it is always advisable for a woman to work and then live within the means of her salary married or not.

Too bad.
This is one of the reasons why I don't subscribe to being a house wife.
Any thing can happen at any time and the woman will be the one to suffer.
Even women with children have been treated like this by some families after the demise of the husband.

creepsyme:
she didnt have children with the late pastor, a close family friend told me she was very saucy dunnoo hw true.

tobesticality:
Our ndigbo brothers, I hail you

I have never insulted anybody on Nairaland, but I'll make an exception with you. If you weren't semi literate you'd have known that the Enenches are Idomas from Benue state.

Saao:
I'm an idoma man. Tradition demands that she spend 3months mourning his husband Cuz of this modern age at least 14 days in the village. The man was buried last week and she's now in Abuja why? Again she didn't have children? This kind of act is not common with our people maybe something happen. We need to hear from the family before insulting everyone. Finally Dr. Enenche is the first son of the family and his house and church closer to lugbe I expect her to approach him before living the house. There are more to it

stupid tradition.. so if a woman works in a bank where the management will not give her 14days, she should resign and face hardship because of tradition ??
Tradition should not be followed to the letter okay?

wickedworld:


Idiot

have u gone to book your sessions in yabaleft





cos it seems u are getting out of hand













mods should nt ban me oooo cos he started it

tobesticality:
Our ndigbo brothers, I hail you

So Benue is Nidigbo?

No wonder you are still writing JAMB for over 12 years!

tobesticality:
Our ndigbo brothers, I hail you

So Benue is Ndigbo?

No wonder you are still writing JAMB for over 12 years!

Pastor Paul of dunamis church should said something. I know dis family very well.no family members can do this without pastor Paul consent. Do any family members knew how odiba( sammoses) started his ministry. U guys should stop insulting IDOMA people. Period.

She no born any pikin or pikins for the man? Why dem pursue am go strong oooooo!!!!Hummmmm!!

Please I want to learn all I can about Idoma customs and traditions because I'm currently engaged to one. Thanks.

thecardinal:
I have never insulted anybody on Nairaland, but I'll make an exception with you. If you weren't semi literate you'd have known that the Enenches are Idomas from Benue state.

Was really expecting to see mega insult. Anyway let him manage this one

Hmmmmmnm.........

jaymejate:
Ladies read this very well

Do not let any man acquire you like a property. If he dies, the family will send you away cos you'll be a useless property. Be an help meet not gold digger.

Strictly for those that want good marriage.

Back to the topic. Ask the woman if he hustle with the man. It would be NO, that's why she was sent away like that. And she should also have been an independent woman.

this kinda mentality kinda shock me beyond words, sorry to say, ur comment is shallow n myopic. hia! there are many women who hustled with their husband but we're thrown out after d death of d man. where were d family members when d man was hustling? even if that woman sold her last wrapper to support d man, was she supposed to announce to d family? like 'see o, I dey hustle with my husband now o, no come chase me when he die'. right?

georgee:
Stupid useless elders in the village. i no kuku ma get village

So you noh get village?Abi you be alien?
If dem discover oil for that village u dey deny so and e kon be your family land.u go open your mouth sey you noh get village abi.

agarawu23:
The family did something silly by trowing her out of her husbands house.

BUT

I will like to hear from the family as well cos the step is confusing.

Exactly

All I can say is that christianityisshit

gidjah:
You just spoke my mind brother, I sure trust uncle Dunamis will do something about it else ...I honestly believe he won't allow such to even happen .it can't be true, he knows the implications na.But the woman too spoke too hastily, haba just few days after burial and you are already into scandals! !!!!

they too shouldn't have thrown her out few days after burial. Both parties are guilty of the same crime but the woman blew it out of proportion by granting interview to press.

DrMuzoic:


Was really expecting to see mega insult. Anyway let him manage this one

I tempered justice with mercy. Make we pity am

DrMuzoic:


Was really expecting to see mega insult. Anyway let him manage this one

I tempered justice with mercy. Make we pity am

Is Pastor sammoses eneche related to Dr pastor Paul Eneche, the founder of Dunamins church?if yes, Am interested in what Dr pastor Paul eneche, said or handled the issue.

God! This man don die b dat..mehn rip o,d church is situated ryt in from my house Abuja... Even dia church bin no dey function... Op I go knw u b dat ooo

HW far?

jaymejate:
Ladies read this very well

Do not let any man acquire you like a property. If he dies, the family will send you away cos you'll be a useless property. Be an help meet not gold digger.

Strictly for those that want good marriage.

Back to the topic. Ask the woman if he hustle with the man. It would be NO, that's why she was sent away like that. And she should also have been an independent woman.

NO.. She is pompous woman bros, God forgiv me, she behave like "she is d jesu glory" of dat church..

On sunday naw u will still c zombies going to their church. .....I like myself sha...fellowship in my house

FynBabe:
Why exactly did she return to Abuja so quick?
According to custom and tradition, she should still remain in the village for at least 14 days.
Could it be because of her children's school?

Honestly, I am confused.
All those village elders ehn, God dey sha.
It is well o!

All these customs and traditions are the reasons we fail to move forward. Why must someone be forced to remain in the village after burial? The dead is gone already, staying in the village to mourn should be by choice.
Assuming, a person resides outside Nigeria , will the person stay back in the village and abandon his/her life/work/business?

FynBabe:
I have heard so much about them too from my mum's colleague as she's married to one.
Their customs are weird.
Let your sister be ready to submit her monthly salary against her wish all the time (the man can decide whether or not to give her from it),there are particular parts of a chicken she must keep for her husband if not, she will fall sick and die.
She MUST not cheat (this is easy to adhere to), if she does, she must confess else she risks loosing her male children and husband to unknown ailment.
Looking at my mum's colleague back then, you would never believe she went to school. She used to wear bathroom slippers to work, was trekking a very long distance and the dressing was zero all because she would have submitted her salary and the man was left with the decision of whether to give or not.
She said the husband wasn't giving her anything and she couldn't complain.
My mum said fellow women adviced her to be keeping part of the money for herself but she said the punishment for doing that was death.
My dear, these are the ones I can remember now because it was a very long time ago.

this is serious! Thanks I appreciate.

Ogwucheveekee I dey wait o! His name too is Ogwuche

Is she an illiterate? Doesn't she know the way to police station? When will widow start receiving sense to that until the late husband's will is read, they are the custodians of the deceased's property and not any brother or relatives? People perish due to ignorance sha!

Pst Paul Eneche should quickly look into this matter, becos he is a pastor and not watch his brothers family turn apart for selfish reasons.

mickool:
Is Pastor sammoses eneche related to Dr pastor Paul Eneche, the founder of Dunamins church?if yes, Am interested in what Dr pastor Paul eneche, said or handled the issue.

YES!

bennyrazz:
they too shouldn't have thrown her out few days after burial. Both parties are guilty of the same crime but the woman blew it out of proportion by granting interview to press.

do you blame her that's her own security! Few days may turn out to be few years if she keeps quiet.

FynBabe:
Why exactly did she return to Abuja so quick?
According to custom and tradition, she should still remain in the village for at least 14 days.
Could it be because of her children's school?

Honestly, I am confused.
All those village elders ehn, God dey sha.
It is well o!

Could she spend 14 days with people who stood and watched after her sister-in-law slapped her for mourning her husband? Greed is the motivation here. She will eventually triumph over people who want to reap where they did not sow.

phr0n3:


stupid tradition.. so if a woman works in a bank where the management will not give her 14days, she should resign and face hardship because of tradition ??
Tradition should not be followed to the letter okay?

so u can't mourn ur lovely husband for at least 14 days? What part of Nigeria are u from?

Still something fishy about this story. A person on her level suppose don call lawyer or police and not idoma voice.
The true story will probably be quite interesting.