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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by Omotayor123(f): 11:30am On Nov 23, 2016
glossy6:


Please who are you to judge me? I gave birth to 5 & 1 died. I adopted a boy, making 5 and am paying 3 other children's fees. So what more do you want of me?
Pls. Let me ask this... How can you be sure the surrogate Mother will have a Male Child

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by Nobody: 11:34am On Nov 23, 2016
glossy6:


Please who are you to judge me? I gave birth to 5 & 1 died. I adopted a boy, making 5 and am paying 3 other children's fees. So what more do you want of me?




Madam, follow your heart and do what u feel is applicable to your family. Only you know where it pinches. If u follow some mouths here, they will. Simply derail you and give u more headaches. So place a deaf ear, and choose the advice that works with your plans.. That's all.
Best of luck. smiley

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by Nobody: 11:44am On Nov 23, 2016
Omotayor123:

Pls. Let me ask this... How can you be sure the surrogate Mother will have a Male Child
She'll opt for gender selection which would cost more. The embryos would be tested for gender before being implanted.
A friend is currently going through same procedure after trying for 4yrs. She wants 2boys and 1girl (triplets).
I don't like the fact that any one is trying to blame the husband_ she is wearing the shoe, and knows where it hurts.

Personally, if I have just boys or girls without the other, I would go for IVF and select my preferred gender.
Not because I feel any sex is better than the other, but I want both_ there is beauty in variety smiley.

My SIL and BIL have 3/2boys respectively, they both want a girl...it isn't always boys people are looking for.

@armyofone, stop firing subtle shots (@swindlers in waiting), no be you give me breakfast today wink

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by glossy6(f): 12:46pm On Nov 23, 2016
thorpido:
I hope your hubby is the one paying for the cost of the procedure.He has four girls but still wants a boy that is his 'flesh and blood' as a typical........smh.

You'll find a surrogate mother if you visit the clinics suggested.

Nope! I will pay the bills but have my peace undecided

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by glossy6(f): 12:51pm On Nov 23, 2016
PaperLace:

She'll opt for gender selection which would cost more. The embryos would be tested for gender before being implanted.
A friend is currently going through same procedure after trying for 4yrs. She wants 2boys and 1girl (triplets).
I don't like the fact that any one is trying to blame the husband_ she is wearing the shoe, and knows where it hurts.

Personally, if I have just boys or girls without the other, I would go for IVF and select my preferred gender.
Not because I feel any sex is better than the other, but I want both_ there is beauty in variety smiley.

My SIL and BIL have 3/2boys respectively, they both want a girl...it isn't always boys people are looking for.


Exactly what I have in mind, sex selection and surrogacy.

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by thorpido(m): 3:41pm On Nov 23, 2016
glossy6:


Nope! I will pay the bills but have my peace undecided
Ji sike.

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by Nobody: 5:31pm On Nov 23, 2016
glossy6:


Exactly what I have in mind, sex selection and surrogacy.
It shall end in praise, sis. smiley

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by eyinjuege: 6:14pm On Nov 23, 2016
glossy6:


Exactly what I have in mind, sex selection and surrogacy.

Is your husband OK with surrogacy?

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by glossy6(f): 7:55pm On Nov 23, 2016
eyinjuege:

Is your husband OK with surrogacy?
He welcomed the idea.

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by baaliyah(m): 8:45pm On Nov 23, 2016
I know u are disturbed madam, how i wish ur husband realises one can not have it all in life.

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by glossy6(f): 7:31am On Nov 24, 2016
baaliyah:
I know u are disturbed madam, how i wish ur husband realises one can not have it all in life.

Somehow. The pressure to get pregnant has started building up & I need to find a way out of it. I have 4 beautiful girls that every family should desire to have. I mean well mannered children. I had a boy too but he died after spending much to keep him alive (35 weeks, 5 days gestation ). I adopted a son and am cool with him but this demand for "flesh & blood " is what I did not envisage as my biological children are not aware of my son's status. He remains my first son, even if God brings another son my way. He is my son and has same rights with others. My husband is proud of the 5 kids and adore the stubborn little boy (grin), really stubborn but I understand his desire and I can't blame him. He is human

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by glossy6(f): 7:33am On Nov 24, 2016
PaperLace:
It shall end in praise, sis. smiley
Amen
Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by PresVA: 8:09am On Nov 24, 2016
my only worry is how your adopted son will be treated when the "flesh and blood son" comes. ..

but I wish you success..

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by Abiagirl777(f): 8:21am On Nov 24, 2016
glossy6:


Amen

God's grace and may you find favor in what you see,I'm also happy you considered that your body needs to rest from childbirth.
Met a 41 Yr old woman on my last ANC visit who was visibly disturbed and without asking her she told me that day was one week she had an evacuation for a 40 WKs still birth,her unhappiness was that just 2days after the evacuation,hubby told her they'd start trying for another boy.meanwhile she has 2girls1 boy already, so she came secretly to choose a family planning method but alas the hospital says they need her bleeping husbands consent.
Ma'm Glossy you are a strong woman.

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by ElDeeVee(m): 8:32am On Nov 24, 2016
PresVA:

but I wish you a success..

Hello, how and where have you been
Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by PresVA: 10:37am On Nov 24, 2016
ElDeeVee:


Hello, how and where have you been
Hi .. I'm good.. been around though not as before..

thanks for checking. . smiley

how are you too?
Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by dapsonlou(m): 10:59am On Nov 24, 2016
armyofone:
4 children already and you are looking for more ? Who Does that?
I think you ain't saying the truth.
Donate the extra money to charity. Sponsor someone's education etc

No one is catching the story. SHe's got 4 daughters, the 5th child a boy died. She adopted a boy, but the husband is not interested in the adopted child and want his own BLOOD. Ivf can choose the Sex of the baby so all they need is a surrogate to carry the new heir. I don't think IVF clinic allow u to meet your surrogate, so they want to choose their own to make sure the baby is a fine boy. Wala

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by Headmistress(f): 1:57pm On Nov 24, 2016
glossy6:


Amen
Irony of life. Some dont want it but they keep getting it, some want it, but they cant have it. I sent you a pm because I have something to tell you. please reply my pm. Or you can reach me on Adachukwu14@gmail.com.
Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by ElDeeVee(m): 3:27pm On Nov 24, 2016
PresVA:
Hi .. I'm good.. been around though not as before..

thanks for checking. . smiley

how are you too?

Very well too. You back to work

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by PresVA: 4:28pm On Nov 24, 2016
ElDeeVee:


Very well too. You back to work
nah but in about one week sad
Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by thorpido(m): 4:30pm On Nov 24, 2016
PresVA:
Hi .. I'm good.. been around though not as before..

thanks for checking. . smiley

how are you too?
Checking on you too.How are you?

Have you dropped?
Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by thorpido(m): 4:34pm On Nov 24, 2016
dapsonlou:


No one is catching the story. SHe's got 4 daughters, the 5th child a boy died. She adopted a boy, but the husband is not interested in the adopted child and want his own BLOOD. Ivf can choose the Sex of the baby so all they need is a surrogate to carry the new heir. I don't think IVF clinic allow u to meet your surrogate, so they want to choose their own to make sure the baby is a fine boy. Wala
The baby will look like the parents.It has nothing to do with the looks of the surrogate.

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by PresVA: 4:51pm On Nov 24, 2016
thorpido:
Checking on you too.How are you?

Have you dropped?
I'm fine doc.. thanks smiley

yeah..my LO don reach 8 weeks cheesy
Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by thorpido(m): 4:58pm On Nov 24, 2016
PresVA:
I'm fine doc.. thanks smiley

yeah..my LO don reach 8 weeks cheesy
Ah, congrats. cheesy

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by PresVA: 5:06pm On Nov 24, 2016
thorpido:
Ah, congrats. cheesy
Thanks a lot smiley
Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by glossy6(f): 6:25pm On Nov 24, 2016
Abiagirl777:


God's grace and may you find favor in what you see,I'm also happy you considered that your body needs to rest from childbirth.
Met a 41 Yr old woman on my last ANC visit who was visibly disturbed and without asking her she told me that day was one week she had an evacuation for a 40 WKs still birth,her unhappiness was that just 2days after the evacuation,hubby told her they'd start trying for another boy.meanwhile she has 2girls1 boy already, so she came secretly to choose a family planning method but alas the hospital says they need her bleeping husbands consent.
Ma'm Glossy you are a strong woman.


Thanks for the compliment and Amen to your prayers

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by GodnGold: 7:27pm On Nov 24, 2016
FDR,Government hospitals do not need your husband's consent for you to undergo family planning whateverish.

They don't!

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by dapsonlou(m): 11:12pm On Nov 24, 2016
thorpido:
The baby will look like the parents.It has nothing to do with the looks of the surrogate.

She's old she's not using her eggs
Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by cococandy(f): 9:50am On Nov 25, 2016
Abiagirl777:


God's grace and may you find favor in what you see,I'm also happy you considered that your body needs to rest from childbirth.
Met a 41 Yr old woman on my last ANC visit who was visibly disturbed and without asking her she told me that day was one week she had an evacuation for a 40 WKs still birth,her unhappiness was that just 2days after the evacuation,hubby told her they'd start trying for another boy.meanwhile she has 2girls1 boy already, so she came secretly to choose a family planning method but alas the hospital says they need her bleeping husbands consent.
Ma'm Glossy you are a strong woman.

WTF?

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by glossy6(f): 4:35pm On Nov 25, 2016
dapsonlou:


She's old she's not using her eggs

Am I meant to be angered by your sneering at me or what? Well, my mates are still bearing children fyi.

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Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by porshuch: 5:55pm On Nov 25, 2016
plavic:
Pls adopt if you can. There are a lot of surrogate children and babies out there looking for natural mothers.
surrogate doesn't mean the baby is from her eggs, it means she Will carry another woman's fertilized eggs, not her own.
Re: A Surrogate Mother Needed by Xano(m): 5:56pm On Nov 25, 2016
glossy6:


Thanks for your advice. I adopted a boy about 2 years ago after I lost the only baby boy I had but my hubby wants his "flesh & blood " and am not too keen about getting pregnant again after 5 kids (including my adopted son) I am willing to adopt another son but he remains adamant, that's the reason for the quest for a surrogate mum. At least to help carry the fertilized egg to term.

Interesting

I understand your situation, but enquire through appropriate channels(clinics). This is a very sensitive endeavour. All the best

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