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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by jclassiq(m): 10:40pm On Oct 24, 2016
kokosari2:


Ogade abeg shift go one side. The so called advice that 'a woman can do better' was only kidding. I don't need anyone to advice me to self service or not. What I need especially from guys that used to do such and have stopped is ideas to make him stop cos it irritates me.
madam dis ur case is simple o. U have been failing in ur conjugal responsibilities. Period.
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by jclassiq(m): 10:46pm On Oct 24, 2016
kokosari2:

No one is forcing anything. It's clear you don't have the ideas I requested so why comment? I should stop watching when I wake up on him doing it or I walk in on him while in the act. Mtchew
seems to me like you are a very selfish woman. Who wouldnt prefer masturbation?

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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by saintfrank(m): 10:48pm On Oct 24, 2016
Masturbation its not just not only addiction or a sin.......It's a diseases when you became so obsessed in any act you can not joyfully be proud of'' that when devil itself will start parading and taken control over your life.....D only solution to cure such diseases its d fear of God....As a wife you might be willing to do everything sexually right to please him d more or make him stop masturbating, D fact is that he was long lost pleasure in feminine satisfaction...the only satisfaction that pleases him d most is the one he derived from masturbation.

Here is few sequential steps taken control over the spirit of masturbation:

Let him be closer to God
give him the avenue to discuses all his sexual wants and fantasy with you
Pray to God to remove that imaginary spirit of fantasy away from him.....
do your best to please him the most in your matrimonial bed

These few outline might help him' only if his willing to accept the fact that his suffering from a diseases.....that what masturbation is. masturbation is far worse than any other sexual diseases because to you its simply a way of pleasing yourself and satisfying your sexual need's in the most satisfying avenue...

Defect of masturbation:

Its obstruct your relationship with God
It kills your spiritual growth
make your guardian angel to be distance from you
you start depreciating physically, and kind look so washed
it gives you cluster headache
reduce sperm count/make it watering
constant or everyday masturbation might even weakened your eye sight
causes chronic fatigue..........

If we have any Vaseline member in the house let them quote me wrong, at least they're having two or three of this problem'' which they don't even know the cause yet and to them it's normal or just a change of body system.

I rest my case.....Guess somehow this msg will be useful to the @poster ......or any other person suffering from same masturbation diseases
cool cool cool

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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Zedoo(m): 10:48pm On Oct 24, 2016
Mastur....is demonic they say...
Same people who lash anything lashable...that one is "normal" dey say...
African....logic
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by fatdick(m): 10:53pm On Oct 24, 2016
Cutesexy1:
I believe it a psychological thing,just discuss things over with him,i sincerely believe everything will be fine.On a more serious note,you should not have brought your family issue to a public domain,you should sit up with your hubby and resolve this issue,every marriage has it own challenges,yours is not the first neither will it be the last.
This level of maturity is one of many reasons why I'm crazy about you!

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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Hades2016(m): 10:54pm On Oct 24, 2016
kokosari2:
Please what can I do, my husband seems to be addicted to porn and masturbation. He does it at every opportunity he has, even on our matrimonial bed and it's quite disgusting.
delete all the porn in his phone and fuvk him all the time maybe its gonna help undecided
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by lastkingsman: 11:06pm On Oct 24, 2016
rheether:
Fvck him all the time.

I wouldn't mind you doing the same to me grin
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Dyt(f): 11:11pm On Oct 24, 2016
Silkmoth33:


kiss kiss

kiss kiss


*just saw ur post in my followings, and I thought I would blow a few kisses before going to the next thread*

How body? Hope it still dey inside cloth?
Or lying bare under d bed covers, about to be warmed up.

E dey dia ooo
E dey maintain
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by dice0407(m): 11:37pm On Oct 24, 2016
kokosari2:
Please what can I do, my husband seems to be addicted to porn and masturbation. He does it at every opportunity he has, even on our matrimonial bed and it's quite disgusting.

Firstly, I'll like us to understand that masturbation is Demonically motivated.
Masturbation is a product of the mind, our thoughts ("for out of the Abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks or better still(the body reacts). It is due to a poor self esteem and a sense of inferiority. This sense of inferiority builds up gradually in the mind thus the need to have a feeling of Superiority and control leading to strange sexual desires(FANTASIES) that even the wife can't satisfy, no matter how hard she tries.

The road to dropping this habit is gradual just like any other addiction.
firstly,
1. He should admit to the fact that he needs help .
2. Seek help from specialist and persons who have been able to break free of these habits.
3. As his wife, now is the time to stand with him. fulfile ur marital vows. Finally,
4. Prayer is the key. Because when we can't cope, Jesus offers hope.
Thank you.
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by fumisko(f): 12:11am On Oct 25, 2016
Wait. I don't even get u. Don't you touch your husband's dick and rub it as pre intimacy before making love? So what's the big deal? when u see him do it, be loving, tell him babe i am here and u dint even call me to me help u with that, Haba...and give him a sweet handjob. before u know it has moved into the real humping knacking of sex. No wonder there are so many married men cheating...women be more open or prostitutes who are outside would take care of your man...so u can't give ur man a Mouth Gig?...the bible said his body has become yours and yours his...so anything is accepted ma, even if you want to eat his shit...relax be open..have sex with him on the floor, in the kitchen, make it fun...even if you are fat and ugly and you spontaneous, he won't see that unattractive part, give him a hand job in the car on your way from an occasion one evening...or in the morning when he is going to work give him a Mouth Action...if he has a personal office at work...pay him a visit...lock the door tell him u where finking of him all day at work and need a 5 min quickie.
Be spontaneous
It's a shame Dt u r there n he is masturbating him self...Wat is your use...if his libido is high is one blowwjob per day too much to give the Man U claim to love if that's what makes him happy? Haba. He shldnt evn masturbate at all cus masturbation should be equal to u giving him a hand job.
My question is how do u even have sex with him because if his touching his dick is irritating u, I wonder then if u ever touch it as preintimacy or u suffer d poor guy
Christainity doesn't stop this Abeg all u over religious women
Safe your home please abeg
Be prayertizing what is not a problem. There are better things on God's table like hungry people n people with cancer
Better safe ur home before he starts visiting ashewo. Thank God he never start
Ur spontaneous acts shld b porn enuf Dt he won't evn remember it

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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by TWoods(m): 12:32am On Oct 25, 2016
fumisko:
Wait. I don't even get u. Don't you touch your husband's dick and rub it as pre intimacy before making love? So what's the big deal? when u see him do it, be loving, tell him babe i am here and u dint even call me to me help u with that, Haba...and give him a sweet handjob. before u know it has moved into the real humping knacking of sex. No wonder there are so many married men cheating...women be more open or prostitutes who are outside would take care of your man...so u can't give ur man a Mouth Gig?...the bible said his body has become yours and yours his...so anything is accepted ma, even if you want to eat his shit...relax be open..have sex with him on the floor, in the kitchen, make it fun...even if you are fat and ugly and you spontaneous, he won't see that unattractive part, give him a hand job in the car on your way from an occasion one evening...or in the morning when he is going to work give him a Mouth Action...if he has a personal office at work...pay him a visit...lock the door tell him u where finking of him all day at work and need a 5 min quickie.
Be spontaneous
It's a shame Dt u r there n he is masturbating him self...Wat is your use...if his libido is high is one blowwjob per day too much to give the Man U claim to love if that's what makes him happy? Haba. He shldnt evn masturbate at all cus masturbation should be equal to u giving him a hand job.
My question is how do u even have sex with him because if his touching his dick is irritating u, I wonder then if u ever touch it as preintimacy or u suffer d poor guy
Christainity doesn't stop this Abeg all u over religious women
Safe your home please abeg
Be prayertizing what is not a problem. There are better things on God's table like hungry people n people with cancer
Better safe ur home before he starts visiting ashewo. Thank God he never start
Ur spontaneous acts shld b porn enuf Dt he won't evn remember it

Your husband is one fortunate soul.

This thread was long on every reason why Nigerian marriages are boring. We over spiritualize everything. He's married to you so he is free to masturbate on his bed. Him doing it is an indication that you're not doing your marital duties. I feel sorry for the poor guy. That's why it's imperative to discuss sexual preferences BEFORE marriage.

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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Familyfirst: 12:40am On Oct 25, 2016
kokosari2:
Please what can I do, my husband seems to be addicted to porn and masturbation. He does it at every opportunity he has, even on our matrimonial bed and it's quite disgusting.
read this post and make sure he reads it.
http://familyparliament.com/Thread/things-nobody-ever-told-you-about-pornography/
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by shomutuski(m): 12:56am On Oct 25, 2016
rheether:
Fvck him all the time.

Bad bitch! I like thee.
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Ratello: 1:10am On Oct 25, 2016
thorpido:
Only him can make the decision to break the addiction.
He must be ready to delete porn from his phone and laptop.He should communicate his sexual needs with you and try to work together for a mutually beneficial satisfaction.
Its an addiction sir, all what you proffer here won't save him. That man simply needs deliverance.
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Ratello: 1:17am On Oct 25, 2016
rheether:
Fvck him all the time.
That's not possible now. Her husband needs "spiritual help" masturbation is deeper than what you guys think.
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Tundeiab(m): 1:17am On Oct 25, 2016
kokosari2:

Lol, but we all have some crazy fantasies at one time or the other. Self control and discipline is the key thing. I've discussed it with him on several occasion and he doesn't have any cogent reason for going into the act, probably when I start mine, he will see how disgusting it looks and this will make him stop.
How old are you? It seems you are tired of the marriage!
If you continue with this kind of mindset, I doubt if the marriage will be in existence in the next 2 years.
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Ibraheemmawa(m): 1:20am On Oct 25, 2016
kokosari2:
Please what can I do, my husband seems to be addicted to porn and masturbation. He does it at every opportunity he has, even on our matrimonial bed and it's quite disgusting.
just make him hate that thing.I mean f..ck well.
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by metallisc(m): 2:11am On Oct 25, 2016
rheether:
Fvck him all the time.


mmmhhhh... this gyal.. mu na gi nwere meeting to hold in private!! grin grin grin
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by metallisc(m): 2:14am On Oct 25, 2016
fumisko:
Wait. I don't even get u. Don't you touch your husband's dick and rub it as pre intimacy before making love? So what's the big deal? when u see him do it, be loving, tell him babe i am here and u dint even call me to me help u with that, Haba...and give him a sweet handjob. before u know it has moved into the real humping knacking of sex. No wonder there are so many married men cheating...women be more open or prostitutes who are outside would take care of your man...so u can't give ur man a Mouth Gig?...the bible said his body has become yours and yours his...so anything is accepted ma, even if you want to eat his shit...relax be open..have sex with him on the floor, in the kitchen, make it fun...even if you are fat and ugly and you spontaneous, he won't see that unattractive part, give him a hand job in the car on your way from an occasion one evening...or in the morning when he is going to work give him a Mouth Action...if he has a personal office at work...pay him a visit...lock the door tell him u where finking of him all day at work and need a 5 min quickie.
Be spontaneous
It's a shame Dt u r there n he is masturbating him self...Wat is your use...if his libido is high is one blowwjob per day too much to give the Man U claim to love if that's what makes him happy? Haba. He shldnt evn masturbate at all cus masturbation should be equal to u giving him a hand job.
My question is how do u even have sex with him because if his touching his dick is irritating u, I wonder then if u ever touch it as preintimacy or u suffer d poor guy
Christainity doesn't stop this Abeg all u over religious women
Safe your home please abeg
Be prayertizing what is not a problem. There are better things on God's table like hungry people n people with cancer
Better safe ur home before he starts visiting ashewo. Thank God he never start
Ur spontaneous acts shld b porn enuf Dt he won't evn remember it

Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by metallisc(m): 2:19am On Oct 25, 2016
99foxxy:
Aunty, download plenty porn on your phone when he starts his usual action, you too begin your own and see what happens. Maybe seeing you join his league will make him change and lastly are you a virgin? if your not then spoil him with sex, different styles, why you de fall your hand na, seduce am in a sexy way, give him mouth gigs and many more. Read books and develop in the areas your lacking.


abeg o! please.. ejoooor... when are we meeting in the other room....emm... for conference purposes!! please respond asap so that i won't start doing like the OPs husband o! grin grin
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by metallisc(m): 2:24am On Oct 25, 2016
Irishrena1:
OP if he's addicted to the videos, just remain contented with the fact that its a nonhuman he's releasing on. Believe me i met someone that said he's addicted to watching pornography and it doesn't matter how much sex he gets in a day, if he hasn't masturbated he still will be missing something. And his way of masturbating too was odd. He never uses his hand to stroke, he can be in public, lie face down on the floor like he's resting but unknown to others, he's masturbating. In that kind of case, there's no amount of lovemaking you give him that will cure him.

When next you meet him doing it, don't frown, just let him. When he's gotten a perfect h**don, open for him while the porn is still on. Try it and see how much he'll open up to you from thenceforth about why he's addicted to the videos. You might just need to be watching those porn with him when he feels like it and let him not use his hand, let him into you. Then gradually withdraw the videos from your lovemaking sessions. Remember its gradually

choi, babe your experience in nackology don give me erection o! abeg you still single?? cool because if you can open at will, i will be open to anything and nack you to oblivion! true story! grin grin grin grin
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Mann11: 6:04am On Oct 25, 2016
Dear, be sure the tightness of your kitty is not the issue. If it is, sufficient dose of Kegel exercise will fix it. Mann11 cares
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Mann11: 6:21am On Oct 25, 2016
Cutesexy1:
I believe it a psychological thing,just discuss things over with him,i sincerely believe everything will be fine.On a more serious note,you should not have brought your family issue to a public domain,you should sit up with your hubby and resolve this issue,every marriage has it own challenges,yours is not the first neither will it be the last.
Anytime I see that expression, I get infuriated. Nairaland is a faceless forum for Ogun lakaaye's sake. Dear, aren't two or more heads better than one again?

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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by oziteife(m): 6:25am On Oct 25, 2016
Well all you need to do is put him in ur prayers all d time God will clear dat masturbation from him in Jesus name Amen.
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Spidermon: 6:35am On Oct 25, 2016
Honestly evaluate yourself physically. Are you still as atttactive sexually as when he met you?

How good is your sex game? Watch some of the porn videos and see what is different.

Do you even give him enough sex?

What is his daily routine like? Is he very busy physically because a married man still masturbating....he can join a Taekwondo class to improve his self control.

After all has been said and done, the decision to stop has to come from him.
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Nobody: 7:21am On Oct 25, 2016
rheether:
Fvck him all the time.

Hmmmm, You people that bear the name Rita shaaaa.
Well, lemme just like first
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by holybabayo(m): 7:34am On Oct 25, 2016
If u can stop the porn, the masturbation will stop. now the big question is how do you stop the PORN. U have to fill the vacancy. There is something he wants and you have to give it to him. I don't know. Maybe it is the type of woman or the type of sex, maybe type of position, maybe type of aggression. But what you cannot do is to cease his phone. Maybe you should look at what is he looking at in the phone so as to know what he wants. Check his search engine to see what he likes to see. But be patient, there maybe ups and down along the way. But with time he will gradually stop. God be with you and blessings on your loving husband.

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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by DMLords: 8:25am On Oct 25, 2016
kokosari2:
Please what can I do, my husband seems to be addicted to porn and masturbation. He does it at every opportunity he has, even on our matrimonial bed and it's quite disgusting.
..

I know you must have gotten a ton of advice but here is one that will work.

first, recognize that this is your hubby. Not some guy you are with. It is for better, for worse. so it is better to make decisions that will bring the better and not the worse. (hope you understand)

Secondly, you should talk to him. Let him know that his behavior is disrespectful to you as his woman and it disgusts you. Don't be judgemental here. But truly acknowledge that the ease of access to porn will definitely be the reason for his act. blame something else not him

thirdly, ask him the real reason behind his actions. you may need to be wise in deciphering some hidden/untold reasons. Most times, people don't know why they act the way they do. But he may feel inadequate with you. He may feel his dongle is small for you. All these reasons are just in his head but they may push him to porn where of course the he owes the women no obligations..

Next, you nay want to start providing replacements fr porn and mastubation based on the reasons you have found. it may be as simple as verbal reinforcements or as complex as acting like a porn star once but you have got to give him reason to prefer the real thing over the digital one.

if he still continues, he clearly has no regard for you marriage. we will talk of that one later.

for now, try these. I know it seems much for a woman to do for a man but don't forget that in the day you said I do you became his mother as well. help him heal dear.

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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by toyeem(f): 9:15am On Oct 25, 2016
fumisko:
Wait. I don't even get u. Don't you touch your husband's dick and rub it as pre intimacy before making love? So what's the big deal? when u see him do it, be loving, tell him babe i am here and u dint even call me to me help u with that, Haba...and give him a sweet handjob. before u know it has moved into the real humping knacking of sex. No wonder there are so many married men cheating...women be more open or prostitutes who are outside would take care of your man...so u can't give ur man a Mouth Gig?...the bible said his body has become yours and yours his...so anything is accepted ma, even if you want to eat his shit...relax be open..have sex with him on the floor, in the kitchen, make it fun...even if you are fat and ugly and you spontaneous, he won't see that unattractive part, give him a hand job in the car on your way from an occasion one evening...or in the morning when he is going to work give him a Mouth Action...if he has a personal office at work...pay him a visit...lock the door tell him u where finking of him all day at work and need a 5 min quickie.
Be spontaneous
It's a shame Dt u r there n he is masturbating him self...Wat is your use...if his libido is high is one blowwjob per day too much to give the Man U claim to love if that's what makes him happy? Haba. He shldnt evn masturbate at all cus masturbation should be equal to u giving him a hand job.
My question is how do u even have sex with him because if his touching his dick is irritating u, I wonder then if u ever touch it as preintimacy or u suffer d poor guy
Christainity doesn't stop this Abeg all u over religious women
Safe your home please abeg
Be prayertizing what is not a problem. There are better things on God's table like hungry people n people with cancer
Better safe ur home before he starts visiting ashewo. Thank God he never start
Ur spontaneous acts shld b porn enuf Dt he won't evn remember it

Are you married? As a married woman and mother, you have a lot of things to do and think of. I don't think following a grown man with high libido around, sexing him, giving mouth or hand job at every slight opportunity just for him not to masturbate is one of it. Dear op, even if you have Sex 10 times in a day, a man dat will masturbate will still masturbate. Sit your husband down and have a heart-2-heart talk with him. Tell him how you feel when you see him in the act.

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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by Genesis2000(m): 9:55am On Oct 25, 2016
napa:
@ op, most guys and even some women do this and as such won't see it as a big deal. Talk calmly to your husband about it to know if there's anything you can do to help, probably increase your intimacy with h but if your sexual intimacy with him is on the high side and he still self services then he is addicted to sex and there's really nothing you can do. Just plead with him not to do it while you are around or beside him.

No.

I have been following her comments so far so good. I think the problem is from this woman. Koko or what does she called her name?

She is not doing her responsibilities well. No responsible man will masturbate while his wife is around. There is something she was not telling us here.

2 pls kindly ask her when does this man began this habit, was it before they got married or after their marriage?

This might gives you a very good picture of what am talking about.

Thank you.

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Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by aisammy4: 10:14am On Oct 25, 2016
thorpido:
Only him can make the decision to break the addiction.
He must be ready to delete porn from his phone and laptop.He should communicate his sexual needs with you and try to work together for a mutually beneficial satisfaction.

You should follow these advice.
1. He has to first decided to let go of it, then,
2. Delet anything that will remind of porn (video, films, etc),
3. He should stop immagining that he is having sex
4. and try to satisfy him when he make advances.

I bet you, it will work. But if you continue bullying him around and same time rejecting his advances, it will surely continue. Since you have sorted out for help, please follow these advices. It has worked before me.
Re: Help My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation by MizOmalicha(f): 10:27am On Oct 25, 2016
1.Keep him busy, they only do that when they are bored or jobless...
2.Also try 2watch one if his favourite porns and see what's done dere n try it with him, dat way he may let go off d pornography addiction since you're giving it 2him.
3.Try giving him a handjob at times, spice up ur sex life, give him a bj or handjob when he's watching tv or not xpecting it.. talk dirty 2him
4. Pray 4him and try bringing up d topic after a nice night sex..

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