the same time, we need to determine what is our base requirement of a partner, once we see it we take the plunge and not wait for perfection cause it doesn't exist.

Well said.

By God I will try to let my female children complete their academic pursuit by 24.....after that na to find husband o........you can never compare a woman to a man.....how many women can find husband at 45.......but a man can.......there is a age you get to as a woman.....Na divine intervention to find husband

doyinbaby:
By God I will try to let my female children complete their academic pursuit by 24.....after that na to find husband o........you can never compare a woman to a man.....how many women can find husband at 45.......but a man can.......there is a age you get to as a woman.....Na divine intervention to find husband

A lot of women will shoot you down for such comments. Who said they cannot find a young vibrant man at 45? What do you mean?

There is absolutely no difference between a man and a woman, be it biologically or psychologically. Please, don't cause confusion here oooo!

Processor01:


A lot of women will shoot you down for such comments. Who said they cannot find a young vibrant man at 45? What do you mean?

There is absolutely no difference between a man and a woman, be it biologically or psychologically. Please, don't cause confusion here oooo!

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doyinbaby:
By God I will try to let my female children complete their academic pursuit by 24.....after that na to find husband o........you can never compare a woman to a man.....how many women can find husband at 45.......but a man can.......there is a age you get to as a woman.....Na divine intervention to find husband

The OP encourages 'early' marriage in men & women.

She @ 25 married a 28yr old man.

So 45yr old men might not have their pick except they are rich & who wants the father of her 5yr old to be 50,

bukatyne:


The OP encourages 'early' marriage in men & women.

She @ 25 married a 28yr old man.

So 45yr old men might not have their pick except they are rich & who wants the father of her 5yr old to be 50,

I believe she alluded to biological nature of men and women which seems to wane as they aged.

Anyway, she has been rightfully corrected.

blank:



No more drive. Everything's gone. But I have made my choice to be grateful for what I have and to ensure I replicate it in my kid's lives. They are boys so no stopping them.

Hello blank

How are you doing now?

Sorry I promised to respond however did not.

I understand how you feel (as currently working a job I have grown to hate as I feel I am made for more/something else).

That said, I have grown to understand that working a job no matter how 'fulfilling' is helping someone else to grow his/her dreams and after a while, there is the yearning to do more/ do your own thing (I have seen well placed colleagues 'doing well and growing' at an accelerated pace resign to do their own thing or stay at home to re-strategize their life.

A career alone cannot give that satisfaction human craves for. In fact, it is after every other thing is settled that you think of a fulfilling career or not.

I would say search deep on what your calling is and start to develop it. It never grows old nor loses its drive.

Cheers.