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|Is Anything Wrong With Me? by cozyfaithex(f): 9:45pm On Oct 13, 2016|
hi everyone,this is my first tym of posting here,I ve read several advice pple give here hence I decide to bring this here.lemme go straight to the point. I discovered that I alwaz fall for the wrong guz,I have never enjoyed that spec in relationship that must girls enjoy, I am not a bad person,I have a good heart nd I try my best to play my role as a gf but somehow my bf will jux jilt me for anoda gurl,no matter Wht I do,I wish to be loved back,currently my bf jilted me again nd this is really having a great effect on me as it's making me have a low self esteem,it's making depress.please I need advice
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Cutehector(m): 9:50pm On Oct 13, 2016|
U fail to determine what kind of ladies the boyfriend u have are attracted to.
Btw, how did u meet your ex boyfriend, did u throw urself at him or he was the one who begged for your time
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by surreal15(m): 9:52pm On Oct 13, 2016|
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by spartoo: 10:04pm On Oct 13, 2016|
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|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Welcomme: 10:08pm On Oct 13, 2016|
Op, may b the reason y u are falling for the wrong guyz is because u are jilting or snubbing the ones that really love u. Mayb those that love u are not ur spec (not handsome, not tall, Not rich, not religious e.tc) U should try and give those guyz chance to see if it could work. Stop pushing urself to those guyz that do not love u.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Iseoluwani: 10:13pm On Oct 13, 2016|
Guys are giving you red card!!! !
Check your weakness. Pride/anger/jealousy and stuffs like that and your dressing
The way u comport ya self. Are you selling your self or.... ..
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Xynthialuvy(f): 11:53pm On Oct 13, 2016|
Are u decent, neat, rude, lazy, lousy,....etc? Check urzelf
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 4:03am On Oct 14, 2016|
In this world where 90% of guys have no self control (both married and unmarried), all the above posters have chosen to blame the op by telling her to "check yourself". Some days I don't know what to think about some things I read here.
Op sweetie, don't be moved by sight in the dating world. Let God lead you. Look for someone whose values are intact, not some sleek, yet player kind of guy who only has a sweet tongue and nothing more. Yes, people pretend, but that takes us back to ...let God lead you.
And no, you don't have to start let it pick at yourself esteem. I don't know what religion you are, but just to let you know, even the Almighty God faces rejection. Does it change the fact that he is Almighty and everything good and perfect? No. Hence, rejection should not define you or make you question your worth.
Hold your head high; let it go. Change your focus in men if it isn't what it is supposed to be. You'll be fine.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by cozyfaithex(f): 8:02am On Oct 14, 2016|
Thanks a lot everyone,I really appreciate ur advice,it will go a long way.@ Gaborone thanks.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 8:06am On Oct 14, 2016|
You're welcome sis.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by ElsonMorali: 8:58am On Oct 14, 2016|
Nothing is wrong with you.
Look at the bright side. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
They weren't yours to begin with. So be thankful they're gone.
Don't rush into another relationship just yet. Chill out and make out time for self I development.
Enjoy your singlehood for a while. Being single is not a curse. It can be fun.
Go out and enjoy yourself to the fullest. Always have at the back of your mind how very special you are. There's just only one of you in about 7billion humans on earth.
That special person who will value you will come into your life unexpectedly when you're busy doing something else.
Enjoy yourself. Life's to short to be moping around d with low self esteem.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Weirdberg1: 9:41am On Oct 14, 2016|
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by jashar(f): 9:46am On Oct 14, 2016|
Are you desperate?
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by BEENUEL(m): 9:57am On Oct 14, 2016|
Ma'am, pls forget Relationship for now, Goan make name for ur self, we need more of Chimanmada, Okonja, and Hillary....This relationship ish sev ...Abeg swerve am!
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|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Chubhie: 6:29pm On Oct 14, 2016|
You are not the problem per say. but,I hold you responsible for failing to set a standard. I can understand how used and humiliated you feel.
It becomes quite embarrassing once you give a piece of your paradise in the process.Why not conceal and withhold access to paradise till marriage and see who stays for the other good things you as a special creature of God is endowed with other than the sexual side of you?
Take time off and build yourself up and then set a standard. Your life is too precious to be a walkthrough for all manner of humans to access.
Get connected to the spiritual side of you through constant spiritual practices till it becomes part of you.
I'm rooting for you.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by mastermaestro(m): 7:03pm On Oct 14, 2016|
Good people usually end up with the worst, while the best always falls into the hands of wise people. Your goodness does not guarantee sweetened relationships. Learn wisdom from folks around. Stop throwing yourself open to every love-looking deal. With being good alone your fingers would always get burnt.
Be more rational, wear a smart hat, share the steering wheel, quit sitting back to watch one good-for-nothing Looney crash you into another wall of heartbreak.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by ifewise(m): 8:25pm On Oct 14, 2016|
God is just keeping & protecting you for ur future husband.When you meet ur husband he wont leave u no matter ur flaw.U sowing a seed now,U will reap it when d time comes,Be patient & work on ur self.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by babyfaceafrica: 8:50pm On Oct 14, 2016|
Hmmm be patient,your prince charmig is coming
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Richy4(m): 9:20pm On Oct 14, 2016|
What kind of guys do you always get attracted to in the first place
If you are looking for those flashy ones, I tell you.. there will be competition just like job interview...
Let us look at it this way, when there's a vacancy in a.... let us say zenith bank of Nigeria...
Many candidates will apply for so many different reasons..
<< some applied because they want to change their job
<<some applied because they want to feel cool about working in a bank despite the fact that they do not need it because their dads got multi national companies..
<<some applied because they genuinely needed that job
<<some applied for several other reasons best known to them... But remember their's only one vacancy...
People will say or do anything just to get this cool Zenith bank job offer isn't..Besides it is cool to say u are working with them right..
Let us say in this case that the guys you were always attracted to was zenith bank...and you have seen this kind of competition...and sometimes Zenith layoff their staffs and gets new ones.....Don't you think it is time to re-adjust and try your hand in Micro finance bank were people will not kill to get in.....It is still a Bank..You can also try the first generation banks, those ones hardly layoff their staffs....There is nothing wrong with you dear.. just change diet
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 10:22pm On Oct 14, 2016|
Gaborone:Hmmm Gaborone, 90%?? That's too high oo. There are much more good guys out there. Nice comment though, as usual.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 10:38pm On Oct 14, 2016|
Dear O.p, I understand the pain and frustration that comes with a failed relationship.Not every relationship works out,
take this approach, and tell yourself you were too good for them. Try evaluate what you the next person before you begin to put in a level of commitment. do not just be in a relationship for the sake of it, but be in a fulfilling one. goodluck dear..Heal fast and be happy. God bless!
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Nobody: 7:51pm On Oct 15, 2016|
Hmmm Gaborone, 90%?? That's too high oo. There are much more good guys out there. Nice comment though, as usual.
lol. Touche! I admit that's too high. Don't mind me.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by yvelchstores(f): 3:17pm On Oct 16, 2016|
cozyfaithex:you have no business having boy friend. face ur studies. what u need is God. build ur relationship wit him n face your future. when d time is right, a good man will ask for your hand In marriage. u shld stop casting your precious body to d swine. don't do it because everyone else is. cheers.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by davidif: 4:02am On Mar 14, 2017|
And you know this how??
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by sisisioge: 5:26am On Mar 14, 2017|
It all starts with you babes. Love yourself, be confident, be objective and live right. I strongly believe we attract who we are...Who are you darling? You can't be a dunderhead and expect to roll with a smartie, you can't be eloquent and jive with an uncoordinated fellow, an asinuu will not come for you if your head sits well on your shoulders...
Work on yourself first, e-diots will run from you. Good luck.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by Afam4eva(m): 6:58am On Mar 14, 2017|
cozyfaithex:The problem may be the kind of boys you get attracted to and not you per se. If you're a cheerful giver then it's possible that once they get what they need, they scram to their next victim. So, at this point, you may need to be more objective about what you want from a relationship.
|Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? by pete26(m): 10:50am On May 03, 2017|
cozyfaithex:have you tried asking him the reason he left u? Start from thr..
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