1) The next time you have a negative thought about something your partner has done, try to come up with a more neutral explanation for his/her actions. Don't distort.

2) If you feel like you've been out of sync with your partner, discuss your philosophy of life together. This is for both of you to share what you want life to be about, where you want to end up and what these things mean to you.

3) To build a rock-solid relationship, start by acknowledging rather than ignoring the ordinary moments in your relationship.

4) Playfulness is one thing that holds a happy relationship together. Share happy moments. Play like kids when necessary.