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You Definitely Need This For Your Next Date by daviesblaze(m): 5:30pm On Oct 29, 2016 |
Knowing how to build rapport is
the basis to experience success
and fulfillment in life. And yet, it’s
amazing to realize how little
education and training we get
on a set of skills that can make
the difference in our lives
between happiness and
unhappiness.
In fact, without rapport there is
no one interested in the message
you want to communicate or the
service you want to provide.
Without rapport, there is little
chance to influence or to
persuade others.
Rapport building is at the root
of effective communication
Whether you are a salesperson, a
supervisor, a teacher or a parent,
knowing how to develop rapport
is key to your success
One powerful method is to
match and mirror the behavior
of the other
A few days ago, I went for dinner
at a very busy restaurant. While
waiting for my meal, I observed
the people at nearby tables. A
couple caught my attention, and
though I could not hear their
conversation, I could tell by the
language of their bodies that
they were moving in unison.
They had a great rapport and
were having a good time. There
was harmony in their
movements; it looked like an
effortless dance. They were
naturally matching and mirroring
each others. It was beautiful to
watch.
Being in unison is the result of
mirroring and matching, and
when we sit down with
someone we love, it comes
natural to us. Acquiring the skill
to do so also with people we
don’t necessary have to like, will
increase our capacity to create
rapport with the other. In other
words, matching and mirroring
is something we can learn to do
deliberately.
Matching and mirroring is the
skill of assuming someone
else’s style of behavior to
create rapport.
When you match and mirror, you
don’t only listen with your ears,
you listen with your entire body.
You are present to the other
person.
Let’s be clear, matching and
mirroring is not mimicry. To the
contrary, it’s about being in tune
with the other, by using your
observations about the other’s
behavior. Here are the four
things you need to do, to match
and mirror your interlocutor:
Body postures and gestures
What posture is the person you
are having a conversation with
assuming? What is he or she
doing with his or her arms and
hands? Is the person leaning
forward or backward? Observe,
and than match the posture and
gestures. If, for example, the
person is reserved in using the
hands, there is no point for you
to gesticulate frantically!
The rhythm of the breath
Pay attention to how the other
person is breathing, and then
match it. This technique helps
tremendously in bonding with
the other. If the person you are
having a conversation with is
breathing with her diaphragm, it
will not help building rapport if
you breath with your upper
chest. Instead, match your
interolocutor’s rhythm of breath.
The energy level
What is the energy level of your
interlocutor? Is he or she shy,
reserved or exuberant and
extroverted? If he or she, for
example, is timid, it might be
perceived as aggressive and
invasive if you are exuberant. If
your interlocutor uses few words
to express a concept, it does not
make your communication
effective if you are very wordy.
The tone of your voice
What is your interlocutor’s tone
of voice? Is he or she talking
softly, almost whispering? In that
case, to build rapport, you need
to mirror his or her tone of voice.
Being loud, in fact, will not help
establishing a bond with your
interlocutor. In addition, pay
attention at the speed of the
speech. Is your interlocutor
speaking slowly or fast?
Paying attention to these four
characteristics and mirroring
them when communicating with
others, helps you with rapport
building (By the way, I am
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Next time you sit down with
someone, practice matching and
mirroring by paying attention to
body posture, breath, energy
level and voice of your
interlocutors. At first, it might feel
awkward and artificial, but with
time it will become second
nature, and you will experience a
powerful improvement in the
effectiveness of your
communication |
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